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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Is there potential with this girl (24/F) or should it be obvious by now?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1278 days ago

30 May 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone. I don't really believe in asking these types of questions online but I don't have anyone I know that I could ask this about. I also don't think I could really get an "answer" as such but I'd like to hear people's thoughts. I've held off from relationships fo... (762 words)

I am always mentally abused in relationships. Is it me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1295 days ago

30 May 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear cupid I am married to my current husband for 2 years and dated him 4 years prior. This is my second marriage and his first My first marriage was abusive marriage, so we divorced and my ex-husband still tried to reach out to me and want me back, yes you read that right... (341 words)

How can I help my niece?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1299 days ago

29 May 2021 (F)

age 51-59 - My question is a sad one and I find there are many people here from all walks of life who have good insight. My problem concerns both my niece who is 32 and also her parents. Her dad is my brother. He is no longer with my nieces mother and has remarried. His second wife is a... (469 words)

Why do some men feel the need to triangulate in their new relationship?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1293 days ago

29 May 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I have always heard triangulation is a very common trait of a toxic relationship but my question is what is behind doing triangulation to a new girlfriend with an ex fling? Can this be to make her feel less of, make the boyfriend feel powerful ,appealing and more interesting ... (66 words)

My boyfriend hurts me unintentionally during sex

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1298 days ago

29 May 2021 (F)

age 22-25 - I have known this guy for a while, and I am happy. We have what i think is a normal sex life, but He sometimes hurts me unintentually when we make love. I know that he likes us to make love alot and I like it too but sometimes I have to ask him to stop. I have some brusing on ... (194 words)

She says she likes me and we have so much in common but it's the age gap

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1298 days ago

28 May 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - I had one of the best nights of my life with a beautiful woman last week and I’d really love to take things further with her and start a relationship but whilst she said she really likes me the age gap between us seems to bother her a lot. The thing is she’s also said she gets ... (1556 words)

My sister broke up with her boyfriend for a new guy and now I don't want to talk to her

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1299 days ago

28 May 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - My sister 33 left her bf of 6 years in December. She didn't tell me they were having problems until after the breakup. Then she suddenly met someone else and was saying how happy she is. Her ex did so much for her so I stopped talking to her after she told me. I think she is so ... (230 words)

My father hired a private investigator and is convinced I'm gay and having an affair

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1301 days ago

27 May 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - My wife told me she'd received an angry phone call from my dad at 8am yesterday accusing me of cheating and having a gay relationship, and she doesn't believe a word of it. Apparently dad had hired a private investigator to follow me because he'd seen me visiting a man's... (410 words)

We broke up but are back in touch but now I feel there is distance

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1300 days ago

26 May 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - I broke up with my gf of 5 years over argument. Since that we both realised we are still in love. However we have both been busy in our routines. We still text daily with morning and good night however I feel like there’s now distance between us. I have given her more s... (347 words)

I am very angry at my boyfriend for staring at some random woman's ass!! I am having a hard time getting over this

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1301 days ago

25 May 2021 (F) age 30-35 - I am so ANGRY right now! My boyfriend and I have issues with trust. We went for our first couple's counselling appointment today. While in the waiting room, this blonde woman came out to get a drink of water at the cooler. I think she was one of the other therapists who work ... (646 words)

Does aomeone have any suggestions as to how to help my sister?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1300 days ago

25 May 2021 (F)

age 51-59 - Does aomeone have any suggestions as to how to help my sister? I would appreciate it. My sister is in the process of divorce from her husband because she found out he sheeted on her for about 10 years with many differentt women They been married for 30 years. He even ... (163 words)

I think my boyfriend is addicted to sex

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1303 days ago

25 May 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - So thanks so much for all the help with this problem in advance. I have been in a long term relationship of 8 years , like every couple we have our quarrels but we see them through and remain committed to our relationship. However I am starting to think my boyfriend is addicted... (384 words)

My boyfriend is 30 years old and his parents are too controlling

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1301 days ago

24 May 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - So my boyfriend and I were going to use his family’s motor home for the weekend. His mom learned I was not getting the covid vaccine and told my boyfriends dad his dad then stated I couldn’t be in his motor home his house or his cabin. I was upset and I told my boyfriend it’s ... (416 words)

My boyfriend is very clingy

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1299 days ago

24 May 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - My new bf is really clingy. I'm 33 and he's 29 and I adore him but he is always needing to be touching me somehow, or hugging or kissing and k find it really overwhelming. I tell him and he gets upset or offended as if I don't like him when I say look just give me a little bit ... (155 words)

Let him be a real Dad to our daughter

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1302 days ago

24 May 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi all, I have a daughter with an ex boyfriend, our daughter was fostered by my cousin. Our daughter is eleven this month, she is fully aware of who her real parents are and speaks to us regularly. Since about six months old her foster parents have Skyped her father on a weekly ... (230 words)

How do I know if they had an orgasm?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1305 days ago

24 May 2021 (M)

age 26-29 - Hey peeps, So I had sex with a girl and I'm curious if she orgasmed. A couple of things. Before I had sex with a girl and she told me she saw something and felt something, but was not sure if she orgasmed. She said it felt really great and she felt something differ... (282 words)

Blow jobs and the bad taste of urine.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1299 days ago

24 May 2021 (F)

age - My husband and I have always been sexually active, up until he became incontinent. I never had any inhibitions when it came to blow jobs until I tasted urine. Now I am put off by the taste and smell and can not bring myself to do it. He is quite clean and washes up before ... (96 words)

Boyfriend won't come over unless sex is a part of the night

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1304 days ago

23 May 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - i have been with my boyfriend whos 42 for a few years now but he wont come over to take me out unless sex is involved. i just want to go out for a walk together but he wont come over unless i stay somewhere with him the night. i feel like this is wrong if he truly loves me he ... (105 words)

Are my parents right to take such drastic action to stop me drinking underage ?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 1303 days ago

23 May 2021 (F)

age 18-21 - are my parents right to take such drastic action to stop me drinking alcohol underage ? in the past couple of weeks i have been coming home drunk ( NOT ON SCHOOL NIGHTS )my parents said they are worried and unless i stop drinking they will have to take drastic action, last ... (168 words)

I'm losing trust in my family. Everything is left up to me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1304 days ago

23 May 2021 (M)

age 51-59 - I am 55 and look after 2 disabled parents and sister. I always feel like i am not doing enough. Brothers do help but everything is organised and does not always work. Like Monday to Friday i do whatever i need too for my parents. Have no family of my own, brothers agreed ... (167 words)

My sweet boyfriend has turned into a really unpleasant man

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1305 days ago

23 May 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello thanks for your comments and advice in advance! So me and my bf have been together 3 years. At the beginning he was so sweet, caring, loving and thoughtful. This last year has been like a nightmare. Thankfully I didn't accept his proposal. He gets mad quickly... (330 words)

Is his behavior normal? Or suspicious?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1305 days ago

23 May 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Pretty much looking for opinions please. Would you think someone would go to the pub (till 1am), go home on their own and stay awake for a further 4 hours? This is after consuming a lot of vodka and have work at 9am. For a bit of background, I’ve been seeing this guy for a ye... (181 words)

Wife cant stop teasing me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1306 days ago

21 May 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - Six months ago my wife started commenting about some 'well hung' guys at her gym she goes to 3 - 4x a week. I wasn't worried about it and since she seemed to be always horny when she came home which lead to great sex, I haven't said anything. Eventually hearing it all the time ... (164 words)

How do we keep our LDR going? I think he's losing interest

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 1307 days ago

21 May 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - My fiance and I are in a LDR for the next many months. He treats me well and everything is going fine. But I'm worried about our relationship deteriorating because of some things. 1. Although he's committed, he gets bored easily 2. His sexuality is only when we are in real ... (463 words)

He's the one who has cheated yet he doesn't trust me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1306 days ago

21 May 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello, dear cupid, I want to know something about my boyfriend's behaviour. I've been dating him since the past five years it's a long distance relationship,we met in a youth conference, he asked my number and after that we started chatting and talking through calls and video. ... (172 words)

My son received inappropriate photos from a classmate. How to proceed?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1306 days ago

20 May 2021 (M)

age 41-50 - My son, John, who's 16, told me yesterday he received two inappropriate photos from a classmate. Here in Canada, schools in our area are doing remote learning. We don't know when in-person classes will resume. My son showed me a WhatsApp he'd received from another boy w... (330 words)

My wife is afraid to go out after being threated. How do I help her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1307 days ago

20 May 2021 (M)

age 41-50 - I've been married to my wife Elena (not real name) for 13 years, and in the past few weeks, she's been frightened to go out. Apparently, two men who claimed to be Proud Boys / Trump supporters threatened her as they'd seen her ID badge (of a beauty salon she works in, staff ... (829 words)

My Girlfriend cheated on me - Why does it turn me on?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1199 days ago

19 May 2021 (M)

age 22-25 - I found out my girlfriend cheated on me last week. I should be angry and upset with her. Heartbroken even. But I’m not. In fact the thought of it turns me on to the point where I wish I could’ve watched them do it. It happened about 6 weeks ago. I thought she was at work,... (677 words)

Wife has a day planned with her friends that I want no part of

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1309 days ago

19 May 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - My wife is planning a big family day out in the next few weeks with all of her friends and our/their kids but I really don’t want to go. I can tell she’ll give me grief if I tell her though because it’ll be our first proper day out since the end of Lockdown. It’s been on the ... (615 words)

Wife won't wear sexy lingerie for me yet I found a whole drawer full of it. She won't explain

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1308 days ago

18 May 2021 (M)

age - My Wife and I have been married for 32 years now. I have always wanted her to buy and ware super sexy sheer thong lingerie and G-string. But she always refused and said that she would never buy such things let alone ware them. Occasionally I would ask her again, but she always ... (620 words)

Husband of 8 years just confessed he has a 12 year old daughter he didn't tell me about

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1308 days ago

18 May 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Note: I've changed names for privacy here. I've got a husband and a 7-year-old daughter. Last night my husband told me over dinner that he had a huge confession; he had a daughter, but left his girlfriend Kimberley and his daughter when she was 18 months old in April 2007,... (647 words)

Covid causing problems in me being able to see my family. I don't know how to proceed

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1309 days ago

18 May 2021 (F)

age - I split with mu husband three years ago after 20 years of marriage, i heard he had an affair with his boss, he denied this but I heard him put his hand on the bible and say God forgive me, so im unsure about that. I went back to live with my mum and step dad for a while. My ... (435 words)

Wife won't let me end our marriage and follow my religious beliefs

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1308 days ago

18 May 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I am married to a woman and I found Jesus Christ and now all I want to do is to follow his commands.I tried to break up with my wife but she refuses to leave and she gets very forceful and violent when I tell her that I want us to break up so I can follow God. We also have been ... (121 words)

Boyfriend doesn't want me to get a dog. Is this petty? Or controlling?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1308 days ago

18 May 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi guys and gals So for the past 5 years I have been in a relationship with a man who has massive anxiety issues, ocd , depression and has control issues to which be has admitted. Before I start I should mention, we are not engaged , we do not live together nor do we have a... (400 words)

Is the issue myself or does the world just think I'm not worth it?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1309 days ago

17 May 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey, 23 soon to be 24 in about 3 weeks, lady wondering why on this moss and water covered rock why no males my age seem interested in me. From looking online, to putting myself on dating sites and just existing sometimes offline, no one seems to be interested in me. Don't... (119 words)

Is my girlfriend right? Am I a jerk?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1307 days ago

16 May 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - I have had an on and off relationship with my girlfriend for the past 3 years almost. We have been living together for 2 years and she does a lot around the house and is helpful. The problem is that she can be very moody and quick to anger over small things. She is in therapy ... (258 words)

Is my dad really that wrong for not wanting to use Zoom and to retain an email trail for future reference?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 1312 days ago

16 May 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been living with my mom and dad since February 2020, when my relationship of 4 years ended due to my then-partner quitting for a job in the US. He had US citizenship from birth, I obviously couldn't move as I'm a Canadian with no dual citizenship from birth (well... ... (681 words)

Advice on how to deal with people with different communication style.

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 1311 days ago

15 May 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - Dear Cupid, I've struggled for a long time with people who have a different communication style. Just to help you understand my own communication style, I often respond to messages, and try and do it quickly so as not to inconvenience others, I feel guilty if I don't but also ... (278 words)

Am I doing the right thing getting married when I still have such strong feelings for my ex?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1311 days ago

15 May 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - I am female and i had been dating a guy for about 3 years before leaving him and meeting someone else after. We were engaged, supposedly, but after a few months of our engagement he told me he might not be able to go through with it any time soon, seemed to have to issues, and ... (1597 words)

Is my husband weird or is it just me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1314 days ago

15 May 2021 (F) age 36-40 - Is there something (seriously) wrong with my husband or are the circumstances weird? Due to some financial difficulties my mother-in-law moved to my apartment over a decade ago. My husband and I live in another country. When she moved in, I had to throw away a lot of my ... (1063 words)

What if a guy cups your face in his hand?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1313 days ago

15 May 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - How relevant is it if a guy cups your face in his hand? Does that mean he has deep and loving feelings towards you? Or is that a side of physical attraction? Was he thinking about a kiss? I am talking about taking one hand and gently cupping a woman's cheek for a second or ... (60 words)

Why Is This Couple Rude To Me Every Time I See Them?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1312 days ago

14 May 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - I live in a small town where everyone bumps into each other often. Twice recently, a random miserable couple I do not know has been extremely rude about me loudly for no reason as I have been minding my own business! About a month ago, I was walking down the pavement when th... (593 words)

He's broken up with me 5 times in 2 years. Should I continue to see him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1315 days ago

13 May 2021 (F)

age - Hi I need some advice about a relationship I am a widow, my husband died 8 years ago and two years ago I met a lovely man and fell in love. But he has finished our relationship 5 times so far and caused me a lot of heartache. The last time it happened I said could not stan... (189 words)

My 17 year old song met up and had sex with a male prostitute. We don't know how to handle this

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1315 days ago

13 May 2021 (M)

age 41-50 - My son, Carl, is 17, and told me a few days ago he had a confession; he'd slept with a male prostitute a year ago (in February), not long after his birthday. He admitted he'd paid the guy $250 (well, technically it was two payments of $125, per session), I asked him where ... (645 words)

My fiance expects me to help his mother financially. I don't want this to continue

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1310 days ago

13 May 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello and thanks! So my fiancee and I have been together for 4 years. He expects that I help his mom monthly. She is always needing something. bill's, food, clothes this that. I seen a recent picture of her with nice gold earrings and a thick gold chain. I don't even bu... (194 words)

How do I cope with my cheating husband and divorce?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1313 days ago

13 May 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been married for 18 years now, and our anniversary is coming up on November 7th this year. I found out a big revelation from my husband last night; he'd been using prostitutes in the run-up to our wedding and actually slept with one particular one, Allison (not her... (510 words)

Is it okay to talk to an ex while dating other girls

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1315 days ago

13 May 2021 (M)

age 26-29 - Hello, I have a question about whether it's okay to talk to an ex while dating other girls (but not boyfriend and girlfriend). Here is the story: I had just recently broken up with my ex whom I had been dating for a few years. We broke up due to long distance issues but still... (416 words)

How do you cope with the feelings of not letting go?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1305 days ago

12 May 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - How do you cope with the feelings of not letting go? My ex and I broke up almost 3 1/2 years ago. However, we were together 6 years. I've had ups and downs over these 3.5 years. I never felt like I had closure from the relationship end. (He did the breaking up"). I have since ... (278 words)

Three years have went by without speaking to our mother. Do we try to reconnect? Or move on?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1315 days ago

12 May 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Three years ago my sister and I had a talk with our mum that has left us not speaking to her since then. She is with a partner who is emotional abusive and I suspect has the capacity to be physically abusive too. There has been instances through the years when he has rais... (223 words)

My boyfriend's career hasn't taken off and I don't want to feel like he's taking it out on me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1315 days ago

11 May 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - hi everyone, hope you're all well! I'm having some trouble in my relationship with my boyfriend and would really appreciate some advice.. I met my bf in a house share and we got on really well. It's been a couple of years now and we've finally moved in together. W... (350 words)