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Archived questions from: January, 2014 (see latest in Breaking up category)

Breaking up: Help and advice

Ashamed I wasted 18 months with someone who puts me down

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3946 days ago

31 January 2014 (F) - Yet again my boyfriend of 18 months has ruined another special occasion. Yesterday I left work early and made a real effort to make his birthday special. I bought him lovely gifts, dressed up and booked a table at his favourite restaurant. We w...

Was this man just using me?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3946 days ago

31 January 2014 (F) - Hi I'd like your opinion. I was going out with my ex from March 2013 to Nov 2013, he called a halt to our relationship after I text him asking what was up and not to shut me out. I was right, there was something up, but he called it all off. In...

Should I apologise to the ex for my wrongdoing?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3946 days ago

31 January 2014 (F) - I broke up with my ex 7 months ago because we fought too often. We had a brief period of no contact, but eventually he started talking to me again about once a week. We decided to give things another go about 2 weeks ago, but I bought up old issues ...

I can't get over the breakup and the nasty comments I've heard since.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3947 days ago

30 January 2014 (F) - I have seeing this guy for 3.5 years. We met on the job and I thought he was a good man, come to find out that he is insecure, low self esteem and a big flirt. At first he said he was not looking for a serious relationship but over the yrs he f...

I gave my ex another chance, reunited and I am pregnant - now I find out he cheated and lied. What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3946 days ago

30 January 2014 (F) - Hi To cut a long story short. I've been with my partner for nearly two years. A little less than a year into the relationship my partner treated me real bad. I don't want to go into too much detail but it left me devastated. We was on and off from...

Going back and forth on my decision to break up

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3948 days ago

29 January 2014 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. In that period I have cheated on him 3 times, 1 being a one night thing, 2 lasting longer than that. My last affair has been in the last few weeks, and I started to lose feelings for my boyfriend. I ended ...

We're not together anymore but we still act like a couple and have sex... it's starting to get to me. Advice please?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3948 days ago

29 January 2014 (F) - Last month my boyfriend decided that we "take a break" (or in other words: break up) and we've been together for maybe more than three years, but we've known each other much longer than that because we originally were best friends. Him and I have b...

Husband corresponding with his ex despite agreeing that he wouldn't. Need advice!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3948 days ago

29 January 2014 (F) - I just found out that my husband is still corresponding with his ex. I feel so betrayed because I thought he finally understood how I felt about him talking to her and for the simple fact that he assured me that he wouldn't talk to her for respect ...

Found out that my ex had been cheating on me almost the whole time

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3948 days ago

28 January 2014 (F) - I have just found out that my ex partner has been cheating on me with his best freinds wife I have found sext messages on his phone he Denys it we were together for 5 years but broke up awhile ago this is the second partner I have had that's ...

It all changed after my co-worker and I had a drunken night together

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3948 days ago

28 January 2014 (F) - I have a co worker who had been chasing me for a couple of months. I went out with him a few times for drinks after work and we used to talk alot, he asked me out a few times outside of work, but I always ignored his advances and kept it in the ...

Why send me a message, I went no contact with her!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3949 days ago

28 January 2014 (M) - Hi there, it´s been almost two months now after she dumped me and I went no contact from the first day on. Now she sendt me something via facebook the day after my birthday, but I haven´t read it yet.... She broke up things and it wasn´t ve...

I had never seen him in a fight before, and I can't handle it because of my past!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3948 days ago

28 January 2014 (F) - I have suffered from depression and anxiety since I was a teenager, and I'm now 21. I have had therapy and medication for the past four years, with a little success. When I explained it all to my now ex boyfriend, I thought he understood my mental ...

Should I go out with a co-worker of my ex? My ex suggested I consider dating his co-worker

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3950 days ago

28 January 2014 (F) - My ex and i broke up a little while ago, and we stayed friends. He left me because he didn't want to be in a relationship right now, since he had just got out of a long term relationship not too long ago. He says i'm an amazing girl, and I dese...

Why do girls suddenly distance themselves from a guy, when things seem to be going great?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3949 days ago

27 January 2014 (M) - Dear cupid I have experienced during my dating that sometimes girls suddenly distance themselves without any warning or explanation whilst you are dating a girl. (She doesn't like anyone else and she's single ). Why the sudden change in attitude w...

I'm not sure if he's "the one".

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3948 days ago

26 January 2014 (F) - Hi everyone, just looking for some advice. I'm 25 and have been meeting a guy aged 27 for about two months. We were initially friends, as when I met him, I was meeting somebody else. He made it clear he wanted more, but friends was better than ...

Is having an ex help out wrong?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3950 days ago

26 January 2014 (F) - Hi. I started dating a divorced guy with kids three years after breaking up with alongterm partner (no kids myself). We lived together for a year but then he moved for work, we see each other once a month. As it happens this move for work put him in ...

Why do I feel bad for having these feelings for him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3952 days ago

25 January 2014 (F) - I think I'm in love and I hate myself for it! For the past about 18 months a guy has been trying to pursue me romantically despite the fact I had a boyfriend. His family own a numerous businesses where I live, including the one I work at so I see...

Am I wrong to be curious about what sex is like with other men?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3951 days ago

25 January 2014 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for a year. It's my first serious relationship. He's 40. I'm 23. We get along well. Sex is good most of the time. He makes me laugh, he's kind, listens and really cares about me. The thing is lately I've been thinki...

Since I have been talking to a new girl, my ex has been in my thoughts!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3953 days ago

23 January 2014 (M) - Sorry if this takes to long right so I broke up with my ex now for 9 months she was my first ever girlfriend I lost my v to her ect we was together for 18 months since we broke up all I have been doing is flirting with other girls and meeting them ...

Should I tell my guy that I slept with a friend while we were broken up?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3954 days ago

23 January 2014 (F) - I'm in a messed up situation that I can't see out without losing my boyfriend who I have been with for three years. Basically, last September I had a miscarriage during my 9th week of pregnancy. We had only known for 2 weeks when I lost our baby...

He bailed on me.. so what's up with him?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3954 days ago

23 January 2014 (F) - Okay, my boyfriend, ex I should say, broke it off with me "unofficially" by disappearing 2 weeks ago. He told me he loved me by text, had nothing to offer, blah blah blah and then disappeared. The last thing he ever said to me was "I love you...". ...

I can't get over my ex-girlfriend, her mom and some family members still keep in touch with me, what do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3955 days ago

22 January 2014 (M) - My ex and i are both in the military, we met while serving at the same base and started to date. While we dated we moved in together and had ups and downs like any other relationship but we both knew we loved each other. Ive met her family and she ...

Ex-boyfriend came back into my life, only to disappear again!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3955 days ago

21 January 2014 (F) - My ex boyfriend recently came back into my life. We were hanging out and talking almost everyday again for about a month. Then suddenly the calls and texts just stopped. I haven't heard form him at all, and I have not called him. I just let it be. ...

My boyfriend keeps saying he'll propose any day now but never does

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 3955 days ago

21 January 2014 (F) - My boyfriend said he wants to marry me about 3 months ago. I told him I felt the same way. Two months ago he said we should start looking at rings. So we did. We went engagement ring shopping several times, with the understanding that no purchases ...

A crush slept with me and used me as a rebound after breaking up with his girlfriend!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3956 days ago

21 January 2014 (F) - So I did a stupid thing the other night and slept with an old co-worker of mine. We stopped working together June 2013 and had talked/hung out very little since then. Well last Sunday night he text me to go out to a bar we use to hang out at. I ...

Girlfriend is financially irresponsible

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3954 days ago

21 January 2014 (M) - My gf has serious personal finance problems. Even though she makes more than enough to pay her expenses and save, she consistently spends her entire paycheck and sometimes overspends it. She's open to discussion and is often willing to cutback ...

In a new relationship after a first love, and I'm confused that I don't feel that spark!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3956 days ago

21 January 2014 (M) - About 7 months ago I went through terrible breakup with my 'first love/relationship'. About 2 months later I met the girl that is my current girlfriend. We dated for 3 months before making things official (The only thing I regret is having sex with ...

I'm confused about this breakup and want to talk to him about it!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3955 days ago

21 January 2014 (F) - Hi my boyfriend broke up with me as he felt we didn’t click and he said he should be falling for me but he isn’t. He also said he’s not been happy. I am so confused about this break up. Things were great at the beginning of the relationship. W...

My boyfriend wont let go of my past!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3955 days ago

21 January 2014 (F) - Please, I need help with this. In the beginning of my relationship I made the treacherous mistake of telling my boyfriend about me giving oral to another guy, as I took it not very seriously and told him lots of details, it really got to him. ...

He said, she said, so what should I say?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3956 days ago

21 January 2014 (F) - Ok so basically this is what happened my crush called my sister a tramp and he was like I shouldn't be mad but then he went on to say that he don't like people calling him ratchet . I did at some hurtful things to him but he said some rude things as ...

Why is he treating her better?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3956 days ago

20 January 2014 (F) - Me and my ex split up last year and stopped talking then I decided to get back in touch with him. WWe were speaking and seein eachother now and again. Nothing had changed it was just like how things used to be when we were a couple. I then kept ...

38weeks pregnant he says hes not in love with me anymore

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3954 days ago

20 January 2014 (F) - Im struggling, my heart hurts my head is all over the place. My life has been shattered im 38weeks 4days pregnant with my first child ive gone from being happy nesting for the arrival to scared alone and wondering how im going to cope. He says he ...

Boyfriend of 3.5 years broke up with me out of the blue and I'm feeling lost

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3958 days ago

19 January 2014 (F) - My boyfriend and I were together over 3 years. 2 weeks ago he told me that he has nothing to offer me. He called himself a pathetic piece of shit that can't get off his ass and take care of stuff that needs to be taken care of. He said that he wants ...

How do I let him know his behaviour is not acceptable?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3953 days ago

18 January 2014 (F) - Hi guys. I'll try to be as brief as possible because this is complicated. So, I met my current guy two years ago through a mutual friend and very quickly we became inseparable. He was the best boyfriend I ever had, beautiful, romantic, and totally ...

Threats, fighting, verbal and mental abuse. Is he about to break up? What should I do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3958 days ago

18 January 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid yesterday i had a huge fight with my bf of 4 years, lately he is ignoring me, verbally and mentally abusing me all the time. Its getting difficult even to have a decent conversation with him on anything. Yesterday we had a huge f...

How long should I wait before contacting her? Even though she went "no contact" due to my actions.

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 3958 days ago

18 January 2014 (M) - When she deleted you and you went no contact, how long would you wait to contact her again? We were friends before and I somehow hate the thought of losing her totally.... ( I made a terrible mistake. I talked to her sister about it and I might h...

Ever been stuck on someone who's bad for you?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3959 days ago

18 January 2014 (F) - I'm stuck on my ex of almost 7 months. He only just convinced me to try the relationship again this week, and he was back yelling at me again within 24 hours. He hung up like always, will pretend not to talk for like 2 weeks but I don't really doubt ...

She told me she didn't want a serious relationship, then turned around and started dating someone else!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3959 days ago

17 January 2014 (M) - So this girl was dating for a few months ended things with me over Christmas. She at least seemed to be a really down to earth and nice girl but broke up with me after SHE missed one of our dates. So a few days we talk and i tell her that i'm...

I can't deal with the poop streaks he leaves on the bed!

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 3958 days ago

17 January 2014 (F) - This is a gross question but I really need advice. Sorry to be graphic. Basically Ive been seeing this guy for 3 months and on 3 occasions when he has stayed over at mine he has left poop streaks in my bed. He did it lastnight and I felt sick. He is ...

No more Mr. Nice Guy! Does anyone relate?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3960 days ago

17 January 2014 (F) - I am really struggling with the loss of a long term relationship and I'm just not sure how to cope with the feelings that I have inside. I'm hoping maybe some aunts/uncles on here can relate? I am a very gentle, sensitive person. I try my hardest...

My girlfriend wants to break up because she has no independence!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3960 days ago

17 January 2014 (M) - Hi, I will try to start from the begging, 8 month ago I started a new relationship with toni who is love of my life. Before that I was in a relationship for 5 years with my ex Claire. It was a violent relationship on her part, she use to punch, k...

Is it stupid to hope that maybe a couple of years down the line my ex and I might rekindle our relationship once we are both out of university and he has matured?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3961 days ago

16 January 2014 (F) - Hi, I've just recently gone through a break up with my boyfriend of almost 2years. It was pretty much a mutual thing and we ended on good terms, neither of us really wanted to end it as such its just that we have been going long distance since we ...

What is your opinion of what truly caused us to break up? Is our age difference possibly related? Any tips for moving on from this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3961 days ago

16 January 2014 (F) - My (now ex) boyfriend broke up with me 2 days ago after being together for about a year. I am 18 and he is 16 and we're in high school. I wasn't expecting it at the time but now when I think back, all the signs were there about a week before the ...

First it was just a break,now its an 'open' break, so what does my GF really want?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3961 days ago

16 January 2014 (M) - So my girlfriend and i are taking a break from our relationship because she want to figure out what she wants to do in life and i agreed to it. I understand because im in that position too. Then later on we confirmed if it was ok to just talk to the ...

Is she controlling him or could it be I did something wrong to end our friendship?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3961 days ago

15 January 2014 (F) - Hi wondered if you could help me make sense of this weird situations. I have been friends with a guy for roughly 6 years, used to be very close but drifted apart after a fall out. The fallout was because after he got with his new gf he told me he ...

Do I stay with my girlfriend and hope things get better, or leave her for a girl who may leave me for a girl when she decides I'm just a phase?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3961 days ago

15 January 2014 (M) - im currently in a relationship with a girl and ive been with her for five years, i loved her in the beginning and i still care for her but im finding it hard to say to myself that i still love her and for the last year ive felt less intrested in ...

I was thinking once I find work and I am happy with my life that I could perhaps try again with him.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3962 days ago

15 January 2014 (F) - Hi My boyfriend has just ended our 4 month relationship on the basis that we don’t click. At the beginning of the relationship, things were great. We were close, we enjoyed spending time together, we had fun and we would talk all the time. ...

He ran away without even listening to me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3963 days ago

14 January 2014 (F) - [Moderator note: Here is a link to this OP's previously submitted question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-boyfriend-announced-he-wanted-a-month-apart.html] My boyfriend of 4 1/2 years broke up with me over 2 months ago and I can...

I thought everything was great, and now he needs space?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3963 days ago

14 January 2014 (F) - I am So Confused..... My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years we have a 12 year age difference I am older. but we clicked since the moment we met. we are best friends, the sex is amazing and we have always said we love each other no ...

Our relationship has an expiration date!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3963 days ago

14 January 2014 (M) - I feel like this relationship is for nothing. My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half. She goes to the junior community college and I go to the state school. Her major isn't offered at my school so she is going to transfer ...