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Archived questions from: October, 2016 (see latest in Breaking up category)

Breaking up: Help and advice

I've never had feelings like this before, but I'm getting whiplash!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2970 days ago

31 October 2016 (F) - Ok, so here it is: A couple months ago i met this guy, and it was instant attraction from both sides. Physical attraction that i have NEVER felt before, but what was strange is that there was the emotional attraction as well. We are very good ...

I want to dump him but don't want to hurt him

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2974 days ago

30 October 2016 (F) - I go out with this boy and he loves me so much and I don't want to hurt him, but I don't love him as much. I want to dump him but I'm afraid that he will hate me and possibly regret ever going out with me. Any advice?...

I'm on vacation with girlfriend but found out she wants to break up with me. What do I do now?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 2971 days ago

30 October 2016 (M) - Ok so I'm on holiday in Tenerife with my girlfriend of 4 months and I have just found out she wants to end it with me either during or after the holiday. I've read messages between her and her mum who is encouraging her to "get shot as I'm not good ...

Can't shake feeling that ex will come back

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2974 days ago

30 October 2016 (F) - My ex and I had a LDR for 1 month shy of 2 years. During the relationship there were many fights, and we'd often break up and reconcile constantly - sometimes multiple times a month. I'm very aware that a bulk of our problems came from me lying to ...

I broke up with my ex, like a new girl but don't know if I should date her because it would ruin any future my ex and I might have

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2976 days ago

28 October 2016 (M) - I'm 18 and in my first year at uni. Me and my long term (1 year and 3 months) girlfriend moved to different areas of the country for uni (about 1hour 30mins by car apart) and due to a number of reasons (including distance, lack of time for each ...

Does anyone have any experience of feeling "numb" after a relationship?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2976 days ago

27 October 2016 (F) - About 2 weeks ago my boyfriend dumped me. We had been together one year and friends for 3. Everything was great in our relationship, we had lots in common and planned to spend the rest of our lives with each other. 2 weeks before we broke up we st...

Should I hang in there in this relationship? Or just express my feelings and move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2978 days ago

25 October 2016 (F) - Sooooo it seems my estranged bf and I are done done. Short backstory, we've been friends for 10 years, we dated for 3 1/2 and last year I broke up with him. I was frustrated with our development, i didn't feel supported with help with bills and the ...

Can you help? Seeking tips on how to move on when you finally realize that the love of your life is no longer available to you or no longer loves you?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2979 days ago

23 October 2016 (M) - Hello everyone, So I’m the same guy who wrote these two posts. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/mixed-signals-from-my-crush.html http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-fwb-has-f...

I was the first Gf he ever had. Is he now over me? Or is he protecting his feelings?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2977 days ago

23 October 2016 (F) - i was seeing this guy for a few months and it was going so well but we both knew that at the end of summer o had to go back to study abroad for 3 months. When I left I told him maybe we shouldn't try long distance because I really liked him and ...

My beloved Bf is returning to the other side of the world. How do I cope with losing him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2978 days ago

22 October 2016 (F) - I met this guy a year ago, we started dating and have been together for about a year now - I've never been so happy in my life, he completes me and is perfect. But, he's moving back home to the other side of the world - he came over here to travel ...

My girlfriend hooked up with my cousin years ago

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2982 days ago

21 October 2016 (M) - My girlfriend and I've been dating for a few months, I'm bothered that I have sex with the same girl my cousin had. I know everyone has a past but he's my family member, it's weird! She told me she had sex with him years ago in college. My cous...

I can't get my unemployed ex boyfriend out of my house

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2982 days ago

21 October 2016 (F) - I've been in a relationship for 6 months, been thru a lot but really don't want a relationship anymore period. The issue is I haven't been able to get him out. What do I have to do? He has no job now after I threw him out and stuck in my area for...

How can I escape this loneliness?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2983 days ago

21 October 2016 (F) - How can I get out of my depression. For the last 7 months Ive been hit with several bad episodes (it's been a rough year) - my relationship ended (it was a short one but still affected the way he acted towards me) he was not a caring man. My work ...

I had two great male friends but they have dropped me as a friend! I’m heartbroken. Leave them be? Or keep trying?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2983 days ago

20 October 2016 (F) - Hi everyone. I had two male friends and I say had because neither of them will talk to me anymore..:( Things got a bit awkward in terms of friendship because they both told me they liked me. The first one; he asked to meet up and I made ...

I don’t feel romantic love for him any longer but he doesn’t seem to listen to the potential for a great friendship. What do I do?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2964 days ago

20 October 2016 (F) - A month or so ago I wrote about having a great connection with a man who was 57 and older than me. I thank all the aunts and uncles again for all the wonderful advice. I sat back and thought everything through and I got to know him better. ...

If I get back together with my ex, should I tell him about the people I have slept with while we were broken up?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2981 days ago

19 October 2016 (F) - Hi there! So I was in a 4 and a half year relationship with an amazing guy. We broke up due to living in different places, arguing when we saw each other, and as I was in my final year at University, had way too much going on for all the arguing....

He's disinterested. Finding it hard to give up on my boyfriend and move on. What should I do ?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2985 days ago

19 October 2016 (F) - i dont know if i am in a relationship or what? Have been in a relationship with my boyfriend since March 2012 till now. Everything was well and nice suddenly he changed...he no longer calls,the comunication is down..down...its just bo...

My Gf is not talking. Should I consider the relationship is over??? Or could I revive our relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2985 days ago

18 October 2016 (M) - I want to keep the relationship but she won't reply to texts or take my calls. literally begged to her to talk, but she didn't respond. should I call this an end to this relationship? it's two days since we last talked. we recently fought ...

My ex broke up with me, then texted me 2 months later that he still loved me, then said he didn't want to lead me on!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2985 days ago

18 October 2016 (F) - My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. I've been dealing with it. The other day,out of the blue, he sent me a text message that said I love you. I felt that was not intended for me, so I called and told him that I think he sent the text to the ...

Did my letter to him mean I've lost him for good?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2985 days ago

17 October 2016 (F) - This guy I been talk to for years I broke of with him he never would ask me out it's been over 3yrs and never ask me he always come up with excuse not go out with me I see him about veryday when he goes by me and I he see me stand their when h...

I suffer from OCD and obsess over every little thing, lately the fact that my ex dumped me. What can I do to help myself?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2987 days ago

17 October 2016 (F) - Does anyone have any tips on moving on and rising from a situation - to be frank I have been diagnosed with OCD since I was a young girl now I'm (31) and I feel like my whole young adult life has been a big obsession and worry cloud. I either worry ...

My friend is accusing me of being a shitty friend because I like the guy she was cheating on her boyfriend with!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2987 days ago

16 October 2016 (F) - This is a very complex situation, so please bare with me as this story might be a little long-winded. In August, my friend Leslie started hanging out with this guy, Ian, she met through Tinder. They were talking to each other off-and-on for n...

I still love him, will breaking up teach him a lesson?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2987 days ago

14 October 2016 (F) - I just broke up with my boyfriend of almost one year. I am 23 years old and he is 28. When we met he told me that I am the one and quickly introduced me to his family and he met mine. The problem in my situation is that I come from a culture wh...

How can I get over being mistreated?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2990 days ago

14 October 2016 (F) - Earlier this year I was in a short term relationship a couple of months when I met this guy through friends of mine. Within two weeks the man asked me to be Ina relationship and even though we were both sexually attracted to each other - I didn't ...

Is this the old him again

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2899 days ago

12 October 2016 (F) - I broke up with my husband two months ago we spent a month apart. We split as he had issue with favoritism towards his kids and a dislike of my eldest girl and my father. He also tried to control me. Generally his attitude stunk towards my kids and ...

27 and still looking for the guy who wont pressure me for sex!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2989 days ago

12 October 2016 (F) - Hi. I just ended a year long relationship with someone. One of the main issues was that we have different points of views on sex. He told me that it is very strange for someone my age (mid to late 20s) to be a virgin. I know that is true, but is it ...

My boyfriend cant make up his mind!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2992 days ago

12 October 2016 (F) - Me and my ex broke up about 5 months ago. A month after we broke up he went out with one of our mutual friends and of course that bothered me but I just kept telling myself if they are happy then I'm happy. A month into that relationship they broke ...

I am always anxious that my b/f is going to leave me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2992 days ago

12 October 2016 (F) - 'm in a desperate situation. I suffer from diagnosed depression. Almost a year ago I met the man of my dreams and we are still together. In August I found messages to his female friend I had noticed he had a flirty relationship with on Facebook and ...

Getting back together after a break up?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2993 days ago

11 October 2016 (M) - We broke up last week and a few days later she suddenly came to my place crying, we barely talked because she was crying a lot and we didn't make any decision that day. Two days after I told her we should talk and it was better to talk in a ...

I haven't spoken to my boyfriend in 2 months! Is he trying to end things?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2993 days ago

10 October 2016 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for just under a year. In the last two months he has said to me he's been really busy and needs some time and space. He hasn't contacted me for 2 months everytime I message him on what's app he says well chat next week ...

I broke up with my boyfriend because of the distance but I really miss him

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2995 days ago

9 October 2016 (F) - I started dating my boyfriend (newly ex) when I was 17 and senior in high school when he was a freshman in college. We have been dating for over three years, long distance but can occasionally visit each other on the weekends and breaks for ...

Why did he present as single and not wear any ring? Only telling me later? I broke up, but now he's pursuing me. How do I handle this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2996 days ago

8 October 2016 (F) - I'm a divorced mom of 2 children. Single for almost 3 years now. I am tall, thin, athletic, and would consider myself a 7.5 – 8, however, six nights a month doesn’t really allow a lot of free time to date. About 7 months ago, I met a very cute ...

Women, have you ever been consistently rejected? What triggers a guy to reject ?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2938 days ago

7 October 2016 (F) - I'm not talking about one or two rejections; no--not even three. I mean like, 75% of the dates you went on, the guy didn't want to see you again. After being single my whole entire life, I can't help but to question where I went wrong on the date...

Will he ever make me a priority in his life? Should I move on?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2996 days ago

7 October 2016 (F) - We met online, he said that he thought I was a homebody by my profile. Technically I am - I spend most of my weekdays Netflixing and Gaming, I just like to do things once in awhile. When I was in college I was in a two clubs and a Sorority and thr...

Should I break up with him ? He is emotionally unavailable to me.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2997 days ago

6 October 2016 (F) - I have been dating my boyfriend from last two years.He was my first serious relationship. His ex cheated on him...after 1.5 year of that cheating episode..we started dating.I never had any honeymoon phase with him. He was very aloof..he was le...

Am I getting the soft goodbye?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2998 days ago

6 October 2016 (F) - I met a divorced guy who has joint custody of children of 12 and 13 and a tight work schedule. He told me last night he's not sure of his feelings and because of the stress between us in the last two weeks feels different. We wont be able to see ...

Will I lose something that was great? Or is it time to move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2998 days ago

6 October 2016 (F) - I was with a guy for a few months. his first girlfriend. i left to go study abroard for 3 months. i told him i didn't think it was a good idea to commit and maybe we should just take those time off whilst i was away. I was trying to do the sensible ...

Why does it hurt and feel like I'm missing ? Why?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2998 days ago

6 October 2016 (F) - Hello everybody, If you have read some of my other posts about me wanting to move on for good and cut the boy who treats me terribly completely, i have finally finished with him completely i think.. Backround info for new readers in caswe you may...

How can I reach a state of acceptance that the one I love does not love me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2998 days ago

5 October 2016 (F) - Hi there, confused to say the least. i am 19 and love a man who is older (about 15 years older) and this male constantly treats me wrong. Doesn't show any respect, love or loyalty. I believe i am very possessive with people and things and it's not ...

Why can't I find someone to date?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3001 days ago

4 October 2016 (F) - So about 2 months ago I broke up with my boyfriend. It has been my most meaningful relationship to date, because we lived together. At first it was all a dream. I was crazy in love, we had the chemistry that only happens in movies. And I felt loved ...

We broke up but I still think of him and miss him

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3000 days ago

3 October 2016 (F) - I dated a man for almost two years. We fought a lot and it wasn't the most heathy relationship. We've been broken up now since July and surprisingly, I'm having a hard time getting over him. I think of him often , laugh about the good times and ...

Girlfriend diagnosed with bipolar disorder! Break up?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2999 days ago

3 October 2016 (M) - I've been dating my girlfriend for a year and recently she found out she has bipolar disorder. Now I understand why she has always been hot and cold with me, I'm thinking about breaking up as I'm not happy anymore. She' taking BP medications but ...

My ex broke up with me so why is she acting so weird about avoiding me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3000 days ago

2 October 2016 (M) - My ex was picking fights so we broke up and it ended messy. I tried everything to keep it going. At the time I thought it was completely my fault and I was doing something wrong but looking back now I know it was both of us but largely because of ...

Is it worth calling her up after 3 years? Or should I just let it go?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3000 days ago

2 October 2016 (M) - 3 years ago I met a beautiful and smart girl at comic con and we hit it off right away. She was 19 and even though we lived 80 miles from each other, we made it work and saw each other every weekend. We got into a relationship and everythi...

He was my FWB. Should I just leave him alone, for now?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3000 days ago

2 October 2016 (F) - About a year ago I had a one night stand with a guy i met on a night out, we got on really well and started texting and having casual sex regularly. Both of us didnt want a relationship so we decided to be friends with benefits. After a few months ...

I'm having a tough time with being single. How can I stop feeling so lonely?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3002 days ago

1 October 2016 (F) - I have written here before and I'm having a difficult time being alone- I have realized the pat friends and boyfriends I have had have all been toxic but have filed some void. Lately I have tried to keep busy and be alone but it's driving me nuts- I ...

Criticized, humiliated and not loved and not appreciated. What do I need to do to get over this loveless marriage? I've put on weight and eventually my health will be affected.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2993 days ago

1 October 2016 (M) - I know I should be thankful for my marriage, home and trying to build up to a good life. But I have just woken up this morning and feel like maybe my marriage is just too hard to keep going. Mainly because our communication is terrible. I had ...

I still have feelings for her. Should I keep in touch? She's about to marry another girl.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3001 days ago

1 October 2016 (F) - So I need a little help. Last year around this time, I started seeing a girl. She was beautiful, smart, educated, sweet. All things I look for in a relationahip. Honestly nothing was really lacking and we were pretty great together. We dated fo...