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writes:My parents got divorced 13 years ago, and so i was forced to live at my mums during the week and my dads at the weekends. About 8 years ago, i needed to get a glass from the cupboard, but my mum was standing on the worktop in the way cleaning the top of the cupboards. I reached up to get a glass, only to get a small glimpse of my mum up skirt and it turned out she wasn't wearing any underwear, this disgusted me, so i went away and tried to forget about it. I fell out with my brother and sister and went to live with my dad. As a teenager, i was exploring my sexuality through masturbation. One day, i was masturbating over some porn and wasn't getting excited by it, so girls i knew, my neighbours, nothing... my cousins (who are fit) NOTHING STILL!!! so then my aunts - nothing, then... my mum up skirt, a lot better, then having sex with her, every move in the book, AMAZING. But now, ive got to the point where i want to have sex with her. I cant stop thinking about her, i must masturbate over her 3 or 4 times a day, and whenever i go round to her house, im tempted to steal a pair of her underwear. I dont need help, ive tried masturbating over other girls, ive had girlfriends.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (26 October 2009):
 That's a cop-out answer. They would not lock you up, unless you'd committed a criminal act. Have you committed a criminal act? Or do you just have this very inappropriate obsession?
Have you tried hypnosis? Acupuncture? The rubberband (elastic band) aversion therapy, where you *thwap* yourself with the band whenever you think an inappropriate thought?
Or are you just here to air your complex and have a laugh at the responses you'll get? If you're serious about getting help, get it from a professional for this particular obsession.
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reader, the_phoenic +, writes (26 October 2009):
what you are facing is natural but never try to get out of the world of fantasies..many men had dreamed about thier mums,sisters,aunties during thier teensbut dont try to excercise these fantasies in real lifebecause it wel put you in allot of trouble
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2009): Tried that, i know exactly what it is i like about her, pretty much anything, and yes, i do like older woman aswell for some reason but nowhere near as much as my mum for some god knows reason. I dont want to seek a therapist because if they had any idea what i do and think about my mum, they'd lock me up
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reader, Jedi_Mistress +, writes (26 October 2009):
 I think you should definetly talk to a therapist about your fixation. Someone else pointed out that many people are turned on by things that are simply a little wrong or daring (being filmed, sex in public, things like that), but when you start fantisizing about family members it definetly crosses the line.
Maybe you need to figure out what it is about your mom that you are attracted to. Perhaps you can clearly define that, write it down on paper and search for a woman that has those attributes. It could be you're just fixating on something you're attracted to and not your mom as a whole. Maybe you're into older women...?
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reader, Ravenxx91 +, writes (26 October 2009):
 The Oedipus Complex... heres where your problem is... you never passed that phase as a child (Mummy's Boy is a good rxample of Oedipus Complex)
Anyway this could have been due to not having your dad around and not being able to solely have your mum due to going to stay with your dad and having a falling out with siblings.
Basically, you need help from a psychotherapist to get you past this x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2009): You don't need help? So what is your question then, how to steal a pair of her underwear?
I think this fixation you have with your mother is due to a lot of unresolved anger over having been shuffled about as a child, first living with her, then living with your dad.
I think it would help you immensely if you spoke to a therapist about these issues and you would find that this resolves itself. Make an appointment with a psychologist either Behvioral or cognitive behavioral, you can get a referral through your family physician or mental health organization in your town.
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reader, lilxmissx16 +, writes (26 October 2009):
What? How? I mean, that isnt right. Its also against the law to have sex with a relation, never mind your own mum! Now seriously, this is the women who rared you and gave birth to you! Im not saying you should be put in jail or anything but you should just try and control yourself. Alot of people get turned on by things there not supposed to but they avoid it, this is definitely what you should do, how would you feel if your mum seriously found out...
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (26 October 2009):
You're suffering from a really acute condition called the Oedipus Complex, where a man thinks of his mother in this way. It's clearly not healthy, so I would strongly suggest making sure you're socializing with other people and continue to stay busy. Also, you might be feeling this way because you don't feel close to your family, but thinking of her makes you feel safe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2009): Maybe you don't need help....but if you are agonizing over this, perhaps you shouldn't push the idea of help away so fast. Some might argue there is nothing wrong with having fantasies. But you are the one who has to address how far your fantasies go and if you'd ever think about acting on them.
You said you think about your mom when you masterbate. Have you ever had sex? If not, then perhaps after you do, you'll stop thinking about your mom.
If you have had sex, do you think about your mom while in the act? If you aren't, then try keeping these thoughts in mind when you masterbate. If you are, then perhaps you do need to consider professional help.
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