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writes: I've been with my fiance for 2 years now. I love her dearly but the love and affection doesn't seem to be returned. She is very spiritual and her life revolves around being a spiritualist. She would rather read a book than talk about her problems.When I do get her to talk she says her head is messed up and she doesn't know what she wants. She says she loves me but is starting to think of me as more of a friend than fiance but she is still making plans for what we'll be doing in the future. Im very confused and don't know what to do. I want to work things out if possible and save the relationship. How can I go about at least trying?
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reader, pops +, writes (24 October 2005):
Engagements are intended for people to practice being a couple, making a commitment so that they can focus on each other and the relationship they hope to build. Yours is not working out. Its obvious that she is not interested in a marriage, or making your happy. She keeps shutting you out. It doesn't matter whose fault that is. End it. YOu will find someone else to love and who will truly love you back.
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reader, helpfull girl +, writes (24 October 2005):
lets ee you could suprise her with a fancy meal flowers e.g. it works with me! sex isnt a way to show some one you love them the way to show them is being there/trust/honesty if your doing all the right things then i am sorry to say but maybe it is friends she wants to be there for it would be best to walk away! if you couldnt hack being friends then dont be friends cut all contact off all together! i think the reason why she is makeing plans for the future is shes kind of hopeing it will make her feel like she loves you&does want to be with you in the future but that doesnt work!
why not say to her look short&simple do you still want&love me if not i walk away now for good! be straight with her and your get a straight answer! theres no way in repairing a ralationship if the other half isnt going to try as well you cant do mend a ralationship on your own! when its over&the signs are there then IT REALLY IS OVER! before deciding anything go with meals flowers anything romantic first see how that makes her feel!
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