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Archived questions from: January, 2014 (see latest in Health category)

Health: Help and advice

After premature ejaculation with sex workers, I'm worried I wouldn't be able to satisfy a future girlfriend

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3973 days ago

31 January 2014 (M) - I have never been in a romantic relationship with a woman due to the fact that I tend to be painfully she around women in general. I can only attribute this to the fact that I suffer from a learning disability which has greatly impeded my social ...

Can't support my boyfriend through his illness because too many others want to visit him as well!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3979 days ago

31 January 2014 (F) - I think more than advice I need to put my thoughts into words. My boyfriend was about to commit suicide three weeks ago. He lives with some friends, and as someone is always in the house his friend was with him, noticed he wasn't doing well, and ...

How normal is anxiety in relationships?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3984 days ago

29 January 2014 (F) - I'm worried that my anxiety isn't the 'normal' everyday anxiety. This is because when it comes to relationships, I freak very easily, for example, I've seen this guy twice so far and tonight he wants to go out again. I'm currently feeling very sic...

How can I overcome my shyness so I can start initiating contact with women?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3986 days ago

29 January 2014 (M) - Hi, a bit of a lengthy question here. So I am a 22 year old male with 1 year left of college and I have never dated or even kissed a girl. I hadn't really started to think about this until recently, after seeing a number of my friends getting into ...

My parents sic evangelists and drug testers on me while I'm at college

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3987 days ago

28 January 2014 (F) - So I went to college for a year and that didn't work out - I couldn't get myself out of bed to go to class, I really wasn't partying much (I went to about four parties the entire year and at all four I blacked out drunk and made an ass of myself and ...

I had never seen him in a fight before, and I can't handle it because of my past!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3986 days ago

28 January 2014 (F) - I have suffered from depression and anxiety since I was a teenager, and I'm now 21. I have had therapy and medication for the past four years, with a little success. When I explained it all to my now ex boyfriend, I thought he understood my mental ...

I think I have a phobia against vomit?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3987 days ago

27 January 2014 (F) - This weekend me and my boyfriend went to a party and stayed in a hotel. He had quite a bit to drink and as a result of this, threw it all back up when we got back to our room. ( I know this information isn't lovely but there is a point ) I think I ...

How do I get over worrying that my boyfriend will be checking out the mini-skirted barmaids?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3989 days ago

26 January 2014 (F) - Ok i'll make this short and sweet!! I'm 23 (ok 24 tomorrow) my boyfriend is 28. I am over-weight and very insecure with low self-esteem....I have PCOS (which has made me struggle alot with my weight and I am constantly trying to loose weight) ...

Can't sleep after giving up medication. Please help?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3991 days ago

24 January 2014 (F) - I really need some help. For those of you who do not know last year in the summer I was diagnosed with Bipolar. Its a really difficult illness to live with and I can't say a day ...

I dyed my hair and now look so different! Is this possible?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3991 days ago

24 January 2014 (F) - Simple question really, I've had long dark hair all my life and never had comments like this once I dyed it lighter. I'm tanned, but I'd say my skin is more olive due to being mixed race and I have brown eyes. My hair reaches just under my breasts...

What can I do to finally meet my valentine after eleven years of no dating?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3991 days ago

23 January 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid ,I really want a valentine I haven"t been in a relationship for 11 years now my kids are grown and my son is about to graduate and is going off to a higher education I can't really get out cause I am a caregiver for my mom who is an ...

Is his contact with the girl from the AA meetings violating their open relationship rules?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3991 days ago

23 January 2014 (F) - Ok- I am posting for my best friend because it is an issue she is struggling with and came to me for help/to talk. I'm not sure exactly what to tell her. She is engaged and living with her fiance. They are in an open relationship and have been to...

Penises freak me out!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3992 days ago

23 January 2014 (F) - Ok I'll cut straight to it; penis' freak me out! My boyfriend and I were doing some..."fun stuff" and I went to give him oral and...well once it was in my mouth I completely freaked out to the point where i cried (not while I was still down there, ...

My husband told me he doesn't find my body attractive! What now?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 3991 days ago

23 January 2014 (F) - *Sorry if it is lengthy** I am in desperate need of advice. To be blunt to start out with, my husband reluctantly told me that he doesn’t find my body to be attractive. I am 24 years old, about to turn 25 next month. My husband is 28 going to...

I'm pregnant and husband is up all night playing games and not letting me get my sleep!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3991 days ago

23 January 2014 (F) - Dear Aunties/Uncles, I'm hoping you can help me sort through my feelings and figure out what to do, I feel like he can't understand what I'm going through. My husband and I are avid gamers, it's one of the things that brought us together when we...

How do I leave my violent husband?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3991 days ago

23 January 2014 (F) - I have been with my husband for 8 years and we have 4 young children together. My husband has always had a bad temper and drinks excessively, but both have gotten worse over the years. He screams and swears at me at least once a day for something ...

Is he getting addicted to porn? How much porn is too much porn?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3992 days ago

22 January 2014 (F) - My boyfriend watches porn everyday while I'm at work. Didn't mind at first but I'm starting to worry that it might affect him eventually. He is off work from 1pm to 6pm everyday. I know sometimes it's boredom and sometimes it's stress relief. He ...

Her training to fight makes me feel insecure.

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 3993 days ago

22 January 2014 (M) - I'm in a fairly new relationship with a woman I adore. Our courtship lasted a bit long but we didn't want to get into a relationship just after a few weeks of admitting we liked each other. After a little over a year, we became happily official. T...

First time sex and I didn't bleed... should I see my gyno?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3968 days ago

22 January 2014 (F) - Please i need an explanation i just had sex with my fiance for the first time,and he knows i am a virgin but the problem now is i didn't bleed at all just excruciating pains...please i don't know if that is normal or should i see the gynocologist ...

He just can't orgasm through a hand or blow job, why?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3994 days ago

21 January 2014 (F) - My boyfriend takes a very long time (or not at all) to have an orgasm through a hand job or a blow job. It's like he gets so close but just can't seem to tip over the edge. He has guided me, told me what he likes but it is as if he is desensitized ...

This habit is killing me from the inside!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3993 days ago

20 January 2014 (M) - hello .. i am 21 and a virgin... my problem is that though i do gymming and practice yoga at times .. i have a bad habit of masturbating on every alternating days. i don't have any girlfriend . i watch too much of porn and i can't stop myself from ...

Any tips to look pretty?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3963 days ago

20 January 2014 (F) - just looking for a bit of advice, I don't wear makeup on a daily basis, i.e just popping the shops ect, I like to give my skin a rest to avoid spots ect. if meeting friends during the day or popping along to the pub I will wear some makeup, a ...

I stood him up twice due to anxiety and now I don't know how to fix things

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3995 days ago

19 January 2014 (F) - I was supposed to go on a date with this absolutely amazing guy and I told him I couldn't make it... This was only because I suffer from anxiety issues and the thought of going on a dare with him prettified me. I know I'm always ok once I'm on the ...

Tired of my boyfriend's crap!

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 3995 days ago

19 January 2014 (F) - Not sure where else to post this but hoping for some advice. My boyfriend, who is 34, and I have been living together for 3 years and I have asked him to clean up after himself in the bathroom many times. Specifically, he sits on the toilet in su...

He has left me dangling and my life is on hold.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3981 days ago

18 January 2014 (F) - My boyfriend and I split up three weeks ago he has serious mental health issues and said he cant sustain a relationship as he coudnt think straight . He said he was going to get help and in the meantime has seen me three or four times and says he ...

How do I let him know his behaviour is not acceptable?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3991 days ago

18 January 2014 (F) - Hi guys. I'll try to be as brief as possible because this is complicated. So, I met my current guy two years ago through a mutual friend and very quickly we became inseparable. He was the best boyfriend I ever had, beautiful, romantic, and totally ...

Threats, fighting, verbal and mental abuse. Is he about to break up? What should I do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3996 days ago

18 January 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid yesterday i had a huge fight with my bf of 4 years, lately he is ignoring me, verbally and mentally abusing me all the time. Its getting difficult even to have a decent conversation with him on anything. Yesterday we had a huge f...

I can't deal with the poop streaks he leaves on the bed!

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 3996 days ago

17 January 2014 (F) - This is a gross question but I really need advice. Sorry to be graphic. Basically Ive been seeing this guy for 3 months and on 3 occasions when he has stayed over at mine he has left poop streaks in my bed. He did it lastnight and I felt sick. He is ...

How do I stop these desires?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3998 days ago

17 January 2014 (F) - After weeks of self help books reminding me I'm a strong independent woman and I'm beautiful and I don't need a man (which is all entirely true!!) I would normally take these 6 months in my early twenties to love being single with no attention ...

No more Mr. Nice Guy! Does anyone relate?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3998 days ago

17 January 2014 (F) - I am really struggling with the loss of a long term relationship and I'm just not sure how to cope with the feelings that I have inside. I'm hoping maybe some aunts/uncles on here can relate? I am a very gentle, sensitive person. I try my hardest...

He's not physically violent but he is abusive, is there anything I can do or should I walk away?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3996 days ago

16 January 2014 (F) - I have just joined this site, though I asked a question anonymously earlier before joining. After reading the reply I got I was wondering if anyone has any advice on abusive relationships? Its not a physically violent relationship but my husband has ...

I hate feeling like a hypocrite and a loser! Any insight is appreciated!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3998 days ago

16 January 2014 (F) - I'm 25, and my boyfriend is 25 too. We've been dating for a couple months now, so it's still a "new" relationship. everything's great, except from time to time, I feel insecure because he was really promiscuous in the past (ie. up until right before ...

A hypothetical! What would a guy think about something like this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3998 days ago

16 January 2014 (F) - This is a question for guys. Lets say a not so attractive girl tried to invite herself along for lunch,stammered and then in the end couldn't do it.Would you feel angry,irritated or wonder "how dare she tried to invite herself along" if you are in t...

Is there any way to learn to separate myself from her bad days in a healthy manner? One where I'm not abandoning her yet I'm still looking out for me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4000 days ago

15 January 2014 (F) - I don't always know how to deal with my girlfriends depression. Some days, she's really happy and easy to be around, while other days, she gets in this deep depression and I don't know how to deal with it. She's on antidepressants ...

Why can't men treat a good woman right, be faithful and stop that wondering eye?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4000 days ago

15 January 2014 (F) - I am a 49 year old woman married 25 years and two children. I married my high school sweetheart, who was a flirt... He cheated on me 17 years ago, and last year... I don't know about all the other years, but I have doubts. He will never admit that ...

I was thinking once I find work and I am happy with my life that I could perhaps try again with him.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4000 days ago

15 January 2014 (F) - Hi My boyfriend has just ended our 4 month relationship on the basis that we don’t click. At the beginning of the relationship, things were great. We were close, we enjoyed spending time together, we had fun and we would talk all the time. ...

I need tips to look my best when meeting his work colleagues!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3999 days ago

15 January 2014 (F) - hi, im just looking for some help if any of you can provide please. my new husband works away a lot, he comes home in 2 weeks and the week after that we are going to a fancy charity evening set up by his work. not I know I don't have to dre...

I just need to know that what I'm asking him to do isn't selfish...but an act of a mother who needs to protect her child from these trashy people!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4000 days ago

14 January 2014 (F) - There was a time in my marriage when it was really dark...I didn't know how to get back to the beautiful that we had. And although that may sound completely dramatic...it's the truth. My husband's family is horrible...the most self-centered people I ...

I am ADDICTED to HIM!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4001 days ago

14 January 2014 (F) - When i say addictive i mean addicted to HIM! We had been together on and off for two years, and the relationship that we had was far from a healthy loving stable relationship. Although there were very good moments in the relationship the bad ...

My weight gain has put him off sex!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4001 days ago

13 January 2014 (F) - Hi, I've been seeing my bf for the last 3.5 years, but our sex life has been non existent for the last 2.5 years. I have had lots of reasons why which I always doubted but because we do love each other and get along so well that I accepted that we ...

Lately I haven't felt connected to anyone or anything

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4000 days ago

13 January 2014 (F) - I am a 24 year old woman living in my state capital working as an AmeriCorps*VISTA. I have no health insurance, no money, and no close family except an aging set of grandparents who live in my hometown, about an hour away. In October (3 months ago), ...

I need to become more assertive without losing my job or alienating people

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4002 days ago

12 January 2014 (F) - This is going to seem like a great big grumble..I suppose it is but any advice would be greatly appreciated. Basically, I'm fed up with everything. I'm fed up with my job. I'm a healthcare worker and deal with different people with different health ...

My mother and I cannot afford health insurance and we're losing hope

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4001 days ago

12 January 2014 (F) - Hi everyone, this is not a relationship issue but rather an issue within myself. I'm 19, going to school full time and work a part time retail job. I live with just my mom and a few wonderful animals. We are really, really broke to the point where ...

Five months later and I still care about my ex!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4003 days ago

12 January 2014 (F) - My boyfriend of 8 months broke up with me 5 months ago. He said "we are comfortable but it doesnt mean it's gonna go anywhere." He said he has been thinking about it for a few weeks and I was getting obsessed with the relationship. I don't feel sad ...

My boyfriend called me a 'beached whale'.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4002 days ago

12 January 2014 (F) - My fiance referred to me as a "beached whale" during sex (in the context of a conversation while not having sex). I'm usually on bottom for a few reasons. He can barely stay hard when I'm on top (not sure why), neither of us can really reach orgasm ...

Self-esteem has gone! Need some help changing myself and regaining it.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4004 days ago

11 January 2014 (F) - I am at my lowest and I need help. I am a 16 year old girl and in about 15 days I will be 17, I have only ever had two serious relationships and the second one was months and months ago. For the last...

How can I motivate my obese mother to look after herself?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4005 days ago

10 January 2014 (F) - I could use your help. I'm very worried about my 65 year old mother and her weight. She has always been overweight but she has recently retired and is rapidly putting on more weight. She is probably about 8 stone overweight. I live abroad and j...

I'm very pessimistic when it comes to lasting love?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4006 days ago

9 January 2014 (F) - Like many people, I always dream about having a love that lasts years and years. My parents divorced when I was about 4 years old (my mom was the one who asked for it) and I saw all the awful effects it had on them; my father became an alcoholic and ...

What are some free or available and affordable mental health resources I can use and access in the UK? (just the UK only please) I need help please

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4005 days ago

9 January 2014 (F) - I live in London and I desperately need mental health rehab, as in, to go somewhere and check myself in where I can get 24hr care. Such as for a few weeks. I know that there are private places like this available but are extremely costly. Does any...

Can you help? What are some natural ways to overcome premature ejaculation?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4005 days ago

9 January 2014 (M) - I am 24 male and suffering the problem of early premature ejaculation because I did masterbate for several years. Can you kindly suggest some natural measures that will help me overcome my premature ejaculation?...