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writes:Hey everyone,I have a boyfriend who knows everything about me apart from certain things about my family I omitted like...my dad's sister ran away against the wishes of her family and got married to a convict whose been involved in a lot of crimes,and he's no longer alive,he was shot by another convict in a brawl!I have never met this man,our families stayed apart..all I want to know is if my boyfriend finds out about this,would he want to settle down with me?or will it effect him? cuz I do want him to know everything about me,and even this!what do I do?how do I handle it? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (28 February 2013):
 If he leaves you because of what someone else in your family did , then he was never really with you.
We cannot and should not be held accountable for the bad behaviors of others unless they are our minor children.
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reader, hellokittyfan12 +, writes (28 February 2013):
 In my opinion you should not worry about this because if your boyfriend loves you he will understand. It would be foolish of him to not want to be with you over this. The reasons I say this are because
1. He's dead!
2. You did not know this man
3. He was not even your blood relative
So your aunt married a convict so what! That has absolutely nothing to do with the way you behave or how you will act when you settle down with him. I will however say that you should have at least mentioned it. If it really bothers you then tell him.
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reader, ihavetoomanythoughts +, writes (28 February 2013):
 The best thing to do would be to tell him immediately! Better you find out now than in a few years time, after you've made too big of an emotional investment in him!
Personally I don't think it's really an issue, particularly if he is the kind of boyfriend to stick with you through thick and thin.
Actually, I know a girl who had a close relative who committed a pretty serious act of passion... but the girl had nothing to do with that relative or the incident. Her boyfriend didn't care because he knew the girl he was gonna marry wasn't anything like her relative :)
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (28 February 2013):
Remberber please that you are NOT responsible for what your aunt did or who she married.There are lots of families with problem members in them but that is life no one is prefect. As you have told your boyfriend ALL about you and he is happy with that.I would expect him to have lots of understanding re your aunt.Best Wishes Nora B.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (28 February 2013):
 Hi, there is no way for knowing for sure. It depends on your boyfriend / his family and the ethnic group.
Also depends if he has his own family dirt that he would like to hide then he will be more accepting.
I accept this has nothing to do with you but people can be fickle and say if the family is like that imagine the girl.
Sorry honey, only time will tell how much you mean to mean to him that what your family dirt is will not matter.
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