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writes:Hey :) So I have been with my current boyfriend for about five months now. At first things were AMAZING, we had so much in common and he seemed perfect for me. We would talk for hours on end. He would always tell me how much I loved him, and I loved him alot. Or so I thought, as I am still young. But for the past few weeks he has been really odd, boring, not talkative, and hasn't said he loves me for at least a month. I know it may seem selfish of me to expect him to say it 24/7 but I really don't know what is going on. I asked him if he was okay and he said "more than okay" - but I am still not convinced. Is he trying to brake up with me? I would rather he just tell me than messing with me. But the thing is, because of the way he is acting I don't love him anymore. I feel alot closer to my male best friends than him. I am afraid to ask him straight up "do you still love me?" because my gut instinct tells me he will say no, however I am also afraid to tell him I don't love him anymore, because I don't want to lose him. Please help me, it will be greatly appreciated. Thanks a bunch! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): you've just otld my story lol just ask him theres no point in being with someone if your not happy in a relationship maybe he'll say he still loves you maybe theres a problem at home or with his friends . i had this prolem and we agreed to break p coz he didnt love me anymore tis was yesterday n he was like your boyfriend at hte bginning he wa always asyaing how pretty i was n how much he lvoed me n he became distant n i decided it was tyn to move on. its his loss if he cant see what a great girl you are and ill bet you, you'll find some one even better 3 guys asked me out afta my boyfriend dumped me n hes now tryin to get back with me buti wont . if you dont love him tell him even if its scary x
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reader, betty_black +, writes (29 May 2009):
 People come and go. You will find in life that certain people are good at a time in your life but you grow out of them, and want to move on. Its just a part of life, people drift into our lives when were least expecting it and drift back out in the same way too. Its how we are as humans, we grow bored of people, we dont want to be around people as much and we lose interest. Don't be hasty about it, just tell him straight. If you dont love him then whats the problem in losing him? Your still really really young and at its not gonna be hard for you to find someone else believe me. Your way too young to be bogged down with a relationship you dont even want to be in, just be honest with him and you might even find out that he feels the same way!
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (29 May 2009):
 If you don't love him then just tell him! Don't be afraid of losing him because you are still young! You will find that lots of amazing people will drift in and out of your life and it would be a shame to stay with someone who is acting this way. Trust me on this one and let him go, I've been there and done that....it will hurt at first, but it will be worth it! X
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2009): Even if you are scared and afraid, just go for it and get it done. Ask him if he still loves you, if not then you know what to do. You dont feel the same way for him any longer either. Just think about it: you dont want to loose him, but you dont love him. Its not fair to him or yourself. Break it off before more time goes by.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2009): Just ask him.
You need to know- you can't keep worrying about it and maybe the worrying thats going on in you're head- the thinking he doesnt love you anymore could be the reason why you're feelings have changed towards him also.
So ask him, maybe he'll give an answer you don't like but then atleast you can go you're seperate ways and concentrate on finding someone else who treats you right.
And if he says that he still loves you; ask him why he's been distant with you the past few weeks and then maybe you two can start re-building you're relationship for the better.
:)
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