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writes:Okay..... Me and my girlfriend of 1 year and 1 month love each other very much. But i recently made a huge mistake. At my graduation they was a group of people who dont like my girlfriend. And i hung out with my girlfriend the entire night, but i was scared that the group would make fun of me or something like that if i was around my girlfriend. Well i hung out with her the entire night, but i didnt put my arm around her, or hold her hand, nor did i say she looked good (it was a formal event). So she got pretty sad that night and cried almost the entire night because of that. We broke up because of this, but i feel we are at a point where she says shes not getting back together but i know i can get her back. I know her very well, its gonna be tricky and tedious but i know i can get her back. Ive said sorry to her probably around 100 times now. And i need to do something pretty drastic to show her im proud to be her boyfriend and that i love her. I just do not know what to do. I keep doing the little things like telling her i love her (even when she doesnt say it back). Im still polite to her, i do everything. But still i really need help to figure out the 1 big thing that will show her im not embaressed of her nor do i care what people think/say/do. I know she wants me to defend our relationship instead of being a wussy and being scared of people who dont like our relationship. So please whoever is reading this, give me any advice you can think of. ANYTHING WILL HELP!!! Please i need help ASAP. Thank you very much for your advice! :-)
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reader, Katy.  +, writes (31 May 2009):
 I personally agree with "Bunnibob" I'm in a relationship of just a month more than you two, and although it feels absolutley horrible the fact I could lose him anytime, I still know that everything works out in the end. Do what ever you can to get her back, even ask her, but at the end of the day if she still doesn't want to take you back, you're never going to get her and as hard as it seems at the time, moving on will be the best option. After that long of being togther, some people just don't feel the same way as they did a few months back, things change and people change.
Anyways, if I was her, I'd like a big bunch of flowers with a little note; write on it how much you care for her, love her, can't bare being without her and you promise this won't happen again. Girls like security and knowing they won't be hurt again. Tbh I don't think what you did was completley major, maybe cause an argument but that's it. So if you do all you can, if that's how much you want her, then there isn't alot more you can do but move on from her and with your life.
Hope this helps abit.
Katy x
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2009): Do something that you wouldn't normally do like write her a letter explaining everything. It is important to not put any blame for this on her, but honesty is very, very important. Make her feel special.If I were her I'm not sure I would take you back, but I am pretty stubborn. If this is the first problem of this kind then any reasonable person would forgive and forget.Good luck with it all!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2009): maybe its best not to try and get her back. maybe in time she might see that you were meant to be but if not then there will definitley be someone out there that will take you back no matter what. we are only young and we cant be expected to find the person that will truly make us happy. maybe its a good thing that you broke up. maybe it was for the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2009): If I was your ex I would love if you would write me a poem saying why you didn't touch her and why you love/like her. You could also go the next step by annoucing it infront of that group of people (i.e. Get on table tell her you love/like her) I hope this helps, but always remember that there are plenty other fish in the sea.
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