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I know I can't have him so what do I do?

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Question - (21 October 2009) 2 Answers - (Newest, 21 October 2009)
A female Canada age 30-35, *peedyCakey writes:

Yesterday I got word from a friend that that this guy in my school asked out this girl two years younger than him.

I suddenly felt really uncomfortable, and sick, and, well, jealous. I realized that I probably liked that guy as more than a friend.

When today the girl said "yes" to the date, I felt even more sick. For some reason, I'm really angry at that guy.

I don't know what to do. He's in all my classes, so I can't avoid him. I know it's wrong to steal him away from her, but seeing them together makes me want to punch somebody.

Help, please.

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A female reader, Lexie88 Australia +, writes (21 October 2009):

Lexie88 agony auntLet me ask you, did you want him before he asked her out, or are you just jealous now that he has someone? I doubt that your feelings for him are real...you probably want him now that you can't have him.

Ask yourself...if he did not like this other girl and he didn't ask her out, would you want to pursue something with him? If the answer is no or you're not sure then your feelings are not genuine.

But if you've realized that you do like him than there's not much you can do about it. And you're right, you can't go breaking up their relationship, it will only hurt you in the end and he will resent you for it.

Continue being friends with him and if something is supposed to happen between you guys it will...things like this have a way of working themselves out. If you don't end up with him it means you weren't meant to and there's someone better out there for you.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2009):

I'm in the exact same situation - only the object of my desire is a girl. My advice is to befriend the guy and do everything you can to attract his attentions (without being TOO obvious, of course).

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