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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I've never been in love my whole life!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1235 days ago

31 July 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - I feel really sad writing this post and I'm going to lay my heart bare by saying what I don't even want to think to myself. I am 38, married for 6 years, have a child and I have never been in love. By love I mean romantic love with a man. (I'm straight, by the way...just p... (371 words)

Did I have a right to know about the abortion?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1235 days ago

30 July 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - I recently found out my ex-girlfriend had an abortion that she kept secret from me. Did I not have a right to know? We only went out for about 5 months before things went stale and we split in April. Last week I bumped into one of her friends in a pub and we got chatting, wh... (401 words)

Did she really forgive me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1236 days ago

30 July 2021 (M)

age 22-25 - Hello. I'm a 19 year old guy and my girlfriend is 22. So, it's a 3 years gap and we are both okay with it. We dated for 3 months now hitting 4. And to be honest, I had a great time spending my time with her and her the same and we felt like we have known each other for like ... (392 words)

I feel like I helped him mature for someone else to enjoy

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1236 days ago

29 July 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - I’m feeling very shocked and hurt even though I feel like I got over this past relationship. A man I dated swore he’d never have children. He’d be uncomfortable around them and all. I once got him to pose with my friends baby and his own mother expressed shock. After our almo... (152 words)

Insecure about my girlfriend and other men am I overthinking and being unnecessarily insecure?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1238 days ago

29 July 2021 (M)

age 51-59 - Thanks in advance to anybody who reads this all the way through, it will probably turn out to be lengthy, and I appreciate any meaningful advice or insight on this. BACKGROUND: I have been in a relationship for about 10 years with a woman my age. We had both been married bef... (1464 words)

Am I still a virgin if I've never had sex, and only masturbated?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1222 days ago

29 July 2021 (M)

age 26-29 - Hello I'm an 25 year old guy I was wondering I've never had sex with anyone yet and have only masturbated, does that means im still a virgin or not, and are there a difference between sex and masturbation.... (39 words)

How do I explain how my boyfriend and I met?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1237 days ago

29 July 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - How do I tell my fiance's parents how we met without revealing our secret? I met my fiance at a concert and had sex with him in the bathroom. I know it was risky and stupid but I was young and wild at the time. I thought it was just going to be a fling and it ended up turning... (149 words)

I met a new guy and don't know if I should end my current relationship

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1240 days ago

28 July 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello, I need advice on what to do regarding someone I met. I met a guy on Twitter. We’ve been talking for a month. I’m 25 and he’s 32. He lives miles away from me but we get along really well. I’m in a relationship and he’s single. I’ve been falling out of love with my boyfr... (179 words)

I got the married man, but I'm consumed with guilt

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1239 days ago

28 July 2021 (F) age 41-50 - I had an affair with a married man. He made the decision to leave his wife of 25 years for me. We have been in a real relationship for almost a year. But the insurmountable guilt I carry everyday for hurting his wife is eating me up alive. I feel miserable and depresse... (122 words)

How can I convince him I want HIM and not his money?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1239 days ago

28 July 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey cupids, anyone got any advice for a girl who’s really smitten with this guy? I know he likes me too but thanks to the antics of his last girlfriend he is struggling to trust anyone because she tried to rip him off. How can I convince him that I just want him and not his ... (863 words)

I have a boyfriend, but my soulmate is out there.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1239 days ago

28 July 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - Years ago, through work I met the guy of my dreams. We were actors that worked on set together and he was so nice to me, so handsome, just everything I wanted in a guy all my life. The way he looked at me made my heart just race. I felt like he was my soulmate. Everything about ... (384 words)

I don't want to attend my daughter's church services

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1241 days ago

27 July 2021 (F)

age - My daughter is 24 years old and lives with me. She has severe depression as well as BPD and anxiety. Her condition has improved greatly, which I contributed to therapy. However, she told me it wasn't just therapy but religion. Apparently, she got in touch with some Quakers and ... (165 words)

Does he feel the need to be in control?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1241 days ago

27 July 2021 (F)

age 51-59 - I am in communication - emails and occasionally video chats - with an older man (late 60s) who recently became a widower. I knew him a bit before he moved to another country and before his wife died. I enjoy our correspondence quite a lot. I am not sure, but I think he likes... (591 words)

A friends with benefits relationship

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1242 days ago

27 July 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - I was contacted on fb by a fake account which I am 99% certain that it was my fb boyfriend bc he has done this in the past in order to reveal things about himself and to try to "test me"( I know how he talks and he always said things to me verbatim that I had said to him about ... (235 words)

Ex's Jealous Wife

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1234 days ago

27 July 2021 (F)

age - My ex was married about 14 years ago. Previously we were together about the same but never married. We talk on the phone and catch up on kids, events, etc. His wife has forbid him to talk to me. She checks his phone daily and has confronted him about it. He told her "you can't ... (101 words)

Girlfriend keeps talking about her ex - Will we ever work?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1240 days ago

27 July 2021 (M)

age 22-25 - Is it normal for your partner to talk about their ex so much? I’m guessing not. Been with my girlfriend for 2 months and I’ve lost count of the amount of times she’s mentioned him already. They still message each other a lot and she even gushed about how good he apparently was ... (172 words)

Husband just isn't interested in sex, its been a year and me talking to him isn't working

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1139 days ago

27 July 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - I need suggestions, advice, direction... Whatever you can give. Thank you in advance and apologies for any confusion. I promise to try my best to include everything of the topic. I am a married, stay at home mother of 3. I have found myself 7 years completely devote... (529 words)

How can I stop feeling guilty and scared to have lost my virginity?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1239 days ago

27 July 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello Everyone I am feeling so awkward about losing my virginity. I am no teenager or anything but I a come from a very old fashioned family that has instilled in me, the idea that a woman who isn't a virgin is worth less than a woman who keeps herself until marriage. I l... (358 words)

Messed up relationships have made me afraid to date

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1242 days ago

27 July 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - I know no one owes me anything in this life. I guess I made the mistake of expecting some level of loyalty? I was with this man for three years. I chose to help him during his health issues. Making a long story short, I had been struggling with my sister’s untimely and very ... (683 words)

My cousin and I gave our baby up for adoption and now she wants to meet us

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1240 days ago

27 July 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - When my cousin and was 16 years old, we were left home alone. We ended up having sex (not the first time) and she ended up getting pregnant. Our parents were angry (rightfully so). We ended up putting up our child, a daughter, up for adoption since we felt that was the best ... (203 words)

Is My Friend A Creep? He Kept Sleeping With Young Girls At His Work...

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1241 days ago

26 July 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - I was in a big bunch of friends from school etc. but we didn't see each other as much at/post uni, however we have still kind of kept in touch. Anyway there was recently drama in the friend group as I heard most of them stopped talking to this one guy and I didn't know why. ... (349 words)

Confused cross dresser

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1243 days ago

25 July 2021 (M)

age - I am a CD who happens to be gay. I have been seeing a straight guy for intimate encounters. My question is: We have intercourse but he never touches my penis or even wants it exposed when we are together. I feel like he might as well be with a real woman. Why would he be attra... (61 words)

Am I self sabotaging because I can’t trust men?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1243 days ago

25 July 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - I met an older guy a few weeks ago through work. He messaged me and we just got talking none stop. I found him really nice while working with him, even though it was briefly and he was saying all the right things. We went on a date and I met him for coffee the next day. It... (231 words)

My drunk texts have caused a problem

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 1222 days ago

25 July 2021 (M)

age 41-50 - I have been an absolute idiot and I’m so embarrassed. I met up with a friend yesterday, a few afternoon beers turned into a few more and by 6pm we were streaming. We were having a good laugh and chat. Anyway, obviously due to covid we were catching up on things. She’s recently... (330 words)

Does he like me but can't do anything about it because he's married?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1244 days ago

23 July 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello So I'm very confused about a situation I'm experiencing. Is this guy flirting with me? So he's married, I;ve heard things that suggest he isn't happy but I have no certainty. Yes I kind of like him but he doesnt know and I'd never act on it as he's out of bounds but ... (251 words)

Does anyone else have adult siblings that are just awkward and unreasonable?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1243 days ago

23 July 2021 (F) age 51-59 - Does anyone else have adult siblings that are just awkward and unreasonable? Is it just me or do I have the worst, most inconsiderate family going?! My parents are both pensioners and could do with a bit of peace and quiet in their old age. Yet all my siblings are totally ... (327 words)

I feel I’m not good enough for my husband no matter what.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1228 days ago

23 July 2021 (F)

age 51-59 - I feel I’m not good enough for my husband no matter what. If we go the beach like we did tonight and a woman as s bikini or costume on he will look. She could be over weight even not much to look at but he will keep doing it. Tells me I’ve got it wrong, he doesn’t look and only ... (273 words)

Does anyone know any good ways of handling the stress of grief?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1228 days ago

22 July 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi lovely Cupid’s, I’m wanting some advice on some awful events that have happened in my family the past month. My grandad sadly passed away recently and he was the absolute backbone to our family. I have siblings and due to our parents alcohol addiction since we were ve... (286 words)

I got involved with him even though he has a girlfriend and its Long distance

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1245 days ago

22 July 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi dear agony aunts, I met J last month when i went on vacation (He lives in that country but we have the same nationality) A week later, we started going out and after one particular night out with other friends, he said we could go to his place to continue the night (Due ... (476 words)

Do you think I have a right to be upset at my husband for complimenting another woman in my presence?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1243 days ago

21 July 2021 (F) age 41-50 - Is it normal for your husband to compliment another woman in front of you? For example, yesterday he told this acquaintance of ours in my presence that she looks like she is in good shape after we ran into her and her husband at the mall. I have put on a little weight due to ... (112 words)

We got together with another couple for lunch and all they do is talk. They don't let my husband or I speak. How do we handle this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1244 days ago

21 July 2021 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi. My husband has an old friend back from his university days. Recently with the Covid restrictions lifting, we have gone to breakfast with him. The first time, he was on his own and the second he brought his wife. I have found to not have much in common with them. They ... (473 words)

My husband's lack of affection towards our 12 year old son concerns me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1246 days ago

21 July 2021 (F) age 36-40 - Hi guys, rights now I am just hurting for my eldest son. He just turned 12 and he has great resentment towards his father. My husband's father was never in his life until he was an adult. I believe it was when he turned 42 years old is when they started talking more often. ... (447 words)

Childhood friend has turned into a bully

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1244 days ago

20 July 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - I’ve had a childhood friend ask me for so many favors like borrow money but then can’t pay it back or takes months. Then he will take me out to eat only to charge it for me later by saying he owes me less. He also told two people I was molested when we were in 8th grade!! T... (204 words)

How pushy is too pushy?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1246 days ago

20 July 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I was good friends with a cute guy a few years younger than myself. We lost touch but then at New Year I wished him a Happy New Year which he sent a sweet message back. The other month I sent him another message but this time he didn't reply, but I know it was delivered and he ... (98 words)

I don't like that my current boyfriend was into threesomes

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1246 days ago

20 July 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - My boyfriend recently admitted he's had a threesome in the past and I can't seem to look past it. It's just made me look at him in a completely different light now. I know everyone has a past but I can't help but feel embarrassed FOR HIM over it. I'm completely again... (213 words)

Why do I think about my baby daddy after having sex with other men?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1227 days ago

20 July 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - It’s been a long time since I had a question. Most of my questions revolved around my baby daddy. He is out of the picture. I’m coming to realize he is toxic. He has nothing to do with our child or pays child support. I no longer want a relationship with anyone. I have instead ... (84 words)

The idea of my woman having a random sexual encounter is sexy to me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1248 days ago

20 July 2021 (M)

age 51-59 - I am wondering if anyone else is like me. I occasionally want the woman I am with, no matter who it is, to go out sometimes and get laid. I wouldn't want it to be an all the time thing. Say she goes out with chums and maybe has a little too much to drink and gets hit on and one ... (166 words)

I don't like that my 16 year old daughter is dating and having sex

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1246 days ago

20 July 2021 (F)

age 51-59 - I’m struggling to deal with the fact that my daughter is having a sexual relationship, does anyone have any advice? She turned 16 in May and is legally allowed to but it doesn’t make me feel any better about it. I just feel like she’s rushing into things. She’s been goi... (737 words)

Is there any way around using our current landlord for a reference?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1248 days ago

20 July 2021 (F)

age 51-59 - Been living in a private rented accommodation for 2 years. We don’t want to stay where we are long term and looking to move but are not in any rush to get out. Our past landlord didn’t do anything in the house we rented from her and if we did find a house now would we have to ... (125 words)

We broke up because partner wanted me to foot the bill for his sister's wedding

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1247 days ago

20 July 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - I’m struggling with something and I know it’s for the best. I’m not sure how to feel about it. Three years ago I almost filed for bankruptcy. I was very depressed but about two years ago, I met someone that was a good listener and all that. Aside from being very emotionally ... (518 words)

Is this just a crush that will pass and am I better staying safe and keeping it strictly business?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1249 days ago

19 July 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm in a six year relationship which has had its ups and downs but mostly happy times, however I recently met someone through a work that I've just clicked with. We have spent some time together (strictly professional) and I think he feels the same, however stopped contacting ... (108 words)

How can I be a stepmom if I can't be a wife first?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1247 days ago

19 July 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm being thorough so that I can really just get to the bottom of resolving my stress with good advice. I've been with my current partner for 2 years, married for almost 1 year. His baby mom has caused a lot of drama since day one, though I've only physically met her like 6 m... (1573 words)

My cousin was diagnosed with advanced cancer. How do I support them in the upcoming weeks?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1246 days ago

19 July 2021 (F)

age 51-59 - Thank you in advance to all who help out here. My favourite cousin just received a diagnosis of advanced pancreatic cancer. We know it has spread to his other organs and that he will be assessed this week to see what his treatment plan is moving forward. He chatted on t... (121 words)

My past life was boring. How do I get over it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1248 days ago

19 July 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - I can’t stop dwelling on how lonely and miserable my teenage years were and how much I feel like I’ve missed out on in life. Every time my wife talks about her life and what she’s done I just feel so depressed, jealous and envious. The thing is though I’m almost 33 so I don’t ... (1548 words)

Am I being paranoid by working towards permanently moving out as soon as possible?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1228 days ago

19 July 2021 (F)

age 22-25 - I’m back home over summer due to COVID and that has triggered a bunch of memories i hadnt realized i’d forgotten and feel unsafe because of this. The majority of these are from when I was under the age of 10, my mother calls me crazy for still feeling apprehensive towards both ... (156 words)

What I can do to help save our friendship or what to do with the fact that he kissed me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1247 days ago

18 July 2021 (M)

age 22-25 - When I was in high school, I went to an all boy school. There was this kid, Zackary, who we sometimes bullied each other and at other times, we would get along. I never understood our relationship in high school. As adults, we are both still single and we are great friend... (275 words)

Chance Meeting or Fate?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1249 days ago

16 July 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi - A guy I had a slight crush on a couple of years ago, bumps into me recently in a busy city centre. We hadn't seen each other for a couple of years but chatted away like good friends. I desperately want him to keep in touch with me (we have each other's work email addresse... (160 words)

Is it right for my 15-year old son to date an 18-Year old girl?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1085 days ago

16 July 2021 (F)

age 51-59 - My 15-year old son has recently started going out with an 18 year old girl. Is it just me or does this seem really inappropriate? Don’t get me wrong she’s a nice person and he seems to be really smitten with her but she is technically an adult whilst he is still a child. T... (263 words)

We gave our friend money for their wedding and they never acknowledged us

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1250 days ago

16 July 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - My friend recently got married and both her and her fiancé were struggling financially so were cutting corners on their wedding. My husband and I felt bad for them as the financial side of the pandemic hit them hard- they both have jobs but his hours got cut. We d... (339 words)

Girlfriend has medical issues but doesn't want to medicate. This is causing problems

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1245 days ago

11 July 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, I have written here before and got some really good advice, thank you ! So, my gf and I have been in a long distance relationship for over a year. Sometimes it's great, sometimes I want to run! I love her, I think she is a good person, a caring lady that can be real... (217 words)