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writes:I am a CD who happens to be gay. I have been seeing a straight guy for intimate encounters. My question is: We have intercourse but he never touches my penis or even wants it exposed when we are together. I feel like he might as well be with a real woman. Why would he be attracted to me?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 July 2021):
 You could ask him, you know? If you have sex on a regular basis, I'd assume you can also talk to each other?
He might not want to tell you.
If there is some denial or shame around man/man sex in his head that could be it. It's easier to "pretend" you are a woman if you dress like one and you keep the penis out of the situation.
Also, he is definitely NOT straight if he is having sex with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2021): Have to agree with wise owl. This come straight down to anal sex . Not all females will tolerate or even in engage in such activity. If you dont feel valued and you should. If your needs are not being met by these encounters . Then draw a line under them and move on . Dont let someone use you .
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2021): P.S.
Straight-men prefer vaginas; and have no reason to want to touch another man's penis.
Your guy likes anal-sex, and you comply. That's where he draws the line.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2021): I suspect he's trying to hold onto feeling this is just an anomaly or aberration in his life; it's not who he really is. Everyone comes to terms with who they really are when they're ready. That's not always contingent upon how others want to define or perceive us.
He doesn't wish to be considered gay. He wants to hold-on to his heterosexuality as his true sexual-orientation. This may only be a long-standing experiment for him; but if you're seeing him on a regular basis, and you're having sex. The questions is, how can he still claim he's heterosexual?
You may have presumed him to be "straight;" but I'd say that's up for debate.
If he is knowingly and consensually having regular sex with a man; maybe he has already crossed that line. In all probability he could be identified as bisexual; if that's how you want to "label" him. He's comfortable believing he's straight.
Maybe one of your stipulations or the conditions of this alliance was that he had to be straight. That being the criteria he had to meet; perhaps he told you what you wanted to hear.
It defies logic that you would think a "straight-man" would want to have sex with you; if he knows you're a man!
I think these encounters mean one thing to him, and another to you. It is likely, he may decide at some point to stop; and he me never venture into this realm of activities again. It happens.
There are things you don't like sexually, and you don't do them; or you wouldn't want to be forced to do them. Respect that of any sex-partner you have.
Everyone has their likes and dislikes, or preferences when it comes to sex. It might be a good practice to always respect your partner's boundaries. Otherwise, find someone less confusing; who is a confirmed and "out" gay-man, who will do whatever it is you'd like him to do.
He is attracted to the fact you cross-dress, and the illusion you impart as that of being a female. Fetishes aren't supposed to make sense, they're supposed to satisfy a fantasy. They delve into a world of unusual appetites. If you want his participation, I guess you'll have to play by his rules.
It only stands to reason, that if you want or need certain things from people; you should choose those willing to give or do them. Why pursue, in frustration, those you have to "change" to suit you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2021): Testing. I will respond to your post if this post comes through. Met some technical difficulties.
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