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writes:Dear Cupid,my brother and I are employed at the same place we have private conversations between each other at home about our relationships with different people in our lives so that's cool. However he then went to work and told one of the coworkers I have been celibate for 10 years.Now several men are looking at me like a piece of meat I am very upset .Even though I'm not in a relationship with anyone doesn't give him the right to put me on blast at work ! I am so angry feel like my hair caught on fire:(
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 February 2013):
 ouch...
brother didn't think much did he.... I do not think he did it to be mean... he just didn't think
if the men look at you like a piece of meat.. just ignore them.... looks can't hurt you
if they come on to you... fix them in the eye and say "you don't want me filing a sexual harassment suit with HR do you?" they will say no... and you say "didn't think so, so let's behave as adults shall we"
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 February 2013):
 Wow, that is just really immature of your brother. I would definitively tell him that that is NOT OK, you are NOT looking to DATE or have SEX with any co-workers. And that in the future PRIVATE information between the two of you needs to stay private.
As for any of the guys hitting on you at work now, ignore it and they will stop. If they don't get a reaction out of you the "game" stops being fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2013): That's quite unfortunate... You seem really close to your brother and it looks like it's the first time he does this "blunder". In a twisted way, maybe he did it to help you because he wants you to find a potential partner so wanted to give a little push from his side. It's a pity that the trust between you both is broken, but maybe you can still talk to him about how inappropriate and immature it was for him to talk about your love life to your colleagues. Alas... There is not much you can do to change the situation with your colleagues. Just try to ignore it and carry on as your usual professional self, soon enough another gossip type of situation will take over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2013): A hard lesson not to trust the brother again.
I think you deserve the right to tell him off but it may not help the situation except get your anger out.
Now you have a few options:
- Make no comment.
- Laugh it off.
- Tell them ofcourse bro thinks i'm a celibate compared to him, man slag lol.
- quit
- the one i advise, grin and bare it as best you can as it will be old news in no time.
Best of luck x
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