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writes:Well I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years now Iam 20 and he's 21 we have a 3 year old child together and lately I've been feeling lonely like iam in this relationship by myself we never go out or do anything fun.Were always fussing and everytime we have sex after he cums he goes to sleep!! And I guess its for get about me I try to talk to him about how I feel and he'll tell me he's gonna change and do this and that but he never does anything I love him so much Ijust dnt know what to do or how to make our sitution better any ideas? Reply to this Question
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reader, LOML +, writes (20 May 2009):
LOML is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for the advice Ill try some of the things u guys sugguested...smh
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reader, Lilly Rose  +, writes (20 May 2009):
 Well after 7 years and having a child you both have had to grow up quite quick...so youve prob lost the fun you once had.....i know it sounds so simple but try dating again with him, get a babysitter, go for a meal or cinema, do yourself up like you would if you was meeting him for the first time, your still inlove with him so thats great, i think youuv just both got into a routein which is normal but sometimes you need to spice things up do some new things together just the two of you, remind him why he got with you in the first place......about the sex thing maybe try and talk to him and say ud want a cuddle after sex or few kisses....if not then you try cuddle him after sex!
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reader, Emmal +, writes (20 May 2009):
 Hi, Loml!
I was in a similar situation to you, I and my boyfriend went through a rough patch where I felt like I was holding the relationship up by myself. Then he explained to me that we were both showing our love and affection for eachother in different ways. I then realized all the little things he does for me, that make me happy.
Is there anything he does to still make you feel loved and special? Or is there nothing at all?
In my experience, men just want to sleep after sex so don't try talking to him directly afterward wait for a time when you're both suitably calm enough to have a knuckle-down.
As for going out and doing things together, find out what he really enjoys and organise something in advance to suprise him with?
Also, try not to keep telling him that he needs to make changes because he'll probably just see this as 'nagging' him to change, give him a period of time to make changes and if he doesn't make an effort then sit him down and go through all the things that you feel need to be improved but give him time to assimilate all the information instead of just piling it on. If he still doesn't make any changes, then make a mental note of how many chances you're going to give him in the long-run.
Don't be afraid to ask him why he feels this way.
Hope this helped a little,
Emmal. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2009): Sounds like your relationship is in a bit of a rut. Since your boyfriend doesnt seem to want to talk about the problem I think that you should make an appointment with a relationship counsellor.
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