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Archived questions from: February, 2013 (see latest in Family category)

Family: Help and advice

Should I have my boyfriend over and let him tell my dad we'll be out for 2 days?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

28 February 2013 (F) - For Valentine's, my 33 year-old boyfriend got me a gift voucher, good for a spa day for two, and a night in a hotel, breakfast included. We've gone to the spa (great, by the way), and we will book the night very soon. However, I mentioned this...

I'm terrified of telling my parents that I'm gay so I stay away but I miss them and want their understanding!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

28 February 2013 (F) - i'm a 29 year old lesbian. i've been out of the closet since i was 18 and am nowhere remotely ashamed of my sexuality and who i am. i never feel the need to hide who i am and what my sexual orientation is. if people ask, i always tell them the ...

All kinds of drama with my family but I don't know how to stand up for myself

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 February 2013 (F) - My family intrudes too much in my life. They want to control me, they play the victim, give me silent treatments, guilt trip me, then buy me food and clothes, so that they can say I'm being ungrateful. I still can't afford to move out, I'm a colle...

I thought the meeting with my family went well but I haven't heard from him since

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 February 2013 (F) - Hi I posted a question earlier in the week about this guy who ive been seeing for a few weeks who met my parents for the first time on sunday. Anyway just to recap he wasnt in a hurry to leave and seemed to get on well with them and told me when he ...

My father isn't going to be happy when he finds out how I've been spending my money!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

28 February 2013 (F) - A aunt was supposed to stop by to change my bed (long story). I wasn't at home, so when I got there I noticed she had cleaned my room. Though I appreciate the gesture (even tho i didn't ask her for it), she moved everything around. Including bank ...

My g/f blocked me on fb so her parents can't see my comments?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 February 2013 (M) - we've been dating about one and a half years my girlfriend blocked me on facebook and told me it's because her family won't stop giving her crap about us and she's just sick of dealing with it she said it's like her parents can see things i pos...

Should I accept being the messenger between my divorced parents or should I just put my foot down and refuse to get involved? And how do I deal with my fathers behavior?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

28 February 2013 (F) - I'm going crazy. My parents divorced (not officially yet) a month ago, and they both expect me to be the messenger between them. When they separated, my mom told me some things that I felt were very hurtful, so I didn't feel the need to talk to ...

In love with my ex's little brother

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

28 February 2013 (F) - I lived with my ex for 3 years, during those years 2 of them his younger brother lived with us... I was very close to his brother we spent way more time together, way more then with my boyfriend... Over the years I fell in love with him, but noth...

My daughter is having trouble with her father and his fiance. Is there anything I can do to help?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4311 days ago

28 February 2013 (F) - Hi, my daughter has been having trouble with her dad and his new fiance.They have been together for about 18mths and engaged for two. When they first got together my daughter happily went to their house.She has three children and things went. I...

Will my boyfriend no longer want to date me if he finds about my family history?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 February 2013 (F) - Hey everyone, I have a boyfriend who knows everything about me apart from certain things about my family I omitted like...my dad's sister ran away against the wishes of her family and got married to a convict whose been involved in a lot of crimes,a...

It seemed like he liked me. But then nothing? How can I shake off these feelings I developed for him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4295 days ago

28 February 2013 (F) - I really don't know how to explain my situation. Okay, this guy and I have been friends about three months and I went down there to see my sister and this guy and I hooked up at the party she threw. He had spent the night with me and one thing le...

I don't want to cause drama but I have to stand up for myself

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

28 February 2013 (F) - I will be getting married next year to my fiancee. His older sister has this very dominant personality and he comes from a conservative family but yet his parents are very open minded. So, the problem is that his sister was telling me that I cannot ...

My boyfriend's family doesn't like me or my children

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4310 days ago

27 February 2013 (F) - I have been dealing with for two years now and it come and goes in waves. My Boyfriends parents dont really seem to like me or my kids. When we 1st got together it seems that they just dealt with me but you could tell by small subtle hints they ...

I need help in dealing with my self-centered father!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

27 February 2013 (F) - My dad has problems communicating with people. He has a mental illness, but which one not even the doctors can pin down. Maybe a combination of Aspergers, bipolar personality disorder, and quite a chunk of paranoia. He is very self centered. T...

Our culture favors sons over daughters, I need advice on how to deal with this unfair situation!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4315 days ago

27 February 2013 (F) - I'm a 22 years old woman and raised by precious and happy family ever. My parent is the greatest parent for me and I have two younger brothers. My brothers are lovely and we have some weird habit toward my 2nd brother, we like to kiss him everyday ...

Help me understand him. Is he a pervert?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4315 days ago

27 February 2013 (F) - Dear lovely aunts, I need your help.. I've known this guy for 20 years, not close friends but families are close friends, his mom always wanted us together ever since we were kids. I was always emotionally unavailable and never considered him. We ...

Any tips on coping with the stress and co-parenting with a jerk?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4315 days ago

27 February 2013 (F) - Majorly stressed out with work. I work from home so my son doesn't have to go to daycare full time-but this means that 4 hours of my work day, he is here (makes it very hard to get work done!) My job is very stressful and doesn't pay well. Anyw...

So was he scared off by my family?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

27 February 2013 (F) - Ive been seeing this guy for a few weeks and things have been going pretty well until the other day. We met up to go for a walk but the weather took a turn for the worse so he suggested we go to mine as it was like the only place nearby that was ...

Is this relationship salvageable or should I move on?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4315 days ago

26 February 2013 (F) - My husband and I have had a bad marriage the last 2 years. We've been married 14 years. He turned into a workaholic and I was lonely. I started hanging out with friends. A few were guys. He avoided me by working all the time. I developed an add...

He's ten years older , but says he's willing to wait until I'm ready to lose my virginity. What should I do?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4313 days ago

26 February 2013 (F) - I am 17 and still a virgin me and my boyfriend have been dating for three months. He is 27 and already he has a daughter. He says he will wait for me until I'm ready to lose my virginity with him. I'm quite ready,but since he is experienced im kin...

Boyfriend's female friend is always at his house and no one cares about my feelings

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4316 days ago

26 February 2013 (F) - Every week for the past 3 months, whenever I go to my boyfriend's mums there is this girl there. This girl has openly admitted to liking my boyfriend for the past 5 years and purely doesn't like me on the bases I'm going out with him and she isn't. ...

Now guys at work see me in a different light. How could my own brother embarass me at work about things I told him in private about my private life?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4315 days ago

26 February 2013 (F) - Dear Cupid,my brother and I are employed at the same place we have private conversations between each other at home about our relationships with different people in our lives so that's cool. However he then went to work and told one of the cowo...

What are the options to deal with our rude confrontational neighbors? They stir up trouble and it's wearing me down.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4316 days ago

26 February 2013 (F) - Hello, I'm really confused about my neighbour. I just can't work her out! For the last 18 months the person living next to me has made my life quite difficult. We have got to a point that we have resolved some issues but I am really wary of her!...

We are friends, dated, now we are living together and are FWB, help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3890 days ago

25 February 2013 (F) - Ok so me and this guy have known each other for like 11 years our family went to high school together. anyway we tried dating like 3 years ago and well i had my head up my ass and i just stopped talking to him and he got in contact with me and he ...

How can I make my dad understand my college situation?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4317 days ago

25 February 2013 (F) - I got into college last September. Although my college has many, many, ridiculously too many parties, I never went to a single one. I tried to get in the whole college spirit but I just don't enjoy getting stupid drunk and hangover. I went EVERY...

What can I do about the double standards in my family? All my siblings are adults, yet as the eldest more is expected of me.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4316 days ago

25 February 2013 (F) - I hate being the eldest. If my siblings want me to do a favour, I get screamed and yelled at. But if I need a favour from my siblings, my parents don't care at all. They tell me it's my problem and instead yell me to shut up. I'm sick to bit...

Are we Platonic or not? While telling me he's a "Player", now he wants me to meet his sister.Why?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4317 days ago

25 February 2013 (F) - If your guy friend wants you to meet his sister(after 9 months) is my relationship with my guy friend platonic or not? Why am I confused? It's because he has been saying that she wants to meet me, and now he's actually putting something to...

What can I do about my fiance who continues to lie to me? Money is tight yet he still spends on things we can't afford.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4317 days ago

25 February 2013 (F) - my fiance keeps lying about stupid things and its driving me up the wall. He's not working at the moment so money is tight, I have spoken to him about how much he keeps spending several times now. He has two kids from a previous relationshi...

My world is crumbling around me. Are there any strategies that could help me deal with all this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4317 days ago

25 February 2013 (F) - I have a problem. Basically the world is crumbling beneath my feet. I have studies at Uni to finish, I'm in my last week of my internship and everything is going to hell. I really need some advice or at least a listening ear. This is my situation...

How can I resolve the fact that I am torn between the man I love and what I think will make me happy in the long run?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4317 days ago

25 February 2013 (F) - My partner is 30 and I am 20, we love each other and I think he is my soulmate. I just wish I had met him 10 years ago and things would have been different. He has two kids with his ex and they live with her. He visits them in the holidays and...

I don't want to divorce. Yet what can I do? Since retiring my husband likes to behave like a bachelor.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4317 days ago

25 February 2013 (F) - I am a 55 year and a working adult. My marriage was never and easy one because our was a arranged marriage. I have been married for 35 year. My spouse is a highly egoistic character. Since day one i was not able to communicate with my husband....

My 1st cousin once removed and I are in love. What can we do about this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4309 days ago

25 February 2013 (F) - Ok, here's the deal: I am in love with my first cousin once removed (my dad's nephew's son). We didn't meet until we were 13 and 14 and when we met we didn't know that we were related. He has two children and is planning a vasectomy in a f...

I am heartbroken at how my mother behaves when drunk. My Bf says she needs help. Would it work to invite her to our wedding? Or not?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4317 days ago

25 February 2013 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years now. My mom is an alcoholic. She wasn't always--but she got into an abusive 2nd marriage and we couldn't get her out of it. It started very soon after her and my dad divorced. Because of her...

52 year old male with 3 late teen daughters seeing a 20 year old woman?

This question has 38 answers - newest was posted 4316 days ago

24 February 2013 (M) - I'm 52 and divorced with three daughters ages 21, 18, 17. I have been seeing a 20 year old woman. My daughters think this is very bad. The 20 year old wants me to choose her over my daughters. I broke it off with the 20 year old because of my ...

Messing around with my cousin but now regretting it.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4318 days ago

24 February 2013 (M) - Well, I have something really very stupid and deviant. I have a great crush on my cousin for like 4 years now and I seriously love her a lot. About a month ago, we used to hang out like friends and used to study late nights for our entrance exams. I...

Arguments over dinner ingredients resulting in mom not talking to me.

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4317 days ago

24 February 2013 (F) - Hi there, I'm having problems with my mom, she often shout t me for things sometimes I see why others are not so clear. One of the more recent occasions she asked me to vacuum the dining room which I did along with cooking lunch and washing up a...

Is it illegal to date second cousins?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4317 days ago

24 February 2013 (F) - My boyfriend is my second cousin 3 we love each other so much but people judge us and our family doesnt know yet... is it illegal to date him in australia?!? help me plz he is my true love xxxx...

Family is against lesbian relationships. How to take it to the next level.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3866 days ago

24 February 2013 (F) - So I've got a problem. I'm in love with this totally awesome girl. We're both bisexual and we are dating. I've spoiled her rotten on Valentine's Day and her birthday and what not. We've been dating for like a year now I think and my family knows ...

For how long am I expected to work at making this work?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4318 days ago

24 February 2013 (F) - Hi. I have some relationship probelms, including my bf's financial probelms, having to bail him out, the nagging ex wife and massive fights he has with her and so on. She even sent me thretening messages. We don't live together so althogh I get ...

No affection, I am trying to deal with it!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4318 days ago

24 February 2013 (F) - I am ashamed of myself. I know that what he is going through is worse than any pain I could have, but it doesn't make my pain go away. We have been living together for a little over a year. Things were good before he moved in, then we had the ...

How can I get out of this unhappy situation? He says a divorce will be worse on the kids than us being unhappy.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4318 days ago

24 February 2013 (F) - I have been married for 14 years and have 3 kids under 10. My husband and I dated for 6 years before getting married. I am absolutely miserable in my marriage. My husband is emotionally abusive...a true narcissist. It has taken me too long and ...

How can I progress this? And, how do I ask the younger brother out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4318 days ago

24 February 2013 (F) - Hi Everyone. I am stuck. Properly stuck. My story is this. Two brothers. When I met the elder, he liked me and wanted to date me, but I decided he wasn't the guy for me. We set up a bit of a flirtation but only that. He has a girlf...

How do you deal with relatives that are so cruel and jealous?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4318 days ago

23 February 2013 (F) - I have been reading recent posts and I couldn't help but wonder they are soo many relatives out there,who would do anything to bring the morale of their own down,I thought I may be among the few realised their many..I would really like if some of ...

My b/friend's very ill ex is in the hospital. How do I deal with this sad uncomfortable setting?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4319 days ago

23 February 2013 (F) - My boyfriend and his baby mama never got married, just lived together. They broke up (couple months after the child was born) because she liked to party and get drunk, and was jealous of the love my boyfriend had for his son. Nevertheless, she got ...

Confused cousin: she's giving me mixed signals.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4319 days ago

23 February 2013 (M) - My cousin makes me feel alot confused as she is giving me mixed signals. These range from prolonged eye contact when talking ( 3mins), preening, side glances when I'm not aware and etc. She even friend requested me on facebook and well that's a ...

Any tips on how to cope when my partner is out of town for work? I get so lonely.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4319 days ago

23 February 2013 (F) - Hi all! I was hoping for some help... I've been used to living with my parents and 2 siblings all my life, so it's always been a busy home. However my partner and I bought our 1st house together last year and I love living with him, jus...

I love my husband but he loves his money and freedom more than he loves me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4319 days ago

23 February 2013 (F) - My ques: myself and my husband got married 12 years back. We have 2 daughters. I love my husband more than my life. He 2 loves me. But he a very practical person. He is away from me for 9 months due to his work in ship. But when he is near to me he ...

My boyfriend's mother swore at me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4320 days ago

23 February 2013 (F) - I was at my bf's home this other day with him til his mom appeared and she started swearing at me in not many words saying that i am a bitch i sleep with boys and obviously showing that i am not good for his son....so it is haunting me i cannot do ...

I'm moving out but too scared to tell Mom!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4317 days ago

23 February 2013 (F) - Well alot if things had change lately. Hmmm so after everything my boyfriend ask me seriously to get a place with him. I must be out of my mind cause I told him yes I will get an apartment with him. Now.. I have no close what I'm going to tell me ...

I want us to be a family but I'm tired of doing everything all for nothing!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4319 days ago

23 February 2013 (F) - I am in a bondle. I have been with this person about 3 years now on and off and we have a son together. Its our first kid for the both of us and when we first started dating everything was great and we spent lots of time together. I found out I was ...