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writes:This isn't a relationship question, but I wonder, what are the signs of emotional abuse? I have researched them myself, but I am thinking about a particular situation that I had to deal with at work yesterday. This woman and her son came to my register. He was crying and holding his eye. Apparently she had accidently hit him with her purse. And she told him to stop being so dramatic and said to me that she is dealing with/has a dramatic son. She said, "Normally I would tend to him and care for him but what hit him wasn't that hard." I would say her purse was medium size. This felt like deja-vu but I'm not sure. She was also trying to get him to suck it up some or something. She threatened to have him call his dad and tell his dad what he was crying about. I was thinking, "Why, so he can make fun of him too?" And he kept saying to her "No!" whenever she kept threatening that. Then she said "We'll talk about this later outside of the store." The thing that blew my mind was she was wearing a Christian/church t-shirt. I felt sorry for him, but I didn't say ne thing, because I didn't want to lose my job. It was a bad thing for me to do, because I am sure that that kid is more important than my job. I could've at least got him something for his eye. What do you think? Was he being emotionally abused?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all of your inputs.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (29 July 2009):
 Doubtfull. You probably saw a kid throwing a temper tantrum and a mother who had to deal with it by not spoiling the kid in the long term.
A couple of months ago I saw the BAD result of allowing a kid to go into a tantrum. A small girl was just throwing a hissy fit but it WAS in a MOVING bus. She didn't want to sit next to her mother or older sister, so she stood. The bus accelerated and she fell. With the back of her head on a step covered with a steel edge. A few centimeters to the right was an edge. She got away with a bruis, in the back of her head near the neck. A bit to the right... people have died from lesser falls.
A young boy who probably happily scrapes his knees on his bike with his mates throws a wobbler from an small accident, because he hopes his mom will spoil him for it.
the mother ain't up for it. And a boy that doesn't thoughen up is going to be torn to shreds later in school.
Parenting, it is messy to watch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2009): I see where you're coming from, but those parents probably work hard to teach their son not to carry on, have fits, and cry about things that aren't important or life threatening, and especially in public. It isn't good to run to your kid everytime anything hurts him/her even the tiniest bit, as they will never learn to just pick themselves up and get over it. Would you rather have a child who scraped his knee and washed it off, or scraped it and cried until mommy washed it off and told him everything would be ok? I think there are things beyound what you saw that you can't understand so you try to forget about it and not feel so guilty.
~Sy.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (29 July 2009):
There are a million mothers out there who act less than perfectly to their kids.
You don't know if he was a little brat who 5 minutes earlier had been nagging for sweets and was using this as a great excuse to cry and scream and demand those sweets.
Yes it may not have been the disney way of dealing with it but she was hardly screaming at him and smacking him about the head.
Don't worry yourself about it and move on. There are far more serious problems in the world.
Good Luck!! xx
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