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writes:Does aomeone have any suggestions as to how to help my sister? I would appreciate it. My sister is in the process of divorce from her husband because she found out he sheeted on her for about 10 years with many differentt women They been married for 30 years. He even brought in an STD you can control but not curable. She’s struggling three this because she loves her husband and wants to keep her family together. She has currently moved to my house and I want to help her any which way I can. The prob is that she’s ina dating app and dates many guys and has sex with them in the first date and the following dates. I’m just worried for her Any suggestioduggedtions on how I can help her or what to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2021): If your sister has an incurable STD, that means she is possibly infectious. Having sex with men on the first-date and being promiscuous is very reckless; and if she knowingly infects someone with HIV or herpes; they can sue her, and she could face some very serious criminal penalties. I am almost certain she's not telling these men she's infected; or they wouldn't be so quick to have sex with her. I hope she's being careful to have protected-sex; but she may be willfully and purposely spreading venereal disease. Possibly out of vengeance.
Giving her shelter is an act of kindness; but if you know your sister is criminally infecting people; you had better confront her about it. You shouldn't allow her to do this from your home. You know she's an infected-individual; and it somewhat makes you an accomplice. You won't be legally held at fault; but you've done nothing, or have said nothing, knowing she could be spreading infection.
You should offer her the ultimatum of getting therapy to deal with her self-destructive behavior; because she is possible purposely infecting men to get-back at her ex. Otherwise, she is being reckless with her body, and exposing herself to other possible infections. She is out of control, and you shouldn't allow that kind of behavior in your home. You should ask her to find her own place. She's a grown-woman, responsible for her behavior. If you say or do nothing; you are an enabler.
Ask her to move if she refuses to seek therapy. No telling what some guy will do if he finds-out he got infected from her; and some of these crazy people out there will retaliate in the most horrendous ways! These are not the days and times to do stupid things involving random strangers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2021): I'd tell her to look for tell tail signs of a creeper.
Well meaning guys won't have sex on the first date. She's seeing guys who just want sex. Point that out.
Set up a panic button app for her. But what she's doing is her choice. It's exciting to sleep with someone new, but there's a diminishing return -- so her excitement will probably wear off and she might f*** Mr Right. Ask her about condoms, encourage using them.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (29 May 2021):
 Its a good thing that she is away from the marriage and living with you while things get sorted.
All you can do is be there for her and advise her and be her support when she is feeling down.
It's not ideal sleeping with random people off of a dating app, maybe this is her way of dealing with the turmoil she has been going through.
At the end of the day she is a grown woman capable of making her own decisions. Like i say all you can do is just offer her sound advice.
Tell her you think sleeping with random guy's off of dating apps is a bad idea. That she should allow herself to get over her breakup before she starts dating again.
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