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Archived questions from: July, 2009 (see latest in Big Questions category)

Big Questions: Help and advice

How do I start over with a new life?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, Im 19 yrs old. I want to start a new life,with no controversies basically a peaceful life. Uptil now my life has been like a big circus. Sexual abuse by cousin, Boyfriends, bad friends, good friends, crushes,family issues,c...

Suddenly I hate everyone and everything! I feel very empty and sad..

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Hi, Well I used to always be loving and caring but now all of a sudden I seriously dont love anyone or anything and I used to care for my mom the most and stuff now I dont feel any love for her, my dad, or sister, Is something wrong with me? My mom ...

Is honesty really the best policy??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5597 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Okay my situation..is I've been talking to this guy lets call him john well we met and everything it went well at first I was nervous but then i got comfortable.It felt like there was chemistry between us..okay so a couple days later we wanted to ...

Does he still have something for me or is it because he saw I'm a model?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5511 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I used to like this guy a year ago. I could tell he liked me too cuz his body language said a lot. Then I went to a party and hooked up with some guy he never talked to me I guess he was heartbroken.. Then online for months I would write him ...

How can I stop liking someone?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5597 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - how do you stop liking someone? Because I cant stop liking this guy and its getting on my nerves because I know what he's like and he can be nasty....

All I want is to find a girl and develop a relationship like most normal people!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5597 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - Hi everyone. Just looking for some advice. I am 23 years old and i seem to be having a real problem with finding girls. When i was youner i was often described as a "player" and often messed girls around. I then found a girl who was perfect for me. ...

I don't want to ruin anyone's life, so where do I go from here?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5597 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I am working away from home at the summer job and ended up falling head over heels for this guy i'm working with, he is also in the same boat as me, except he is newly engaged. It is so confusing because we both fell in love with each other, ...

Is it possible to put your baby in temp. foster care and then claim it back at a more convenient time?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5597 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - hi im 15 and i just found out i was pregnant. i know my options, abortion, adoption, or keeping it. i don't want to give my baby up for adoption because i dont think i could handle carrying it for 9 months and then giving it away but if i abort it ...

Why is life so hard when you've found your soulmate?

This question has 35 answers - newest was posted 5570 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - What do I do???? I am 45 and in a relationship with an 18 yearold!!! Where do I begin? Well for nearly a 10 months I have been seeing a woman/girl whos is nearly 27 years my junior!!! at first we knew each other as we live close and saw each other ...

How can I make him commit to marriage?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5597 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - i have been with my boyfrien for 3 years now...he says he wants to het married but has not made a commitment... how do i make him commit to marrieage... i'm almost in my mid 30's and he's 6 years younger than me.... please help!...

Should I go or stay?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5590 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Iam 30 yrs old and married to a wonderful, extremely caring, gentle and patient guy for the last 4 years and we share a common passion for holidays, food, wine, countryside etc. which we enjoy doing together. I couldnt ask for a better husband, ...

I look like a circus tent compared to other women! Any weight loss advice?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5597 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - i am 30 yaer old and i am size 16 and 14 stone. i find it hard to lose weight since i got older, to make things worse where i live there is no gyms,no swimming pool ,no sport shops,i can,t effort personal trainer.i can,t run i have asthmas,i am ...

What should I do on my 18th birthday?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5591 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - So my 18th birthday is coming up and I'm afraid that I'm a bit socially awkward in regards to parties or anything that involves a big group of people when academics are not involved. So far I've tried to have pool parties or something of the sort, ...

Is he doing it to spite me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5597 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Why do exes ignore you and avoid you at all costs after they have said we can be mates? . .. My ex has recently got together with a chick it broke my heart knowing he's moved on but it hurts a lot more that he's out of my life ..after we broke up he ...

Never pursued a relationship with someone of my own race.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I realize that people have certain types of significant others that they are attracted to. For me, I tend to gravitate to men of the caucasian race. And even though I find men of my own race attractive I have never found someone of my own race so ...

Is this a survival of the fittest thing?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5598 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I used to like bigger guys. Like, I was a seirous chubby chaser. My first boyfriend had it all for me: he was pretty tall (6'3") and 250 lbs whereas I was 5'4" and 110 lbs when we dated. Now I'm finding myself being attracted to still taller men, ...

Follow your heart. What do my weird dreams mean?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I've had some weird dreams lately. And I was wondering if anyone could help me understand what they mean. First dream: I dreamt that my fiance and I moved into an apartment that was in the house that my ex boyfriend lived it. His family and my ex...

Five years and still waiting for the date!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5594 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I have a dilema... I have been with my fiance now for 5 years and counting. We are currently in a custody battle with his ex over his son and i have tried so hard and worked so hard through all of it for him and with him. I am just not sure that he ...

What is the secret of a successful relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Firstly, thank you for taking the time to read. As alot of agony aunts on here are in successful relationships I'd like to pick some minds about this topic. What IS the secret to a successful relationship? I've seen alot of relationships wh...

Who gets more pleasure from sex, men or women?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5421 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - who has a better oragism men or women and who gets more plessure from masturbating man or women...

Am I right to have pressed charges? And why would he do these things?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Hi I am taking my ex to court, for fraud theft and dwoc, I am due next week to appear. I was seeing this guy for 6 months, we had a lovely relationship, (so I thought) basically he stole money from my bank account by stealing my card. And taking...

Why are guys so stupid, why do they want to be players?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I'm a 21 year old girl in college, and I love being single and independent. I was in love with a guy who dumped me after a couple months for not putting out (I'm a virgin) and I don't want to have a boyfriend for a while. I've made out with this hot ...

Finished with girlfriend but now full of regret!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5594 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - I recently finished with my girlfriend after a second attempt at the relationship, i was having silly niggling doubts and thought it was moving way to fast so i called it a day, however my friends and family all said to me i was way to hasty and ...

How can I help my mum with her depression?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - my mum just told me that shes really depressed and she has just gone onto anti deppressants. i dont know what to do. help?...

Can you be in love with 2 people at the same time?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Can you be in love with 2 people at the same time? I am just curious as to what others think about this....

What are the signs of emotional abuse?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - This isn't a relationship question, but I wonder, what are the signs of emotional abuse? I have researched them myself, but I am thinking about a particular situation that I had to deal with at work yesterday. This woman and her son came to my ...

My sexuality...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - Hi, I like women but for some reason I only get an erection if I think about men, am I gay? Also I had sex 16 times with my brother's friend, it's sooo... but the thing is I need your help, please I beg you, I need help with my sexual contentment. ...

I don't know how to handle my wife!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4493 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - my wife abuses me pysicologically and every so often phisically, she has had a bad up bringing eg rape, abandonment,irrashional behaviour and thoughts. she has an iq of 138 and uses this against me, she has an alcohol problem also, we have very big ...

I still have feelings for my ex but I don't want to ruin things with his fiancee!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - im really confused at the moment. i have just got in contact with my ex and we have started talking. he has told me that he is engaged and is going to be a dad soon but that he still loves me. i still have the same feelings for him but i don't want ...

Can you make a mistake when it comes to thinking whether they are "the one?"

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5598 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Have you ever been in a relationship, thought there was no way this person is the one, broke up and later realized they were the one and wanted to go back?...

My GF was sexually abused and now has no interest in sex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - hi i'm 22yrs old. Me and my girl friend(21) were in love for the past 3years.And I just want to get into a sexual relationship with her, the worst part is that her uncle tried to sexually abuse her when she was 17. so she is not much interested in ...

I'm 16 and pregnant..my mom doesn't deserve this big disappointment from me..should I tell her?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5594 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I have a very difficult situation...2 months ago my mom finally accepted my boyfriend. I love him. and i;m so sure he's it. I'm 16 years old. My birthday is in two weeks...Anyway it was difficult to get him accepted because I'm the only girl and the ...

How do I overcome my Arachnophobia...help!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Hi,this isnt really the kind of questions you ask on this site but i was wondering if anyone could tell me how to overcome my Arachnophobia. Its terrible, when i see a spider i cry, scream and take panic attacks. Im terrified when im in the house my...

Is it weird that I've never had a boyfriend before?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5599 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - hey so this is kinda embarassing but here goes i an 16 and never had a boyfriend or a proper kiss. i wouldnt say i am pretty or thin could this be the reason ? all my friends have had boyfriends and it makes me feel bad because i feel so stupid it ...

I was molested and nobody believes me. How do I make them see?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I was molested by my step dad @ the age of 4-12 when i said something to my mom she dint beleave me i was 15 when i finally said something. I was put in a foster home right away, my mom dint want to look @ me. I was to testify but befor that he died ...

Mr. Right, but not right now?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5599 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I'm 21 years old and have been dating my boyfriend for the past 10 months. He is a good guy, sweet and kind to me. He is also older than I am by about eight years, and I think he's ready to settle down (has asked me to move in with him before and so ...

My blood boils with rage when a good looking young woman is present!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5576 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - dear cupid, my life is ruined by insane jealousy. i cannot bear any man i have been with to even look at another woman, not even on television. my blood boils with rage when a good looking woman especially if they are young and sexy are present. i ...

Forced to raise a brat!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5591 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I have lived with my bf for almost 6 years now. We have been thru a lot and I really love and care for him. The problem is he has a 14 year old bratty son who no one has ever diciplined and now the child's mother wants to give up custody and have us ...

I want to accept that he likes looking at other women - but I can't!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5599 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I've never felt like this before and I don't know what to do. I am living with my partner. We have 2 children (one of 3 years and one of 9 weeks). When I was pregnant I discovered some premium rate phone calls on the phone bill. They were to th...

What does he mean by saying they have a great 'personality'?

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 5590 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - Hi Everyone I would like to know: My husband (been married almost 10 y) always says the same thing... What does it mean?When he sees a naked woman, on TV or in the newspaper or in a magazine, he looks her up and down, and says: she looks like s...

Will he ever see me as the one?

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28 July 2009 (F) - I dated my ex-bf for a year. We're in our 30s. I pressured him to take the relationship to the next level which is when the problems started. Things started getting tense between us and we started having a lot of tiffs (not fights, just ...

I just want someones view on what I've done and learnt from it : )

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5599 days ago

28 July 2009 (M) - Hello I've been wanting to get this off my chest for a while as it keeps coming back to bite me. A few months ago i visited a brothel. The reason i did this is clear to me now as i was very lonely had not many good friends and was addicted...

How do I keep the fire between us burning once we are married?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5599 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - hi,am getting married in 2 months and we are happy and in love with each other.my worry is that after marriage,we might get too used to each other and the fire between may vanish....how do i keep the fire between us burning?...

He loves me with all of his heart and soul, and has waited 12 years for me...but I still don't want to be with him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5600 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - should a woman decide to marry a man who loves her with all his heart and soul(and waited for the last 12 years) but she still doesn’t ? ...

Bad things always seem to happen to me. Where is my dawn after the darkness? Will I ever find love?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

28 July 2009 (M) - After all this time im almost 19 and ive still never had a real girlfriend, every attempt has been littered with problems and complications that have only led me to pain. All girls have done is given large amounts of grief and emotional pain, thus i ...

I always feel depressed and insecure without my boyfriend around. How can I become more independent?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I am always feeling depressed when I am not with my boyfriend, and I already know i am insecure about myself. What can I do to become more confident and dependent of myself?...

Anxiety issues - how do I find new ways of coping?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5600 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - So i hate this I used to be a self injurer and used to cut myself. I've been a year cut free now though. But I developed another issue dealing with self biting and technically pulling off the skin of my fingers, it's disgusting and a horrible...

Should I tell him I lost the necklace and earrings he gave me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5600 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - okay so me and this guy dated like 4 years ago. we dated 8xs.[we were young and dumb] the last time we broke up it was for good. i didnt get jealous when he had his first serious girlfriend, that didnt bother me at all.[i took his virginty]. and the ...

I need an unbiased opinion. There's a lack of passion in our marriage due to her illness.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

27 July 2009 (M) - I have been married for 8 years. When we started dating (12 years ago), we had a great time. She was not as passionate or as romantic as I was but I was able to look that over because she had many other great qualities that I was attracted to. ...

Am I wrong here? Who can judge this in a person??

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

27 July 2009 (?) - I don't remember what that joke was, but i was judged on my response to it. A friend made this joke and upon my not laughing and saying something like "oh, uhhuh." he decided I am not intuitive. He told this to my husband. But that's an annoying ...