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*ostandconfusedintampa
writes:ok i dont know where or who to turn to! ive done some research online and i kept getting similar questions on this sight! here's my problem....im 23 and my cousin is 28 we are very close we talk about everything....infact we even told each other how we felt! he told me hes in love with me and as am i with him! we are third cousins! we never grew up together or anything and we really werent a big part of eachothers lives up until recently! we know how we feel and we dont care what people think! we do care about our family and what they have to say! he has a little boy who is 6 and i have a little girl who is 4! we dont know how to tell our family without the fear of being disowned! what should we do? someone please help!
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reader, greg290352  +, writes (25 October 2009):
 Personally I see no problem. Go for it! Obviously it will take a little time for some family members to accept your relationship but they will in time. Good luck
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (24 October 2009):
 Ok. Third cousin means this is one of your grandparent's great grandparent's, great great grand child. I would say this is sufficiantly and genetically removed from you. Some states even allow for first cousins to become married. You two are grown adults really. You guys should make a decision that is best for you.
You need to weigh out the pros and cons of becoming a couple and deciding if the pros are worth more than the cons. This involves if you can handle public ridicule (Some people will just never accept this), how will both of your parents take it and how you can raise your children knowing and dealing with this information. Kids are adaptable though and if said correctly they will easily adjust. It would be the older adult family members who will have opinions you will have to deal with.
Do what your heart tells you in the end. It is better to be happy in this world than miserable due to conformity.
HonningKanin
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