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writes:Hi Everyone. I am stuck. Properly stuck. My story is this. Two brothers.When I met the elder, he liked me and wanted to date me, but I decided he wasn't the guy for me. We set up a bit of a flirtation but only that. He has a girlfriend now and is very happy.Now I have just found out the younger brother likes me and I have to admit I fancy him very muchly. But, how do I ask him out? Or even ask for his mobile number? I'm not sure he even has a mobile phone lolI found out he liked me through his mother, who I work with. He told her in a roundabout way and now she keeps joking that she will soon be my mother-in-law!!Now, my question is, how do I progress with this? I know my work mate would not make it up and a few days ago when I went round, he appeared and we spent the next half hour in a group, me, him, his mother and his little sister, which was nice but not exactly ideal for the pair of us.See the thing is, he is very shy and will not approach anyone. He has self esteem issues because of his weight, but I don't think a persons weight makes them, I like his humour, and his face and he has a lovely smile. So I am a little smitten myself. But I would like to text him, just to set up a proper conversation, mostly it has been talking to his mum about him discreetly. You know the sort of stuff I mean?I have the problem of, I act ridiculously aloof in such situations, no matter how much I like a man. And then there is a chance the person loses interest and I think to myself, 'For goodness sakes woman, get a grip!'So tips pleeeeease!! I do like him, its just my dumb manner that prevents me from a chase lol
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (24 February 2013):
 Rather than try to "drive" a partnership with this shy guy.... why not just stay close? ... stay friendly? ... and let matters evolve without any undue pressure by either of you? From your submittal, it "sounds" as if you have regular contact with him and his family... so you're already in Royal Albert Hall, just not yet on the stage..... Be patient.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2013): Write it down if no chance to talk and pass it to him. The note should reads something like "If you'd like to get to know me better, call me : *insert number*". Not too much detail so its not off putting either. I'd suggest saying it to him but you sound a bit shy/nervous too so sometimes the sly way gets the ball rolling faster :) Gives him time to think too without having to say yes/no to you that second :)
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