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writes:Hi, I've just recently gone through a break up with my boyfriend of almost 2years. It was pretty much a mutual thing and we ended on good terms, neither of us really wanted to end it as such its just that we have been going long distance since we both went off to university in September and while I handled it really well, he found it difficult only seeing me around every 7 weeks.I have no intentions of trying to find someone else for now, I have been in and out of relationships for as long as I can remember without much time between them and only the last two have been something serious. I thought this would have been it with my most recent guy, we had our problems, but nothing ever major, the only thing I did notice over the last few months is that he's slightly emotionally immature.Anyway I guess my question is, since I have no intention of wanting a relationship right now, is it at all stupid to hope that maybe a couple of years down the line my ex and I might rekindle our relationship once we are both out of university and he has matured? I mean I know feelings and people can change, but is it possible?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (17 January 2014):
The truth is, you will both change a lot in the next few years at university. Yes, he might mature and such, but he might mature into someone you don't like as much anymore, and you might do the same. I wouldn't put anything on hold, and instead I'd accept that you had two great years, and move forward with your life without him in it as a boyfriend.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (17 January 2014):
Stupid is a strong word, but I don't think it's realistic... He will probably be that way forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2014): 9 times out of 10 when a girl is waiting for a guy to mature, it's not a maturity problem she is frustrated with, its just his personality and he's not going to grow out of it.
There are lots of mature guys your age. Some are even younger than you are. If you BF isn't acting like you feel he should then find someone else.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (17 January 2014):
 I think it's only stupid if you are putting anything in your life on 'HOLD' based on the idea that you will get back together with him.
Is it possible? I guess it is.
Is it what is best for you? Well, maybe that will become clearer as you get some time and distance and perspective!
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