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writes:Hi everyone, I am 21 yrs old and my boyfriend is 22 yrs old, We have been dating since I was 15. For some reason my dad never really liked him even though he is really nice and sweet to me. My parents are very stricked and have always told me that I better not disappointment them. I am in my final year of nursing and he is in his final yr becominga teacher. I just found out I am pregnant (roughly 8 weeks or so). How do I tell my parents. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2009): Well, the fact that you are an adult of 21, your parents don't really have anything to say about it.
Just approach the subject with a positive attitude and reassure them that you will not be asking for financial support from them, that you are well on your way to a good career, intend to finish school and hopefully you and your boyfriend will marry and begin your family.
If the news does not include those positive reassurances, then be prepared for more disappointment.
That said, in time your parents will be excited about the birth of their grandchild.
You just have to get your nerve up and tell them if you have decided to keep the baby, then I am sure they will give you their blessings, they may be shocked at first, but their shock will be concern for you and the child's wellbeing first and foremost.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2009): The idea of telling your parents must be scary. But you will have to tell them at some point, because pregnancy isn't something that can be hidden! Do you feel more able to speak to one of your parents than the other? Maybe you could approach just one of them first, and tell them. They could then help to break the news to your other parent. Or, wait until things are relatively calm, and then just sit them both down and calmly tell them. I know this must be really worrying for you, and they might be quite shocked and upset at first. But I think they will be more interested in trying to help you. They probably just want what's best for you, that might be why they are so strcit.
It might take them a little while to come to terms with it, but once they have they may be more supportive than you think. And no matter how they react, it is your choice now about what happens, not theirs. Good luck, I hope it all goes well. x
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (19 October 2009):
 Not going to be easy, but you need to go in with the right attitude. I'm not sure if having your boyfriend there will be better or worse for you (you need to feel that out), but if you need moral support, enlist a good friend (who they like) or sibling/cousin/Aunt, as CaringGuy suggests.
Remember to go into things being positive and excited. Generally people reflect the mood that they're presented with. If you go in anticipating them to be pissed off and you act ashamed and upset, they'll probably go with that flow. But if you go into things happy and joyful, it will be hard for them to break that spirit. And if they do hit you with disappointment or whatever, just say "Mom, Dad, we're both really excited about this and we hope that you can be too".
Don't stress too hard, just remember your happiness and let that be what shows. Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 October 2009):
I'm afraid there is no easy way to do this. I think you need to pick the slightly easier of your parents, then speak to him/her. If they really are strict, then you'll jjust have to sit them down and tell you. The important thing is that you're not stressed by all this, because your baby will be stressed. You could have your boyfriend there with you, or even a friend or sibling (if you have one). Good luck.
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