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writes:hi i'm 22yrs old. Me and my girl friend(21) were in love for the past 3years.And I just want to get into a sexual relationship with her, the worst part is that her uncle tried to sexually abuse her when she was 17. so she is not much interested in sex but only likes to kiss.Now she doesn't even like me touching her boobs or her pants. i feel she never gets aroused at all.i want her to get interested having sex with me.please help me.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (29 July 2009):
 your girlfriend has been through a bad time with her uncle and you have to be understanding of her needs if you love her...
not just think about having sex.
it will take her time to feel comfortable enough to let you touch her intimate places, until then you have to be patient and most understanding.
the more u are understanding the more she will love you & this will bring you closer until she initiates the sex at some point.
good luck!
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (29 July 2009):
 dude chill out! give her some credit seems to me all you care about is getting yourself satisfied.
this is clearly a traumatic experience for a girl especially from someone whose been related to you.
she's probably feeling it's her fault and feels dirty.
now obviously this ISN'T her fault.
if she's become very closed about this you should suggest seeing a counsellor with her to help her overcome this she's still obviously feeling very insecure about herself and having a hard time trusting a man.
please be patient with her tell her lightly that you think she should get counselling to overcome this fear factor as she can't go on like this throughout life she can't let what happened stop her from living her life and being happy with someone and enjoying a sex life.
i know it'll be difficult for her but with help and support from you as well as a counsellor she can overcome this.
i hope this helps i wish you both the luck in the world.
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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