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writes:So me and my boyfriend havent had sex in a while(since last month)and we have talked about how we want to whenever it is were away or miss each other. i love him and obviously our relationship isnt just about sex which is good. but what confuses me is that whenever we are actually together cuddling and falling asleep together we totally forget about sex. i mean sometimes i would feel like doing so but for some reason i wait for him to start it off so then time flies and he doesnt. do you think he is doing the same? i hate that im starting to feel like im unattractive. even though he does tell me im cute like every single day. i need your advice on what i should do. i will talk to him about it but i need opinions first. thank you! hope i explained it well. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2009): I don't understand the problem to be honest, why don't you just instigate the sex? I do know how you feel though, I can lie in bed all day with my girlfriend cuddling and it doesn't go any further, because it just feels so perfect to be holding her.
My advice is if you're horny go for it, don't wait for him to start, just because he doesn't initiate it all the time this is not a reflection on your attractiveness, this really isn't something you should feel insecure about.
Talk to him about it and see what he says, but above all if you're in the mood to fool around then just do.
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reader, sammi star  +, writes (17 May 2009):
 It's possible he's feeling exactly the same as you. Talk to him like you said, keep the conversation light so he doesn't feel pressured, just ask him what's going on and explain that you want to get back to that kind of closeness. Or, you could make the first move? I'm sure he won't object! Good luck x
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reader, Joey 2008 +, writes (17 May 2009):
I think he is thinking the exact same as you are, you are waiting for him to make a move and he is waiting for you you are thinking he is not intrested and vice versa!
Best advice chuck on summin sexy and make a move thats the only way to do it. i suggest you try making a move and if you still have no luck then try talking but im sure it will work fine!
Good Luck x
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