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Archived questions from: April, 2021 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

How should I tackle the issue of wanting to get back into the honeymoon period

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1328 days ago

30 April 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello there. I'm at the stage of our 4-year relationship where we now should be, theoretically, able to discuss more serious things, but my husband wants to recreate the honeymoon stage of our relationship (no, not THE honeymoon after we married) semi-permanently... (520 words)

What would you do if your partner called you an idiot and other names?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 1329 days ago

29 April 2021 (F) age 51-59 - What would you do if your long time partner called you an idiot, stupid, or insane or told you to shut the fuck up or fuck off, or go fuck yourself during arguments? And continually hang up on you? Or hang up when you cry or want to speak? Or hit the phone on the table over and ... (93 words)

I was his mistress. Now that he's left his wife for me, I live in fear. How can I stop the anxiety?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1328 days ago

28 April 2021 (F) age 41-50 - My boyfriend left his wife for me. He says he loves me. If so, why do I always feel so anxious, scared and insecure around him? Even though he's divorced and proclaiming his undying love and devotion to me? Do you think I could ever be happy with him? Will therapy help us? It ... (168 words)

I am too shy to even look at her

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1330 days ago

28 April 2021 (M)

age 18-21 - there is a girl that I like and she knows that I like her, but it is impossible for me to talk to her in person. we talk fine on google hangouts, but when it comes to in-person confrontation, I can't even look at her because I am too shy. I need help with talking to her.... (57 words)

Heartbroken and devastated, I fear my new relationship may end. How can I fix this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1329 days ago

28 April 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi all, I'm new here. Thank you do much for taking the time to look at my question. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 months. That might sound like a small amount of time, but I've never felt so in love in all my life, even compared to previous longterm relationships. W... (786 words)

Is my boyfriend cheating on me, or am I crazy?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1315 days ago

27 April 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - Is my boyfriend cheating on me, or am I crazy? F (32) I’ve been with my boyfriend about a month now, so it is early days. I do come from a broken home, so I will mention that I have a lot of trust and abandonment issues. I also seem to go for the “bad boy types” and they ... (492 words)

Troubled relationship with ex. I want him to reach out but don't think he will

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1331 days ago

26 April 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Been on and off with an ex for a couple years. Broke up simply due to having different needs but still care for each other very much. Thursday night after a movie with his friends, he got angry at me over something I said regarding driving and pulled over so hard it jerked ... (443 words)

My ex struggles with issues and I'm not sure how to approach or help him

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1332 days ago

26 April 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - OK this might be a bit of strange one but I'm interested to hear what other's opinion on this are. I have been with my partner for a year and a half. There's some things I have noticed that make me think or even research different behaviour problems ect. (I am not a Doctor o... (541 words)

I found out my ex is a registered sex offender and don't know what to do with the information

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1332 days ago

26 April 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi dear cupid. In November last year I found out my then boyfriend is a registered sex offender and has seven years to go on the registry... I took a photo of the paper I found as evidence. he was never going to tell me... I walked away earlier this year becaus... (187 words)

My partner lacks compassion and understanding about my medical condition

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1333 days ago

26 April 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a medical condition that causes me quite a lot of pain but my partner lacks understanding of this and compassion. This is definitely something that would cause me to willingly end the relationship. He says I am moaning about pain and is offended because I can't do norma... (143 words)

My LDR ex wants to get engaged but I am confused

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1333 days ago

26 April 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear Aunts and uncles, I am confused and don't know if I am making the right decision. I was in an LDR with my boyfriend in since early 2018. We have been best friends since I was 18 and he was 17- he asked me out since I was 23.We were in a relationship since then. He is a ... (1031 words)

Would you get upset or angry with your boyfriend if he was long distance and he was talking to you and forgot you were online having a conversation with him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1334 days ago

25 April 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - Would you get upset or angry with your boyfriend if he was long distance and he was talking to you and forgot you were online having a conversation with him? He and I are in a long distance relationship for the time being. As you know, in long distance relationships, all... (1050 words)

Female Nudity Movies

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1333 days ago

25 April 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - There is too much female nudity on TV. There was a completely naked girl in a movie I watched with my BF last night AND the night before. Why can they show female genitals? Not ok. It was disgusting. Hate it. No male nudity? I was shocked, disgusted, and jealous ... (62 words)

Does anybody experience lonliness from being used?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1333 days ago

24 April 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - Does anybody experience lonliness from being used? My phone does not ring, but when it does I’m excited. Usually I find out the person is after something from me. This happens from distant friends to close friends. I feel so alone. To combat this I spent time to impr... (533 words)

My friend wants me to get with his wife that is in love with me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1334 days ago

24 April 2021 (M)

age 41-50 - A friend of mine, Victoria (not her real name) has admitted over email she is in love with me, and via WhatsApp. It was out of the blue, the email, sent to my personal, well, work address (me at mydomain.com) since I work freelance; hadn't heard from her since 2013. I... (553 words)

My guy and I haven’t had sex in a year

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1332 days ago

24 April 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - My guy and I haven’t had sex in a year. At least since CoVid started. Since then we’ve goI believe I've met the love of my life, but he recently told me that I give bad head and he doesn't enjoy our sex. Can this be saved? through the stress of moving, buying a home and getting ... (173 words)

I believe I've met the love of my life, but he recently told me that I give bad head and he doesn't enjoy our sex. Can this be saved?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1334 days ago

24 April 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - So I'm 28, and 4 months ago I met a man and felt a love that I've never felt for anyone before. I've had longterm relationships in the past and experienced 'love,' I even lived with a guy for several years, but nothing like this. I know its early days but I swear he is my soul ... (874 words)

I don't think submissive means you tolerate abuse

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1334 days ago

23 April 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello! My bf and I are from different cultures and English isn't his first language. He sometimes misunderstands me and then starts arguing. It's not normal arguments but very degrading ones. He calls me stupid, idiot, low mentality he will send pig emojis whatever ... (133 words)

My insecurities about a woman my boyfriend works with are causing big problems

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1335 days ago

23 April 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - So I want to start by confessing I am an anxious person and unfortunately due to previous experiences struggle to trust. My boyfriend and I are having big problems in our relationship because of my insecurities but I don't know how to stop. The one thing causing a proble... (178 words)

Is a man capable of abstaining from sex for four months?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1291 days ago

23 April 2021 (F)

age 51-59 - Can a man go without sex for FOUR months? Let's say he is away from his wife or girlfriend for FOUR months. Can he abstain or will he be weak and succumb to his little head? Any action is better than no action? Just wandering, are men are capable of controlling themselve... (63 words)

My son's father has anger issues and its starting to show up in our son

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1334 days ago

22 April 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - So my partner has a short temper and anger issues and I don’t know what I can do to help. He isn’t willing to help himself and try and change but whenever I offer help or advice it makes him worse and he snaps at me. We have a son and he is now 21 months old, which is why I wa... (441 words)

I Feel Like Everything Changed In 2012, I Have No Friends

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1315 days ago

22 April 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - What are you supposed to do when everyone just watches anime, netflix, and talks about food? Every person i meet now days just does these things or talks about their family how am i supposed to find someone to hang out with or do things with? Can't remember the last time i ... (98 words)

My boyfriend got someone else pregnant but I still love him

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1335 days ago

22 April 2021 (F)

age 22-25 - Dear Cupid My boyfriend and I started dating from last year May I've really fallen for Him and he has too He spent so much on me and made sure I was happy Just last month, he cried confessing to me that he's impregnated someone mistakenly and he's apologizing that I should m... (148 words)

I think my LDR girl may be lying but what if I'm wrong?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1335 days ago

22 April 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - So, I am in a long distance relationship with someone whom I have never meet in real life! We are supposed to meet each for the first time for christmas in december. We video chat and messages everyday, but she has this habit of randomly disappearing. To clarify "disappear" we ... (211 words)

My husband who is away does not seem as sexually interested in me. Is it my imagination or are his needs being met without me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1334 days ago

20 April 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - My husband and I are having a major problem right now and it is my hope that the aunts and uncles here could serve as mediators to our ongoing argument. My husband will be reading this if posted. He is in South America for 3 months. We have been married for close to 9 years... (643 words)

I don't think our marriage is going to work unless I just hold everything in

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1315 days ago

20 April 2021 (M)

age 51-59 - I won't go into the lengthy background but my wife and I have been together for about 10 years. We've had our ups and downs, nothing big - nobody has ever cheated or anything like that. But the biggest problem we've always had is not that we argue or fight, but HOW we argue ... (795 words)

What will be the fallout/possible outcomes of my husband divorcing me for another woman?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1337 days ago

19 April 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I've used some affair jargon in this post, and also, names have been changed. OW = other woman AP = affair partner BS = betrayed spouse HW = homewrecker STBXH = soon to be ex-husband WS = wayward spouse If you see these in this post, that will help you understand (Sor... (1179 words)

Husband's ongoing affair with big name woman in our town. I don't know how to handle everything

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1340 days ago

19 April 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been married for 3 years, then later found out my husband had been for our whole engagement (a 3-year-long one) and marriage sleeping with another woman. But the identity of this other woman is a local news anchor, she's a big name in town, and has a husband and kids... (297 words)

My husband and mother in law are making fun of me

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1339 days ago

19 April 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - my husband is making fun of me all the time in front of others; when I said that huts also he is repeating, and my mother in law is also taking it as an advantage and making fun of my skin tone, really hurts as I am susceptible to those things ... (51 words)

Husband's promotion of his car company has caused problems and I'm worried about being harassed

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1339 days ago

18 April 2021 (F)

age 51-59 - My husband has been the victim of cancel culture over something he posted on his business's website. He runs his own car dealer, has done so for 15 years, but has 24 years experience in the motor trade in total. This current incarnation of the business has only been around... (552 words)

My husband admitted to seeking out male friends for me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1341 days ago

18 April 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been married to my husband for 8 years; life's been good so far. We met when doing a Christmas promotional thing in the store I worked in at the time. Or so I thought. On Monday my husband admitted to me he'd been online posing as me on dating apps and trying to... (825 words)

A policeman is harrassing my husband for intimate photos

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1338 days ago

18 April 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - My husband told me he doesn't want to go out shopping as much, because a guy he used to know from high school is harassing him.... this was three weeks ago. The kicker? He's a cop now. Jason used to be in high school in Alberta with my husband Scott, and I didn't know... (1063 words)

How do I come clean about my age?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1339 days ago

17 April 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi all. I need an advice. I'm a 41 years old woman. Recently I met a guy. When he approached me I thought he was my at least exact age or maybe 2 or 3 yrs young. When we met I told him that im 37 then he said his 37 too. Then 5 months down the line I saw his identity docum... (153 words)

Do you think my husband is cheating?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1341 days ago

17 April 2021 (F) age 51-59 - My husband went and got another phone app on his phone. He told me it is to save money. But our current phone plan is only $25 a month. The new one is $20 a month and he went so far as to go through the trouble of switching to an app you can load on your phone that is only $5 ... (347 words)

How do I set boundaries with my narcissist cousin?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1337 days ago

17 April 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - A cousin of mine asked me to be a godmother to her twins, when she was still pregnant. I would have politely refused, but she was in the hospital and under a lot of stress (and meds), because she almost lost her babies. I made a mistake, but I have chosen the lesser evil, not... (843 words)

I feel insecure about not acting like an 'Influencer'

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1339 days ago

17 April 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Lots of my peers (I'm in my twenties) wear lots of "Instagram makeup," the on trend style (which is very revealing - think low cut tops, hotpants etc), have social media accounts where they post pictures of themselves in bikinis, show off how big their bum is etc. They a... (267 words)

My husband has been pan-handling

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1337 days ago

16 April 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I was told by a good friend this week they saw my husband panhandling and apparently he was begging for money outside a local supermarket and people giving him snacks and cash. I was surprised, I thought he'd just gone to the supermarket when I worked from home but no, the... (441 words)

Is my story a cautionary tale about waiting for a married man and being careful what you wish for

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1342 days ago

16 April 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - You're probably going to think "you got what you wanted, now be satisifed with it" or "another typical case of woman takes married man and another woman's leftovers", but this is not quite that. I got with my current boyfriend in August 2019, a year after he'd divorced hi... (960 words)

I am having a relationship with a woman 1/2 my age. She has sex with other men. I don't mind but my family does

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1342 days ago

16 April 2021 (M)

age - Im a 75 year old man who would like some honest advice...my entire family is upset with me..for over a year now Ive been having a relationship with a 36 year old woman..we spend alot of time together, traveling the world, going to restaurants, shopping, but due to medical ... (240 words)

We broke up but still talk and I'm confused

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1342 days ago

14 April 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - I don’t know what to think anymore. My gf broke up few months ago but we talk daily and still love each other. However due to pandemic it has been hard to move forward. However I have just realised she does talk to me but barely answers. It’s so one worded. She said she was... (206 words)

Girlfriend shares bed with single guy but swears nothing happened

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1326 days ago

14 April 2021 (M)

age 51-59 - We were at a single friends home having drinks. I laid down about 2am as my girlfriend carried on a conversation with the single guy,that include admitting she was not that happy.. I was listening. they talked for quite some time. there was a couple quiet moments. my other ... (195 words)

I found out on my birthday my husband has been having casual, meaningless sex with another woman!!! How can I ever trust him again?/

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1343 days ago

14 April 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Can ANYONE here tell me HOW and WHY A MAN can go behind his wife or girlfriend's back to GET A BLOW JOB or HAVE MEANINGLESS CASUAL SEX here and there and CLAIM to LOVE his wife or girlfriend??? And PRETEND to be committed to his primary relationship?????? Someone PLEASE... (299 words)

We had a falling out I extended an olive branch to my close friend but he didn't respond. Now what?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1343 days ago

13 April 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Ok, folks. I need your advice on this one. Here's the story. I had a friend and we were a part of a larger group of friends and we were all part of a local sports club. He and I were really good pals, in fact I would class him as one of my closest pals, we're pretty muc... (718 words)

I am not sure if my partner and I are at the same place about having a family

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1347 days ago

12 April 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - ’m unsure whether I’m being naive here or over dramatic, hopefully you can help. I’ve been with my partner 3 years this year. I’m 25, 26 in January and he is 24, 25 in January. I’m at the point in my life where I feel like I’m ready for children, as ready as I’ll ever be at ... (615 words)

My fiance wants to move from Italy to Manhatten. Could we make it?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1344 days ago

12 April 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - I'm uncertain of how to deal with this. Thought I'd ask. My fiancee told me on Saturday that the coronavirus pandemic made her really question her priorities in life and realize life's too short to stay in Italy. She told me that she'd secretly been applying for jobs ... (614 words)

I'm still in love with him even though he is cruel

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1346 days ago

12 April 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Once upon a time I liked this boy from my primary school when I was 13. I told him how I felt about him on Facebook and his response was that I have problems. But it made me fall in love with him even more. Then one day, he called me an ugly bitch with mental health problems ... (102 words)

My husband has changed. He's turned into a Christmas freak and watching gay porn

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1346 days ago

12 April 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - OK, so I'll cut a long story short, but I'm worried over finances. For the past year, my husband's been obsessive over Christmas, spending large amounts on extravagant gifts, and buying large amounts of sweets and crisps and encouraging our kids to eat them, and trying to ... (463 words)

How long a man can stay hard in sex (just penitration time)

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1345 days ago

12 April 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - There are a lot of myths. No man tells that how long he can stay during intercourse. so is it true that a man can stay hard without cum more than 30 mins? what your experience tells about it.... (39 words)

My 45 year old husband wants to quit his job and work for the Australian army

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1346 days ago

11 April 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - My husband told me yesterday he wants to quit his job, aged 45, and work in public relations for the Australian Army for 18 months. He works in sales and doesn't want to work from home any longer, claims working for the Army in public relations will be slightly better and a mo... (686 words)

Can a relationship that started as an affair have a chance at succeeding in the long run?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1345 days ago

11 April 2021 (F) age 41-50 - I am one of the rare mistresses who gets her married man in the end. He divorced his wife, sold the home, split assets. All the kids are grown and out of the house. And now we are together legitimately. I can walk on the street with him holding his hand. His family kno... (471 words)