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writes:So me and my girlfriend have been together for about a year now. I was friends with her older sister for a long time and her parents wanted me to hook up with her.. But things did not work out that way.. I got with the younger one.. Needless to say now her family has hated me ever since and makes life living hell on her... which makes us a little shaky from time to time. They forced us apart once and we took off 2 months with no contact.. Her granpa died in the beggining of the third month and she got ahold of me to help her through it.. about a month later we were back together but it was sneaky.. it wasnt a real relationship i guess you could say.. Things were great but we had to watch where we went and all that good stuff.. Well a week ago he sister told me at a bar she had been talking to another guy for the past 3 days and my girl told her family she didnt feel the same for me.. i kept my cool for the most part and walked away.. well the older sis went home and told my girl that i charged her up at the bar and said a whole lot of things about her family.. well she said things were over...2 days later she was saying she just couldnt do it with all the drama right now.. she is does NOT want anyone else but she just cant do it right now..Well the past few days she's been tellin me she loves me and misses me but it still just cant be.. i dont want to ignore her because i know her family is a bunch of idiots.. but i dont wanna be a puppet either... really confused please help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2009): The parents probably though your friendship with the older girl meant that you two were interested. When she learned that you were after her younger sister, she was sad/jealous and they noticed the whole thing. Maybe she told them that you were leading her on, etc., etc. Plus they're probably mad at you because you started a little war between the girls. Sisters fight to the death about stuff like "You took my boyfriend!"
If the little one really likes you, she wont let anyone, not even her family stop her from being with you. Of this I am sure. If you didn't trick the older one in order to get close to the little one, then you shouldn't feel bad. You just like the young one. Period. All the crying and bitching about it from the family isn't going to change anything between you and her.
Now if the little one doesn't stick with you, just drop her and move on. You're too young to get stuck in a dead end.
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reader, YourDestiny11 +, writes (15 October 2009):
 Well theres not much you can do to make her family like you! It sounds like theyre all insane, hope shes not like them! What you need to do is tell her she needs to tell her parents and they need to learn to accept it and if she doesnt then i doubt your relationship will last...no relationship would having to hide it all the time! Well hope everything goes good for you two! Good luck!
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