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writes:I've been married for three years to who I thought was the woman of my dreams. Over the three years our sex life has declined to non-existant. I've tried talking to her about it but she just says that she doesn't feel like sex anymore. I've told her that she's still beautiful and can still turn me on but she's having none of it. She's said that it's not me. I work out at the gym and I'm pretty buff but she's said that sex doesn't interest her anymore. I didn't know what to do so I've been working out longer at the gym to relieve some of the frustration.On my way home from the gym one evening I ran in to my wife's sister. She's 5'2, blonde, size 14. Nice and curvy, just like my wife. We got talking and I was invited in to her house. Not fancying going home and facing my wife, I accepted. We were talking in the living room for a bit when she told me that her sister had told her that she'd gone off sex, not just with me but off the whole thing in general. I told her that it was fast becoming a pointless marriage and all my attempts to get through to my wife had failed. My sister-in-law got up and left the room saying that she needed to use the bathroom. She returned a few minutes later wearing a sexy nightie. She told me that she can give me what her sister is unwilling to. I was gobsmacked to say the least. She lay down on the settee in an extremely provative position and before I knew it I'd pulled her nightie off, she'd ripped my clothes off and we were having sex. We ended up having it downstairs and then upstairs. It felt so good to be wanted again.I returned home to my wife who didn't even ask where I'd been! So I didn't even bother trying to explain. I've been seeing my sister-in-law now for the past 5 months and we're always having sex. She certainly knows how to keep me entertained, she's not shy in the bedroom at all. She'll do anything and everything. She's now asked me to leave my wife and come and live with her. Should I? There doesn't seem much point in going on like this behind my wife's back anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2011): This is such an old post. I wonder whether the OP did leave his wife for her skank of a sister!OP perhaps you want to send us an update.Michelle, your advice is still very relevant.
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reader, michelle101  +, writes (21 May 2011):
Your wife's sister is a b***h!!! instead of getting you both together she is trying to break your marriage. what your wife feels bout sex is completely normal and that phase will pass...but what you both have been doing is wrong. dump her sister right now and tell your wife the truth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2009): i say go with youre wife to a counciler and try to figure out why her sex drive is dead. At the same time learn more sexual techniques over the internet to encourge your wife to comeback into the bedroom.
have you ever been able to make your wife cum at all since youve started having penetrative sex? you might need more foreplay which can lead to a very entertaining result if you do it right.
rembember that marrige is about much more than just sex. its possible that she just doesnt feel loved enough from you. you know women really care about that. try asking you wife how her day was even if u dont give a shite. try going out on more walks together, go shopping together (thats hell), hold her hand in public. try even doing some cardiovascular exersices together. a poor cardio system has been liked to ultralow sex drives in humans.
if all else fails, try using pheramones and aphrodisics to get her 'interested'.
if all else fails, try asking her sister.
its possible that youre wife encourgaed her sister to take care of your sexual needs
she may have contracted a STD or a bad illness, or cancer, or vagissimus and doesnt want to hurt you or be hurt by you. or she could have been raped without you knowing, it happens alot unfortunately.
i know this can happen, in health class, our teacher asked the class:
if youre wife contracted an STD/STI or HIV/AIDS, would you still have intercourse with her? i was the only one that put up my hand.
Marriage is alot more than just a sexual relationship with someone that you love. Im sure that if you prove to your wife that you love her to that extent (well close to that extent) she will reviel why she dosent want sex anymore
if nothing works, then switch to her sister because your wife obviously is tired of the relationship
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2009): If you dont have kids, you can get a divorce and live with your wife's sister. Your wife cant complain. She made the marriage meaningless by going off sex. If sex is not such an important part of marriage why do we even have the concept of cheating? A guy/girl is allowed to get many things from others.. food, clothes, shelter etc. But we have this concept of cheating regarding romance and sex. So when a partner refuses to give one of these two, the marriage is void morally. Dont let anyone make you feel guilty for what you are doing now. If what you are doing now is wrong,the guilt belongs to your wife... no one else. Think well and take a decision. All the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2009): Book a seat on Jerry Springer... this one has cheap day-time american TV all over it...
You need to access the wreakage that is your marraige and ask your wife if she wants to stay married. If she says yes, and assuming you do as well, the next conversation neesd to be about your sexual needs. If she's ok with you descreatly meeting up with someone then you have a green light. I wouldn't let her put alot of rules on the who and how... If she wants that kind of input she needs to re-enter the sex trade.
If she's not interested in staying married, get divorces as fast as you can, then start dating the sister. Their relationship may been on the racks soon (you think?)... but that might make it a bit simpler.
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reader, clownzyall  +, writes (29 October 2009):
 And whos to say the same thing won't happen with your wife's sister? Sex is very important in an relationship. But have you ever heard of the old 20/80 rule? Trading in one girl for that thing her sister will do for you? That's a bit harsh and selfish, don't you think?
True, your wife is being extremly selfish in neglecting your needs. But perhaps there is a deepier meaning, or some counseling might be of help. You married your wife because you loved her, right? You don't give up so easily on the ones you love, especially not for some poon, sir.
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