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writes:im currently in a relationship with a girl and ive been with her for five years, i loved her in the beginning and i still care for her but im finding it hard to say to myself that i still love her and for the last year ive felt less intrested in her, she doesnt know i've been having doubts because i always put on a front when im around her, i always say 'i love you too' or 'its ok dont worry' when we've argued, which happens alot more than it used to. Recently i started a new job, i met a girl there who i became friends with and developed a crush on. i thought it was ok because she was a lesbian and i knew it wouldnt go anywhere, untill i asked her about her sexuality and she said that she's been sure she is a lesbian for 5 years, untill she met me and she has feelings for me. what do i do? stay with my girlfriend and hope things get better, or leave her for a girl who may leave me for a girl when she decides im just a phase?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (16 January 2014):
 you are not happy with your current gf.
that's not going to change.. meeting someone who caught your eye is just pointing out the inevitable.. that it is time to end what has become a toxic relationship.
Stop lying to your gf and yourself.
you are no longer in love with her and want to see who and what else is out there. it's very normal and natural.
your relationship has run it's course and it's time to move on. no crime in this.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (16 January 2014):
Don't use your gf as a crutch until you find something better. That's very disrespectful.
If you want to dump her, do it regardless of whether or not there's someone else in the picture.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (16 January 2014):
 You should leave your girlfriend, not for the lesbian but to leave room for someone who is more suitable for you. At work, flirting is common. The fact that you were still attached means that coworkers could flirt with you safely with the knowledge that it won't go anywhere. Once you announce that you are single again other people will have reservations and just cool down. There are a lot of people you could experiment with, and it's better that it's not someone from your work place. Have a clean break and if I were you I would make sure that it doesn't look like I am breaking up just so that I can satisfy some lesbian who wants some dick. Your soon to be ex girlfriend wants to have some dignity to move on.
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