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Archived questions from: October, 2009 (see latest in Forbidden love category)

Forbidden love: Help and advice

I'm truly in love with my cousin!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4288 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - well there's so much to say i dont really know where to start. from the very beginning will make most sense. i've known my cousin Adrian ever since i was born. he's a year oler than me and we've always been very close. we told eachother everything, ...

Should I leave my wife and live with her sister?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4932 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - I've been married for three years to who I thought was the woman of my dreams. Over the three years our sex life has declined to non-existant. I've tried talking to her about it but she just says that she doesn't feel like sex anymore. I've told her ...

Am I just bored and single or do I like him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5502 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - HELP! ok theres this guy i think i like im not sure if i like him because im bored and single right now... but i knew him for a veryy long time and i was attracted to him when we were younger but the feelings disappeared recently the feelings came ...

Do you think my driving instructor likes me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5502 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - i think my driving insructor fancies me and told me he loved me by text. he is a joker and a few of my mates go to him. he slaps my leg when he gives me orders but also does this to my freinds. when he texts me about my driving lessons he sends me...

Is my teacher interested?

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 5484 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - should i tell my teacher i love him? he always flirts with me and hes not the flirting type at allll hes alil nerdy he makes comments like 1 day i was whislting in class and he said theres a bird in the class and someone said its hunting season a...

I have a big crush on my boss.. Help Me Please!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5502 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - I'm 25 years old and i just started a new job not too long ago, i have a huge crush on my boss and i dont know what i should do about it. we talk very friendly at work and get along great. he even bought me coffee one morning when i was coming into ...

We had an affair together and he ended it. Why is he still calling?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5503 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - Please can I havw advice on how is is acting, should I give up on him. Met a guy, liked him, he got married, we then had affair for many years, he kept promising to leave the wife etc. He said he would get a place for us never did, was still li...

Did I do the right thing by calling my ex back?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5503 days ago

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Should I clear the air with him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5504 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - I'm very confused why I can't stop thinking about him. We are both married with children. My spouse could not be more perfect for me. We are both so alike in so many ways. The "spark" left our relationship once our first child was born. We go months ...

My teacher is on my mind literally 24/7. Help me get over this!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5503 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - Ok, this is going to be kind of long but I NEED HELP!!!!!!!!!! Hear it goes... I am 15 years old I am totally in love with my business studies teacher since year 8 and I think I’m getting to the point of obsession. I know a lot about him and...

I can't stop thinking about my mom sexually

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5504 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - My parents got divorced 13 years ago, and so i was forced to live at my mums during the week and my dads at the weekends. About 8 years ago, i needed to get a glass from the cupboard, but my mum was standing on the worktop in the way cleaning the ...

Will he try to contact me again, out of the blue?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5504 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - I have just ended a affair with a guy of 4 years and its over. I am ok with it wish him dead just joking.. What do I do if this sob decides to try and play me again and contacts me out of the blue. It has happened before and I wonder if it will ...

Involved with married man. Where do I go from here?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5483 days ago

25 October 2009 (F) - hello, i'am 22 years old and i am breaking over this situation. 3 years ago i got involved with a married man 14 years older than me @ one of my previous jobs. everything just started, we both knew it was not right. I kept on because i liked him and ...

I want to know how people feel about dating your cousin's cousin.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5503 days ago

25 October 2009 (F) - Hello I'm a fourteen year old girl and I want to know how people feel about dating your cousins cousin. I'm currently dating my moms sisters husbands brothers son and I'm really starting to fall for him. I know there's no blood relation but is it ...

Is my professor interested in me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5506 days ago

25 October 2009 (F) - So I'm pretty sure that my professor is interested in me, but he doesn't want to make moves because like any professor with an once of brains, they realize the consequences if their passes are rejected. However, I'm completely interested and I...

His parents call me a predator!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

24 October 2009 (F) - Hi all ty for reading this and please your comments will be so welcome.. I met this guy will be 2 years soon .. We were instant friends and started off talking every day it was crazy how natural it was and innocent. He loves with his parents who I ...

My cousin and I are in love!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - ok i dont know where or who to turn to! ive done some research online and i kept getting similar questions on this sight! here's my problem....im 23 and my cousin is 28 we are very close we talk about everything....infact we even told each other how ...

How can I keep from being jealous of my married lovers flirting with other women?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - I fear I have lost my married lover due to one jealous outburst in a year. I have always maintained complete discretion but last night I found myself angered by him talking openly with other women at a bar when I don't feel that I can even look at ...

Do you think they are into polygamy with me as a potential second?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - A little over a month ago I started working at a new job. I was familiar with 2 - 3 of the managers because I had friends who worked at the same place, but I didn't know them by name and wasn't friends with them. When I started working one of the m...

Are my boyfriend's reactions to the abuse he suffered normal?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - hi please can anyone tell me if my bf`s behaviour is normal? hes lied so much im startin to wonder what to think. i met him in 07 when he was 34. he told me that between the ages of 12 to 15 he had been sexually abused by his stepfather. the abuse ...

Aries male crazy over a Saggittarius girl. Need Help!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

23 October 2009 (M) - Classic Aries male in his 30's and I have a professional relationship with a classic Saggittarius female who's been driving me crazy. This girl could possibly be put on earth to be my soulmate. I love everything about her. Now the problem is two ...

I had an erotic dream about my teacher!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

22 October 2009 (F) - I had a dream last night.. and I was having sex with my teacher!! It was my 9th grade ELA teacher, we are very good friends and we perform at musical events often. But the strange thing is I could feel what was happening, like I could feel what he ...

I'm married to someone else but he said he'd wait. Should I trust him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5509 days ago

22 October 2009 (F) - I have met a most wonderful guy, only thing he lives 2hrs away from where I live, so I dont get to see as we would like.The first two week of our relationship, we email and text contantly. One weekend he got a email from his EX, which upset him and ...

I like my sister in law in a sexual way! Please help!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5476 days ago

22 October 2009 (M) - this is about my sister in law. we are quite friendly. we used to talk many things and are free to talk anything. first place i love her as my sister and i have respect for her. she is elder to my wife and me. many times i saw that she kind of expos...

I feel responsible for my cousin becoming a whore!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

22 October 2009 (M) - Ok when I was 9 years old I had sex with my cousin... twice. It was her idea to do it but I was curious so of course I didn't say no. I think she was 8 at the time. Of course being 9 It's not like it made me feel good or anything, I didn't get a ...

I know I can't have him so what do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5509 days ago

21 October 2009 (F) - Yesterday I got word from a friend that that this guy in my school asked out this girl two years younger than him. I suddenly felt really uncomfortable, and sick, and, well, jealous. I realized that I probably liked that guy as more than a frie...

How do I break it to my boyfriend that I'm in love with my best friend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5509 days ago

21 October 2009 (F) - How do I break it to my boyfriend that I am in love with my best (guy) friend? Background info: I met my boyfriend and best friend around the same time (2005-2006ish). I met my boyfriend on vacation in another country. I have family who live ...

We like to do it in unusual places, is there something wrong with that?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

21 October 2009 (F) - My lover and I are into finding unusual places to be together. We like the risk, but are not all out into public displays. For example, the other night we met in a neighborhood park (it was empty, dark and away from homes, but at the same time it ...

How can I spend time with her in my own home before I leave for active duty?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5509 days ago

21 October 2009 (M) - I am 18 years old and enlisted in the United States Airforce. I have a girlfriend well ex now girlfriend who is 16 years old. I have been dating her since i was 14 years old and I lost my virginity to this girl. My first true love and basically only ...

Can any males or male teachers tell me what you think?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

21 October 2009 (F) - Okay guys, tell me what you think There is this awesome male teacher that used to be my band director in 6-8 grade, but now he is my freshman ELA teacher. We go to church together, and (i play the flute and he plays pretty much everything) perf...

Shouldn't we live life with the person we love?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5509 days ago

21 October 2009 (M) - In love with a woman I've known for almost 20 years. We've always been close, always best friends, always felt a special connection. Over the years we've loved each other strongly and consistently, but our timing for a relationship has never worked ...

Feelings for my husband's brother but not an affair...

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5481 days ago

20 October 2009 (F) - Hi, I don't really know what to say.. A bit of background on this situation. My husband (married for 2 and a half years) and I met in Hawaii in 06 and he immediately fell in love with me. I didn't have feelings for him for about a year. His br...

My wife is in love with another woman. What now?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5141 days ago

20 October 2009 (M) - I need some advise! I've been with my wife for 20years married for 16. Right now she is involved in a relationship with another women for over a year, I've known about this from day one, It was orginally gonna be the three of us and it was, but now ...

I had sexual experiances with my aunt!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5502 days ago

20 October 2009 (M) - it is long time back when i was a teen i used to get lot of sexual urges to ,my aunt. she was not a super beauty. we used to stay in the same house. i remember it started after when i noticed that she, when such a situation occurred, kept her brea...

The guy I like is in a class I help teach. Is it ok to pursue him once the class is over?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5510 days ago

20 October 2009 (F) - Okay, so this isn't the typical student-teacher question but I thought I'd ask and see what happens. I help teach a vocational course for adults that will run for the next two months or so. I find myself very attracted to one of my students. I k...

How can I resurrect my marriage when I don't feel the same about my wife?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5469 days ago

19 October 2009 (M) - I have not had sex with my wife for over 6 years. I have been unfaithful over the past three years. I had been meaning to talk to my wife for a long time about all the problems in my marriage e.g. Lack of sex, differences of opinions about how to ...

I can't stop thinking about her, but I can't have her. What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5510 days ago

19 October 2009 (M) - i am in my senior year in school. i have my final examination in a few months time-the results of which will exclusively determine which college I get into, my career and my life. hence, it is needless to say i have to really focus on my studies. ...

My parents are very stricked...how do I tell them I'm pregnant?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

19 October 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, I am 21 yrs old and my boyfriend is 22 yrs old, We have been dating since I was 15. For some reason my dad never really liked him even though he is really nice and sweet to me. My parents are very stricked and have always told me that I ...

My cousin wants to have sex again! What should I do?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5509 days ago

18 October 2009 (M) - I whent to see my cousain yesterday me and her realy like each other and we've had sex before safe sex ofcouse but she won'ts us to have it again and I don't no what to say should I or should I not plzz help me ...

The girl I love is my best friends daughter. What do we do now?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

18 October 2009 (F) - I am 42 yrs old and have been best freidns with my co worker Dan since high school. I was even his best man at his wedding. I was in a long term relationship that ended 10 months ago, Dan was awlways trying to set me up with different people but ...

Does my teacher fancy me as well?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5510 days ago

18 October 2009 (M) - im a boy, 15 yrs. old...i really fancy my male teacher and i don't know why..i think he also likes me as he looking at me when im walking down the corridor, and when i look at him, he smile at me in a shy way then his face turns red. When he's ...

How do I get this happily married man to notice me?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

17 October 2009 (F) - i like this guy,but he is married and happy.i see him once every fortnight at work.what shoul i do for he notice me,please?...

Will marriage stop a man from having an affair if he's in love/lust?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5503 days ago

17 October 2009 (F) - My question is mostly for married men. Is it possible to lust over another woman and not act on it? I mean of course I know it is possible for a beautiful woman to get under your skin, but I'm wondering if there are men who even though the other ...

Is my teacher crossing the line?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

17 October 2009 (F) - Okay, there's this teacher at my High School, and I think he kind of flirts with me a little bit, and I just want to know if he might like me too much. First of all, I don't even have him as a teacher, he's only my homeroom advisor. But we h...

In a student/teacher fantasy, what role does the man prefer to play?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

15 October 2009 (F) - this is going to seem really random, but i need to ask: in student/ teacher fantasies, do most men prefer being the student or the teacher? i ask this because it seems to me that most women i come across prefer to be the student, so i assumed that ...

Lost in Love: cheating on boyfriend with married man!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

15 October 2009 (F) - I love two wonderful men that love but one is married and he always says that he wants to be with me, but it is so hard to forget him. i find myself always going back to the spot with him on the other hand i live with a wonderful person. he loves ...

Does my step-brother like me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

15 October 2009 (F) - My stepbrother is always touching my butt and asking me for sexual favors does he like mi?And i think he is sending mi mixed messages and its creeping mi out!!!! I need answers....

Her family hates me after I ditched the older sister for the younger one! What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

15 October 2009 (M) - So me and my girlfriend have been together for about a year now. I was friends with her older sister for a long time and her parents wanted me to hook up with her.. But things did not work out that way.. I got with the younger one.. Needless to say ...

Was this guy a schemer all along?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

14 October 2009 (F) - There's a mate of my husband's who has been really nice to me and is a great guy. He's called me nicknames, teased me, and has been really nice in little ways. He plays with my son and my husband has noticed him sometimes asking my son questions ...

I'm asking for too much with this married guy, right?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 5371 days ago

14 October 2009 (?) - hi... i am in a very happy relationship for past 4 years.. everything is just right. I met another guy, a married guy on a trip n had great fun wit him!! After d trip, telephonic conversations started(bf knws).. thenn started d phone sex, n i am ...