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Archived questions from: May, 2009 (see latest in Faded love category)

Faded love: Help and advice

He turns to his friends for all of the fun times...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - What does it mean when after a year+ relationship that your boyfriend wants to spend more time with his friends? He never does anything with me anymore other than chores and wants to go out with his friends to do fun things and go drinking and play...

How could he just stop loving me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - iv been going out with my boyfriend for one year and 6 months. i went on holiday for 10 days and rang him a copoul of times and when i did he turned his fone off and stuff and was really nasty for no reason. i came home expecting him to be wait...

Help me win her back!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

31 May 2009 (M) - Okay..... Me and my girlfriend of 1 year and 1 month love each other very much. But i recently made a huge mistake. At my graduation they was a group of people who dont like my girlfriend. And i hung out with my girlfriend the entire night, but i ...

For the past weeks he has been rather distant, I think I don't love him any longer but I am afraid to tell him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5685 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - Hey :) So I have been with my current boyfriend for about five months now. At first things were AMAZING, we had so much in common and he seemed perfect for me. We would talk for hours on end. He would always tell me how much I loved him, and I loved ...

Together since we were teenagers, our relationship has deteriorated with time!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5685 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - Ok so I will be as breif as possible. I am 24 and my Special other is 28. We have been together since I was 16 and lived together since I was 17. We were a great couple up until about 3 years ago. Something just changed. Neither of us are interested ...

I feel used and stepped on by my partner of 6 years. Am I a sap?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5687 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - someone please help i feel so down ive been with my current partner for 6 years for the past 4 hes been very cold to me emotionally ive tried everything i can to help. ive put myself in terrible financial hardship to help him but when i...

I'm in love with my close girl friend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5688 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - we are on the same dormitory but diiferent rooms. we started hanging out until one day she wants to sleep beside me every night. i was used to it that she always sleeps besides me but then as months past by she told me that she don't want to ...

How do I get over my boyfriend, he is all I've ever known

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5688 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - Hi all. Ive just broken up with my boyfriend of 1 year. To put it simply, im devastated. In hindsight, the relationship was going downhill since christmas. I think maybe we got two comfortable with eachother, the spark was gone, we were more or less ...

I keep forgetting to get my ID so that I can sign up to get on the public dole rather than get a job, and my boyfriend is really bugging me about it. He wants me to start getting welfare as soon as possible and doesn't believe that I just forgot to g

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5689 days ago

25 May 2009 (F) - My boyfriend says he needs me, cares about me and loves me. We were getting on just fine until about a week ago and now hes suddenly turned into an arsehole. He asked me to move in after the first time we met and i accepted, we both really liked ...

I want a divorce but I'm worried he will take my baby from me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5691 days ago

24 May 2009 (F) - Dear friends, Please help me! I am unhappy in my marriage. My husband doesn't love me but he doesn't want to get a divorce. I don't wanna see him. I also stopped loving him. We have a baby. And this makes everything more difficult to get a divorc...

Is there hope for me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5692 days ago

22 May 2009 (F) - My husband and I have been married for 11 years now. We have 3 beautiful children. Our marriage was a marriage made in heaven. Two years ago we got the internet and ever since then my husband spends hours online looking at other woman. Within the ...

Should I still be expecting him to make a bit of an effort after we have been together so long?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5693 days ago

21 May 2009 (F) - Recently I feel as though my boyfriend doesn't care enough about our relationship, and I'm not sure what I can do. When we first started going out, my boyfriend effectively did all the chasing, he made such an effort and did everything he co...

I think we are falling apart...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - Well I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years now Iam 20 and he's 21 we have a 3 year old child together and lately I've been feeling lonely like iam in this relationship by myself we never go out or do anything fun.Were always fussing and everytime ...

Ever since I got pregnant I've been mean to my husband and dislike everything about him!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5485 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - hi I have a serious problem since I got pregnant. I have been very mean to my husband. I don't want him to touch me sexually, I dislike everything about him, and I feel like we can be friends other than lovers. this has been going on for a while... ...

Recently married and wondering if it was a big mistake

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5687 days ago

19 May 2009 (F) - Hello all, please please can anyone advise me on this. My husband and i have been together for about 5 and half years. we got married about 6 months ago. And to be honest i just think i have made a huge mistake. The months leading up to the...

I need to move out, but I don't want to lose his friendship. Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5695 days ago

19 May 2009 (F) - Please help I'm not sure what to do. I'm living with a male friend who is also an ex and at first everything was fine until he got a girlfriend. I told him I was moving out and he got upset and begged me to stay, so I did as he had some valid ...

Should I pick the one I'm living with, the ex-boyfriend, or just toss both of them?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5696 days ago

19 May 2009 (F) - well here goes. im living with a guy that at the beginning wanted a real relationship. now he says he doesn't wont to fall in love and now he only has feelings of a friend. he waited for 7 months to tell me this. what gives? now an old boyfriend has ...

No romance for me but he's still madly in love. Should I leave?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5697 days ago

18 May 2009 (F) - First, some background - I'm 26 and my boyfriend is 30. We've been seeing each other for almost 2 years now and I'm thinking of calling it quits, but I'm afraid I'll regret leaving. What should I do? From the start I've noticed big differences ...

Why has he lost sexual interest in me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5696 days ago

18 May 2009 (F) - What are the causes for a husband to lose sexual interest with his wife? Any opinion is appreciated....

Why isn't sex such a big factor now?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5697 days ago

17 May 2009 (F) - So me and my boyfriend havent had sex in a while(since last month)and we have talked about how we want to whenever it is were away or miss each other. i love him and obviously our relationship isnt just about sex which is good. but what confuses me ...

My husband makes me feel like I make him unhappy...help!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5698 days ago

17 May 2009 (F) - My husband lights up to the sight of anyone around him, normal and happy. When he is with me he makes me feel like I make him unhappy quit and withdrawn only touches me when ready for sex I want my marriage to work but feel bad like I make him ...

Suddenly there is this distance between us. I don't know what went wrong!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5698 days ago

17 May 2009 (F) - I m 18 year old.n in luv wth a classmate of mine for past 8 year. nothng changed but i dont know why a distance grew betweem us. he is the same but i dont know what went wrong? ...

What if I am missing out on the love of my life?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5698 days ago

16 May 2009 (F) - Finally moving in a week but not sure if I might be making the right decision. My bf and I had been together in a LDR for 5 years. Our relationship, has gone through a lots of down. He has lied to me on several occasions; and even though he says ...

Love gives pain

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5698 days ago

16 May 2009 (M) - my girl friend is loving me so much from 6 months but now she is speaking with other boy over the phone i told her i dont like it but she said i'll flirt over the phone only nothing more i love u so much. i had fought with her she is still speaking ...

Feels like hell

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5699 days ago

16 May 2009 (M) - First off, I'm a guy, and while this may seem unusual coming from a person of the male persuasion, I feel utterly lost and confused by my current predicament, so let me try and explain as best I can. Let me begin by saying I'm madly in love wi...

I feel like a ping pong ball going between these two guys...what do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5699 days ago

15 May 2009 (F) - i was 16 when i first met him (my ex), he was then 20. he was perfect for me, a drummer, he matched my personality and character, took care of me and was all i ever wanted in a man. however, he smoked, had a nasty temper (although he use it only ...

I have a healthy sex drive but she is just not interested in sex anymore!...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5699 days ago

15 May 2009 (M) - i am 24, in college, trying to start a career but there is a problem. My g/f and i have been on and off for about 3 years. We've had relationships with other people and even went almost a year without talking once. We are back together and she is ...

I don't want him to kiss me! I just want to be alone!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5700 days ago

14 May 2009 (F) - I'm 18 and at a hard time in life. Iv been dating this guy for 9months. He's 21 and lives with me, my mom, my little sister and my moms boyfriend. When the relationship started I fell in love with him so fast! He was my world but over time I don't ...

I thought everything was fine between us, now she's depressed and is breaking up with me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5699 days ago

13 May 2009 (M) - Hi, My girlfriend and I have dated for 3 1/2 years. It has been wonderful, we have loved each other so much, we are both each others first true love. She always has said how great she thinks I am and we often enjoy thinking of one day getting ...

Newly separated and I miss her. How to stay strong is difficult!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5702 days ago

12 May 2009 (M) - I am three weeks separated from my wife, who I have dated, lived with and been married to for 7 years - married for 4.5 years. We have two beautiful children, 1.5 and 3.5 years old. We put every wrench into our relationship without spending...

My wife wants to move back in, but I am having an affair behind her back!

This question has 37 answers - newest was posted 5648 days ago

12 May 2009 (M) - Hi There Please help me do the right thing Im a married man, 52 years old, who lives apart from his wife (due to work) I actually live in a different country most of the time and only see her and my 18 and 21 year old sons aproximately 4 time...

Am I making a mountain out of a mole hill?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5702 days ago

11 May 2009 (F) - i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, he lived 2 hours drive from me and made every opportunity to come and see me (every weekend and somtimes a surprise visit during the week), occasionally i went to stay at his (but i only went when invited ...

Staying together for the kids....

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

11 May 2009 (M) - I haven't been in love with my girlfriend for a long time. We have just had our 6th anniversary, we have 2 kids, 5 and 4 years old. We were friends for many years before we got together. We are not married but have lived together and shared ...

Is it me....or him? What do you think?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5703 days ago

11 May 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 and a half years now...we have had our fair share of ups and downs and have split before for 3 months, but started to see each other again because he said that he really loved me and that he has really ...

Why does a man stop feeling sexual desires for his wife? All opinions appreciated

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5703 days ago

11 May 2009 (F) - I was wondering , if I can ever figure this out somehow. Do you know , what reason, a man stop having sexual deisre? Well, my husband used to be very sexual with me. But not anymore. He stoped it ,years ago.. I just think he is not in love wit...

Sit around and wait? Or find another person?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5704 days ago

10 May 2009 (M) - I am 36 she is 44. age is not a problem as we seen past this in our first month of our relationship. we have been dating for over a year now and she has seemed to of lost interest in me. Our first 6 months were great. Sex all the time sometimes 3...

How do I tell him I just can't do this anymore?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5704 days ago

10 May 2009 (F) - I was in a relationship with this guy for three years. He was my first boyfriend and I was very much in love with him. However, when I left uni, we decided to end it as I was going off travelling. He came to visit a couple of times over that summer, ...

Help! He's too tired to sleep with me but stays up all night to watch weird porn!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5697 days ago

10 May 2009 (F) - *sigh* okay so here it goes i apologize for grammar since now because i am in a hurry. Okay so some inside details, I have been with my boyfriend for almost three years now, things were fine at the beginning of our relationship. and things moved ...

She waited for me to get a divorce for 4 years, got tired and dated, now wants me back, should I give in?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

9 May 2009 (M) - I met this young lady a fews years back. I thought she was a real sweetie.We hit things off very well. The problem was that I was still married and living with my wife. I decied that I was going to divorce my wife before I met this young lady but i ...

How can I tell if I've fallen out of love?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5706 days ago

9 May 2009 (F) - Hello All, I used to cry, suffer, begg and fight for the love of a man I once knew. He did many things against me. Although, he was emotionally abusive, rejections, humilliation, etc. Still I urged to be with him. I cried a river of tears over this ...

Have I fallen out of love?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5706 days ago

8 May 2009 (F) - Dear readers, i have a dilemma and i dont know how to deal with it. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about a year and everything seems to be ok. But lately i have lost all feelings of love and affection for him. I dont know if its ...

I want my ex gf back!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

7 May 2009 (M) - Alright so heres my story. Im 17 and Basically me and my girlfriend have been together for 6 months on and off. Weve stopped talking twice before this relationship. The first time was for a week and the second time was for a month. But both for the ...

She is ignoring my calls and messages - should I be worried or am I just being immature?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5707 days ago

7 May 2009 (M) - My gf is mid 30 and I am mid 20. She is married and divorced with a daughter. She been through a bad relationship before. Added with the age gap, sometimes, I don't know if the things I expect her to do is correct. I need some advices bec...

I want to seperate, but how do I say it?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5707 days ago

5 May 2009 (F) - I want to leave my husband of 6 years but am not sure how to say it. He says its obvious I don't love him (which isn't entirely true) but I am not "in love" with him anymore my question is, how do I tell him. I hate hurting him and seeing him c...

She doesn't have a very attractive body...will I get over that eventually?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5704 days ago

5 May 2009 (M) - I recently started a relationship with a girl I get along very well with. She lives in a different city and she is considering moving to the city I live in. When we are together, I am attracted to her mind enough so that we have a decent love life. ...

It's a love/hate thing we have going on! Any advice would be appreciated.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5709 days ago

4 May 2009 (?) - Hey, I would really appreciate some advice here! I have been obsessed (this is an understatement) with this guy for a year now and for most of this time we have not been on speaking terms. He claims to hate me and my feelings towards him vary ...

Can't stop thinking about my bf's friend! Is this fair to my bf-should we break up??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5707 days ago

4 May 2009 (F) - I'm 20 years old. I have been with my partner for 4 years and have two children with him. and i do love him. but since i was at school i have liked one of his friends. and all of a sudden this friend is spending a lot of time with our family and i ...

Am I just overly jealous, or is this a legitimate issue that I should strongly pursue?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5710 days ago

4 May 2009 (M) - I don't know if I'm a jealous guy, or if I'm just too insecure with myself ... My problem is, my wife's sister got herself in a rough spot, so we took her into our home and have taken care of her for the past year. Before this, my wife and I would...

Am I wasting my time with this relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5711 days ago

3 May 2009 (F) - Right now I'm in a very unhappy relationship. I have no idea what my boyfriend is feeling or thinking! Here is some basic information: - He is the same age as me - We were great friends for years before becoming a couple - We've been dating fo...

He can't keep an erection and I am too young to forgo this part of my life! Help?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5712 days ago

2 May 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for over a year we are both in our late forties and married for 20 years and divorced. He shared withme while we had been dating for 2 or 3 weeks that he had diabetes and therefore can not get an erection. I do love ...