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writes:I whent to see my cousain yesterday me and her realy like each other and we've had sex before safe sex ofcouse but she won'ts us to have it again and I don't no what to say should I or should I not plzz help me
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reader, CoolAndCoolest  +, writes (22 October 2009):
you both speak each other and try to understand things. there are complications involved in sex inside family members. and if possible keep away.
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reader, Candleman  +, writes (19 October 2009):
 I wanted to add that I checked out Uncle Phil's link and was blown away at the statistics of inbreeding which has enlightened me to the fact that our society has created this myth. I usually look things up to make sure my facts are correct. For this one, it seemed like a no brainer to me because I have heard it so many times, even in university. I apologize for giving you wrong information in regards to the genetic consequences.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2009): If you progress any further this could get very dangerous. For one marrying and doing anything of the sexual nature with cousins is fround upon in UK in the 21st century, it's not illegal but you've got to bear in mind that it's not promoted as it can lead to inbreading. Also, you are too young to have sex! The fact that your asking about having sex with your cousin for a second time, proves that your too young to make these sort of discussions. If your ready for sex, you should know about the consequences and you obviously don't.
I'm not here to give you a lecture, i'm here to give you some solid advice. MOVE ON.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2009): I don't know how old she is, but you are too young, not only in the moral sense but the legal sense. It's good that you're practising safe sex, which is not necessarily saying that I agree with what you've been up to, but it's good to know that you've been sensible in that respect.When you're both over the age of sixteen it's perfectly lawful in this country, so after that milestone in your lives is behind you there's no problem unless your families object. They might raise a few eyebrows and objections, but it's up to the two of you to live your lives the way you wish, and not how others want you to. After the age of 18 you can please yourself what you do because you'll be classed as adults then. You are the master of your own destiny, wherever that leads you.If you want to dispel all the speculation and uneducated guesses about deformed kids and all that sort of stuff, follow this link and get some facts into your head.http://cousincouples.comDifficult though it may be, you've got to knock this behaviour on the head for the time being, at least until it's legal for both of you. It's not good at your age but believe me, I know what the temptation is like and what it's like being in love with your cousin.
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reader, Kenneth +, writes (19 October 2009):
Cousins sleeping with each other is dead wrong. You both have no business having sex (13 &15)? You are too young. There is plenty of time. Focus on other things...education,sports, making friend,attending socials, movies etc....
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2009): NO, you need to stop this as long term it's going to hurt your self-esteme. You don't mention her age, but if she's older than you this could be an illegal assualt and she could be in serious trouble.
You need to tell her to stop it, and if she doesn't, or tries to threaten you, you need to go to an adult. You've done NOTHING wrong here... do not be affraid!
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reader, Candleman +, writes (19 October 2009):
Hey look, you are not the only person that has had sex w/ their cousin. In fact, there was a time in the not so distant past that marrying of cousins was an accepted practice.
The royal families throughout Europe were big on this. The most powerful banking family in the world, the Rothschilds, did this. But, guess what...
Thanks to science and genetic studies we now know that this inbreeding behavior is destructive to the gene pool. The likelihood of having a child w/ birth defects increases dramatically. Mental retardation in some form is very very likely.
Because of this, society now heavily looks down on this act. If you get caught doing things w/ your cousin then your family is going to freak out. If your friends find out they will make fun of you.
If you accidentally get her pregnant then what? You might think that you are having safe sex, but do you know how many people are born every year from parents who thought they were having safe sex? Too many bro, it's not worth the risk. Not w/ your cousin.
Look man, don't feel guilty. I almost had sex w/ one of my cousins when I was a lad. Hell there was another cousin that we showed each other our things. But, we stopped it before it progressed any further.
W/ the one cousin that I almost had sex w/, I ended up getting w/ one of her friends. Go that route and be safe.
Just remember that what you did was normal. But, you gotta stop it. You risk way too much by continuing doing this.
Take it easy.
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reader, jeslet992 +, writes (19 October 2009):
It sounds like you're being used, and at a young age, you're vulnerable. You clearly don't want what she wants, so I would recommend telling her no straight up. If she persists, you need to tell an adult about the situation, especially if you're feeling threatened. Just because she's family doesn't mean that you have to do what she says. Trust your instinct on this because only you truly know what the right thing is, because only you know the whole situation.
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