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My "workaholic" boyfriend has time for his mates, but not for me!

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Question - (25 October 2005) 3 Answers - (Newest, 7 August 2008)
A female , *rokenhearted writes:

My bf and i got back together on Fri after a two month on-off-on-off period. I told him to think about it for a week, to make sure it's what he wants. I know he loves me but he's crazy busy working and studying and has hardly any time for me. This upsets me and he says he doesn't want me to be unhappy all my life but that he doesn't think he can change and he'll always be a workaholic!

The thing is I'm only after finding out that he's arranged to go out with his friend tomorrow night. He's mad busy at work and can't go but then arranged to go out Thursday night instead!

He will never arrange to go out with me! Am I being a fool loving him? Does he not understand? What should I do?

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A female reader, Melody06 United States +, writes (7 August 2008):

I truly understand your pain...my bf is the same way he is a workaholic but I feel if a family member has something plan he will drop everything but if it's me it becomes a problem or he can not promise me anything...we have been together for a year and ask him about taking a short trip but it is always delayed but his auntie ask him the same thing but he is considering it.

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A male reader, LucidCupid +, writes (26 October 2005):

For a relationship to work and survive it has to be the PRIORITY in the lives of both partners.Everything else has to be slotted in around it.Love is about commitment,and he is not committed to you-you both have different priorities at this stage of your lives.There is a good quote about love that goes:True love does not consist of gazing at each other but of looking outward together in the same direction.Be friends with him,but you will never work as lovers,your on-off relationship proves that.

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A reader, pops +, writes (26 October 2005):

He is a very self centered man. Drop him as fast as you can. He will never have time for you. He may not even know how to love a woman, or anyone for that matter. YOu are only going to be disappointed if you continue to see him.

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