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*uscle and Sinew
writes:There was a time in my marriage when it was really dark...I didn't know how to get back to the beautiful that we had. And although that may sound completely dramatic...it's the truth. My husband's family is horrible...the most self-centered people I have ever met. No morals or values...talked to me like trash..."you have small tits" would be a comment my MIL would make (even when we were dating)...when my husband and I just got married...my MILs ex husband touched me inappropriately, right in front of my husband...he did nothing...his step dad was drunk, as well as my MIL. So this event has really taken a toll on me even more now that I have a baby...I don't want this SOB near my son or myself. I didn't want him even to have pictures of him!! Since my husbands real dad left when e was little this bastard somewhat took the roll...just by being married to his mom...this jerk would abuse my husbands mom...choke her, hit her, push her into walls...cheat on her...just completely horrible...yet my husband would never do anything about it...I talk to my husband about why its a good idea to let him go...he isn't a good person...why would you want him involved in our sons life...he decided to live with another woman once my MIL divorced him (who need having an affair with someone half her age). So he chose his path...he has a new family...and on top of that...my husbands step brother would text me inappropriate things...like hinting if I would sleep with him...I told my husband...it didn't bother him...the next day he wanted to invite him to christmas brunch...his response is "I just pretend like none of this ever happen".... I feel like I'm looked like as if I am trash to him and his family. I want respect. I just need advice. I need to know that what I'm asking him to do isn't selfish...but an act of a mother who needs to protect her child from these trashy people!
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reader, Muscle and Sinew +, writes (15 January 2014):
Muscle and Sinew is verified as being by the original poster of the question @CMMP: since my husband grew up without a father...this man is the only "father figure" he had. I can't say "don't talk to him" or "don't see him"...I'm not that kind of person...I just don't want our son and I to have have ties with him. I don't want him to have pictures of us (my son and I)....the thing is that my mother in law has no idea what happened...they were married at the time...and she was there, but drunk. So brining it up to her, idk what difference it would make...but I feel like she needs to know, because she still talks to him...prob sends him pictures...though I do think that my husband should be the one...I just wish he would let go of him. He's a bad person. Thank you for your advice!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (15 January 2014):
Family is complicated... Your husband is probably so used to his bad behavior that he's numb to it. Confronting his step dad would be pointless, so in some sense being angry at him would be do. But I don't understand why he wouldn't just write him off completely.
My dad has an asshole side of his personality that I'm totally used to but it drives my wife crazy sometimes. Although the difference between my dad and your husband's step dad is huge. My dad isn't abusive/inappropriate/etc.
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reader, Muscle and Sinew +, writes (15 January 2014):
Muscle and Sinew is verified as being by the original poster of the question@CCMP, his step dad isn't allowed near my son and I...not allowed to come over...if his mom comes over, she's well behaved. Where my son goes, I go. I don't trust them around my son. I just have a problem with his step dad...I can't seem to make my husband understand that this man isn't a good person. That what he would do to his mom, was wrong, as well as touching my inappropriately (he kept touching my bra straps, touching my clavicle, shoulders, neck...) wouldn't most men be pissed off at any man touching their wife like that? Or any guy texting your wife dirt things...insinuating an affair?!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (15 January 2014):
From what you're saying I would feel confident telling my significant other that I will never go to their house again and if they want to meet they can do it at your house once in a great while.
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