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Archived questions from: December, 2019 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

I'm worried about my mental health.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1821 days ago

31 December 2019 (F) - I'm scared i'm sinking into depression and can't pull myself out of it. I'm a Mum of one (teenager) and came out of a long term relationship in October. When I had my child, I battled post-natal depression for several years and so I think I c...

There is no physical chemistry, which makes me think he is not "My Guy"

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1822 days ago

30 December 2019 (F) - Dear cupid, I have been dating a friend of mine who confessed that hes had feelings for me for a year now, and since I just got out of a toxic relationship he said he had to tell.me how he felt before I started dating someone else, hes a great guy, ...

Extended family, I'm damned if I do, and damned if I dont.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1824 days ago

29 December 2019 (F) - some background: I am an expat living in my husbands country. Despite that on the surface, everyone gets along, there has been unspoken tension for years. Without listing everything off, basically my MIL and my BILs gf have given me silent ...

Why did my husband go my sister-in-law's house when he knows I dislike her?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1821 days ago

29 December 2019 (F) - Let me give you a little background first before asking the question. My husband and i live in city A, his brother and his wife live in city B, and all our parents are based in city C. We wre all currently in city C with our our respective paren...

My Ex Girlfriend has told me the only person who will raise our son is her.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1825 days ago

29 December 2019 (M) - The mother of my child and my ex girlfriend got a new boyfriend. We’ve been broke up since October 28, of last year. So roughly 14 months ago. About, May of that time period, only a month or two after our son was born. We were at my senior ...

Why do people say men age better than women?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1821 days ago

29 December 2019 (F) - Why do so many people say that men age better than women or why is there the saying that men age like fine wine and women like off milk. Is this why so many successful men and movie stars want young women and so many older women complain of men ...

How do I stay friends when I want much more?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1825 days ago

28 December 2019 (F) - I have been interested in this guy for years, we have been in almost constant contact for years, he worked away and didn’t want to be in a long distance relationship. All of our friends say they don’t understand why we aren’t together and I’m ...

I found out my husband is cheating, I want to be able to do the same.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1825 days ago

28 December 2019 (F) - Question 1 ive been with my husband for 10yrs we both did our share of cheating and I thought we were passed it I promised to never cheat again I recently found out he still cheating but here I stay but now that I know his secret how can I tell him ...

I'm miserable in our relationship of 7 years.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1811 days ago

28 December 2019 (F) - Hi I’m in a relationship now for almost 7 years and I am so miserable there is no excitement I try talking to him on a night just general chit chat and I get totally ignored by him he shows me attention when he wants sex when he gets it he goes to ...

I'm in a predicament. Who do I chose?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1823 days ago

28 December 2019 (F) - Hello, I was dating a guy who I really loved for three years. After two years, I had to leave the city and settle in another country for work. He was not comfortable with doing a long distance but I was...so we eventually broke up. Our love b...

I've ruined my familly, I can't look at them.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1826 days ago

28 December 2019 (F) - I had a family and it was beautiful. I never actually cheated physically but I talked to a guy for a month or so. It was never sexual, at least not from my standpoint. It was sweet. I liked the attention. I liked the new excitement. I like...

My boyfriend's good side is wonderful, it is why I have stayed so long.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1827 days ago

27 December 2019 (F) - Over the last year, I've spent 5 months total with my bf. Let me give you a timeline. January-gone half the month working February-gone half the month because he was mad at me but we took a trip to Florida where we reconciled but then I flew acro...

I struggle to trust my judgement when it comes to guys.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1827 days ago

27 December 2019 (F) - Hello aunts and uncles, I’m really interested to hear what others think is a ‘normal’ amount of messages to be sending in the very early stages of dating. For context: I’ve been seeing a new guy that I met online for the past month, we’ve...

How do I balance 3 young children along with a love life with my partner?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1829 days ago

26 December 2019 (F) - I'm a mother to 3 young children, ages 5,3 and 2. It gets very overwhelming sometimes, as parenting can get but we have fun. I've been with their father for 6 years. Lately it seems to be a bit of a struggle for us to balance this parenting/p...

I'm in love with my cousin but not sure about his feelings for me

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1826 days ago

26 December 2019 (F) - I am I love with my 20year old cousin. I am 15. I don’t know what to do. He has a girlfriend but he acts like he likes me : he always teases me and we cuddle and other more intimate things. However I don’t know if he feels the same. I need him he is ...

He's ready to break up with his fiancee to be with me but is it the right thing to do?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1829 days ago

25 December 2019 (F) - Hello agony aunts, 7 years ago I was in a relationship with this man whom I met in college. We were so in love however I had to finish my higher education outside the country for 2 years. We were trying patiently to manage the LDR but after I ...

My hypochondria and fear about the health of my loved ones is driving me up the wall

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1831 days ago

24 December 2019 (F) - I desperately need help for something that's gotten out of hand. I am a total hypochondriac and always assume the worst when it comes to health issues. The last year has been particularly bad. I thought I had breast cancer (turned out to be a harm...

Would I be judged for not wearing a bra?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 1801 days ago

24 December 2019 (F) - I would like an honest opinion please I don't find bras comfortable. Would i be judged by men or women if I was to be without a bra in public I'm only small up top and I know it's my choice but even tho I'm small up top, to put it simply, ...

My boyfriend is going away for a month, how do I get through this?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1829 days ago

23 December 2019 (F) - My boyfriend will be going away for a month soon. I can't go. I am worried he will cheat on me. I fear I will not be able to cope with the constant anxiety and stress about what he is doing. Can anyone provide tips on how to stay SANE? An entire ...

We don't have sex much anymore.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1831 days ago

23 December 2019 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 9 years. And next year it is 10 years. But we don't have sex that much anymore. Is this normal in a relationship?. Or is there something wrong with me?. ...

My partner spends a lot of time partying with his friends.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1832 days ago

22 December 2019 (F) - So me and my partner have been together around 4 years. For the most part it’s been good. My issue is his time spent with his friends. They get together about 3 times per week. His friends are mostly single and they party. Whenever they see ...

I feel so low right now, how can I get overmy crush?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1833 days ago

22 December 2019 (F) - So, I've been crushing on this guy for at least 6 months now, I'm almost certain he just sees me as a friend, and I desperately wish I could get rid of my feelings for him and I know nothing will happen. But I've fell for him so hard, I feel utterly ...

Online dating .... men only seem to want to hook up for sex.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1832 days ago

21 December 2019 (F) - I am a woman in my late 40s nice looking, good figure, no kids, I have just started online dating and I get thousands of likes and tons of messages but never any dates! its so frustrating, the men online just seem to want sex hook ups and they ...

How do I win my AWOL husband back?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1834 days ago

20 December 2019 (F) - Hi I am at my wits end and I don’t know what to do. My husband and I have been separated for years but I’m still in love with him. He won’t divorce me but he’s now moved abroad and aplenty living with somebody. Before he moved away we would meet up ...

My girlfriend keeps breaking down over stress at work.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1834 days ago

20 December 2019 (M) - My girlfriend and I have been together for 4 years. I'm 24, she's 26. We were living together, but now she's working 4 hours away while I'm still studying. She's constantly stressed at work, and I feel like I'm just an outlet for her stress. Nearly ...

I'm compensating my lonliness by filling my life with material things.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1773 days ago

20 December 2019 (F) - Hello all, I've been having a really hard time controlling myself spending a lot of money. It all started 3 years ago when I first started university. I lost contact with my friends from school, they kept cancelling plans whenever we wanted to ...

Co worker was upset I didnt take her advice on a matter.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1835 days ago

18 December 2019 (M) - This lady I work with who said she's attracted to me got upset today after I didn't take her advice on a matter. I teased her about it respectfully and she told me she was mad right after and said 'no one here listens to me'. I told her she was ...

My ex keeps contacting me to be nasty.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1836 days ago

17 December 2019 (F) - My boyfriend of 2 years split up with me 2 months ago and since then he hasn't stopped texting me abuse about what a horrible person I am and generally putting me down which is really confusing me why is he still texting me all this abuse when hes ...

Is it okay to remain friends with an ex when you are in a new relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1835 days ago

17 December 2019 (F) - Hello aunts Is it a good idea for a couple to stay friends with their respective ex's if the couple is newly in love with each other but still share a friendship that cannot be given up (not sexual feelings but say mutual respect and care with th...

Would you ever let a partner/date/BF know how important money is to you?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1839 days ago

15 December 2019 (F) - Hey everyone. This is one of those topics where I don’t really know if I should discuss this or not with a date/bf, as couples typically start talking about their issues/past insecurities at some point. Anyway, I grew up in a middle class hou...

A co worker spoke about spanking. How do I bring up the subject again so I can ask about it?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1840 days ago

13 December 2019 (F) - Hi everyone. My question is more to satisfy my curiosity than anything. I have been interested in spanking for as long as I can remember and although I'm not open with everyone about it, I have opened up to my last two partners. In a recent ...

If a man says degrading things to one woman or rapes a woman, do you think he thinks poorly of women in general?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1839 days ago

13 December 2019 (F) - Before coming to college and then entering the “real world”, I never really encountered men who were rude, gross or overly forward with women. I guess they were all on their parents' leashes in high school. Anyway, I had one guy in particular text ...

Do all older men think younger women are superior physically to older women .

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1843 days ago

11 December 2019 (F) - As I’ve gotten older my taste in what is attractive in men has changed and I find men my own age much more attractive than the younger men I dated in my youth . Quite a few of the men I have dated have mentioned how younger women are so good and ...

Do I tell the girl he's engaged to that he sexted me whilst seeing her?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1842 days ago

11 December 2019 (F) - Hi everyone. Last year, I graduated from college, and I seem to have had an issue with a guy I slept with one time. Basically, I came into college as a virgin, dated one guy for a bit, and then was single for the remainder of college. It was a sm...

Please help me understand an abusive man's actions

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1844 days ago

11 December 2019 (F) - Would a man who has been abusive to a woman deny his abusive behaviour if the woman finally exposed him to other people and she told them what he has been doing to her and why she left him and then he make up other excuses as to why she left him? A...

Does every woman like oral sex?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 1845 days ago

9 December 2019 (F) - I was out with some male friends the other night and they all told me every woman they have slept with loved oral sex and had orgasms from it. I just admit I'm not a fan and never feel completely comfortable recieving oral. However I do like the ...

I don't understand why my daughter is attracted to an older guy with nothing going for him.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1845 days ago

7 December 2019 (F) - my adult daughter is dating a guy that is lazy and unmotivated. he is almost 40 he only has an id no drivers license i want better for her and don't know how to talk to her. i don't understand....

Since the birth of the baby I'm just not interested in sex anyore.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1847 days ago

6 December 2019 (F) - I had a baby nearly 5 months ago and have no sex drive. I've also recently been getting depo provera which is contraception injection. Its known to decrease sex drive I read but I've only just had my first one and was like this anyway before it. Not ...

I'm planning to visit my LD boyfriend in Germany and he has ditched plans with me to spend time with his friends.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1845 days ago

6 December 2019 (F) - He I've been in a long distance relationship with a German guy for a while now, but I'm just at a point where I feel frustrated and undervalued. This is the issue we're currently having: He told me he wanted me to spend Christmas with him...

How do I move forward without hurting anybody?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1650 days ago

5 December 2019 (F) - I have been married to a man for 25 years. We have four kids (two now grown up, and two teenagers). Our marriage has been difficult; we argue a lot and have drifted apart emotionally. We are not highly compatible on any level, but have stuck ...

My boyfriend's sister in law says they are in a "live in" arrangement.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1850 days ago

4 December 2019 (F) - I and my boyfriend were like best friends . And our relationship was at its best . He's very loving , caring and understanding. And his brother's wife keeps calling him more often , all day and night which I hate the most and I told him that I d...

I still want to cross dress but am afraid of losing my fiance if I tell her

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1836 days ago

4 December 2019 (M) - Should I tell my girlfriend of nearly 8 years, soon to be married that I used to crossdress, and still wishes that I could?. I love my fiance very much, and I don't want to jeopardize my relationship in any way, but every day I wake up and think ...

I'm attracted to a married man, I believe he is attracted too and it creates undercurrents between us.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1847 days ago

4 December 2019 (F) - I'm unhappy because I find myself attracted to a married man for the past few months. I much prefer my carefree life before I knew him. I got to know him through work and in the beginning I just looked upon him as just another man. Then he started ...

My estranged husband is still trying to rule my life.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1851 days ago

3 December 2019 (F) - My "estranged" husband is always trying to keep tabs on me and I feel like it's an invasion of my privacy. We are separated and no longer live together. We have a young child (under 10) who lives with me and will stay with him on the occasional w...

I'm a student in love with my teacher and I don't know what to co

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1849 days ago

3 December 2019 (M) - i love one of my Bursar but i fear telling her fearing suspension what can i do and how can i tell her that I'm in love with her without being suspended I'm a student...

I really want a baby, is this a stage I am going through?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1848 days ago

3 December 2019 (F) - I turn 18 in a couple months and have been with my boyfriend a little over 2 years. We are neighbors so we have slept with each other but I really want a baby. And I really want to be with him forever. Is this just a stage I am going through?...

I broke up with him because he put everybody else first, now I am missing him like crazy

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1852 days ago

3 December 2019 (F) - I have broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years and it was quite a nasty break up and a lot of shouting names and verbal abuse. Basically he started putting other people before me the past month and became unreliable and kept cancelling on me. So I ...

My husband accused me of stalking his ex, who he has cheated with in the past!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1851 days ago

2 December 2019 (F) - Hi My husband and I have been married almost 3 years. We have had some interference by his exes which I thought was finally done. What I mean by interference is he talks to them on whatsapp. They don’t share any children together and the...

Is my wife exaggerating everything just to try and make me feel bad?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1851 days ago

2 December 2019 (M) - Last week my wife injured her pinky toe after we (her being barefoot and me with shoes on) clipped each other's feet as we walked past each other. It was a freak accident. She was in a lot of pain and there was a bit of blood. At first she was ...

I'm having sex with my ex who is married to someone else.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1850 days ago

1 December 2019 (F) - Hello everyone, so I'm in a situation that I've never been in one before. And I don't know where to start so I'm going to try to keep it as short as possible. I have a daughter that is 8 years old. Her father and I have been split up since...