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writes: I feel that my girlfriend and I are drifting apart. We are in college and live in the same apartment complex. She has a lot going on right now and we dont seem to see each other very much, especially romantically. I feel that we are more like friends now than bf/gf because we havent had sex in over a month and she doesnt ever kiss me, its always me kissing her. Even with no sex I cant even remember when we shared a kiss that was more than just 2 seconds long! I really love this girl with all my heart and honestly would love to marry her one day. She is the most amazing person I have ever known and I really dont want to lose her over our inability to be romantic with each other. Another problem is that she is not very open with the topic of sex. I still feel awkard talking about sex with her and I think that she still feels the same. I have talked to her about this too, like a week ago, and nothing changed. I was very vocal about this and told her that I think we should be doing these things. Her reply was that she feels like all her friends are drifiting away, so she only seems to go out with them on the weekends to the bars, which I cannot go to because I am not 21 yet. I try to be spontaneous with things, like last week I was going to surprise her by taking her to a local cave for a tour but she said that she didn't have time. When we first started dating she was all over me and wanted to be around me all the time (and I know that all relationships are like this in the beginning) but now it's dead. I feel like at any moment she will break up with me but she insists that it isn't like that. I know I just asked a lot of questions, help please!!!!
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reader, brokenhearted +, writes (19 October 2005):
Starting college is a particularly difficult time for anyone especially when it involves being away from friends that she was so close too.
Try and understand her need not to lose touch with her friends, maybe just let her be for a while, let her get her head sorted out.
I don't think its a good idea to be discussing sex with here as she might feel pressurised and this may be causing her to back away more.
Girls are very complicated creatures, just make sure she knows where you are and that you love her and that you'll be there if she needs to talk.
Don't worry.
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