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Why send me a message, I went no contact with her!

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Question - (28 January 2014) 7 Answers - (Newest, 29 January 2014)
A male Austria age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Hi there,

it´s been almost two months now after she dumped me and I went no contact from the first day on.

Now she sendt me something via facebook the day after my birthday, but I haven´t read it yet....

She broke up things and it wasn´t very politely or nicely done..

( she wanted to be single again and living without commitment..)

Why would she do that?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2014):

Sounds like she met someone an it didnt work out, so now, hey how about old faithful, he always treated me good, but if you take her back, it might work out this time, but then what happens when she meets some one else again, bud its always a gamble with your heart. But maybe she realize now how good of guy you really are, some women do get fed up with jerks, I havent met one yet, they always leave me for the bad boys. hey buddy good luck, she might have miss you alot who knows.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2014):

Well, you'll have to read the message to know for sure. I'm guessing it was just a happy birthday message, but who knows? If you want to maintain no contact, just delete the message and block her.

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A female reader, Daisy_Daisy United Kingdom +, writes (28 January 2014):

Daisy_Daisy agony auntWhy would she send a message? Hard to guess without knowing what the message said, but perhaps she wanted to be pleasant after ending things in an unpleasant way. Perhaps she was just trying to be civil and friendly - and a birthday is a perfect opportunity to get in touch to make amends of sorts. You don't have to read her message or reply. Do what's right for you.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (28 January 2014):

Honeypie agony auntLike WiseOwlE said, BLOCK and DELETE her from your FB.

Maybe she thought you would be OK with a B-day greeting?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2014):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the question

update.

In fact she still owes me some money, hasn´t paid me back yet. But to avoid any fighting about it, I don´t want it back anymore, just need to be done with this...

And NO I do not stalk her on facebook! I went no contact immediately after the breakup, deleted her as friend, but forgot to block her, to prevent any further messages....

And no, I am not such an Idiot, looking up her updates or whatever....I don´t wanna know how she is doing....just need to forget the whole thing. Thats it.

I was just wondering for the reason that she used facebook, cause I think, she still has my cellphone number, for birthday wishes or whatever emergency etc....

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2014):

All you have to do is read the message and you'll find out why.

Probably just a useless birthday platitude message, some exes do that thinking they're nice. If it's too painful to read, block her.

Why have you still got your "bitch ex" on Facebook anyway, OP? Do you like to browse her profile longingly looking at what you lost or some shit? Just block her.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2014):

Block your feed and delete her from Facebook and continue to stay no contact. Don't read her updates, or look her up on FB.

Her decision is final. You require no further contact or discussions. If you have any property that belongs to her; or if you owe her any money for rent or expenses. Settle it through a mediator. Don't keep anything that isn't yours. If you owe money, don't be a deadbeat. Pay what you owe.

Keep your receipts for proof of payment. If any money is owed and paid, use cashier's checks or money orders. Do not use personal checks or cash. She could file a civil suit; and claim she was never paid.

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