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Archived questions from: September, 2018 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

How can I make our first time as pleasurable as possible?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2266 days ago

30 September 2018 (M)

age 30-35 - Basic sex question: I just got out of a 2.5 yr relationship. I've met someone new, and we've been very open with communication and I've been able to let her know that while I'm not absolutely ready for something concrete, and that I need some more time to myself for heali... (275 words)

How can I be more confident in social situations?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2270 days ago

30 September 2018 (F)

age 26-29 - I have often the confidence to be quite witty and use my sense of humour to speak and talk when needed to although I am a shy and quite person . I have realised that I tend to be confident and talkative in situations were most people are probably not I cant really think of any ... (192 words)

To send a message or not send a message, what if I come across as weird?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2272 days ago

30 September 2018 (F)

age 26-29 - Should I message someone to say I want to be his friend ? About a year ago I started talking to someone and spent a bit of time with him, but at first was not that bothered about being his friend because I didn't really know him that well and didn't always find the time to ... (200 words)

How do I deal with my controlling husband?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2272 days ago

30 September 2018 (F)

age 41-50 - my husband is very controlling he times my every move. tells me to pack my clothes when I try to go see my friend and says housework is women work. and we both work. he spends all the extra money we are about behind on our bills that I take care of and manipulates me about ... (116 words)

Being with him makes me feel like the loneliest person in the world, should I just walk away?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2272 days ago

30 September 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - He never has time for me, not even during the weekends. It's not like I sit there begging for his attention all day, every day.. I have my chores, errands, hang out with my friends, etc. But I do also want to talk to him and spend time with him. When I call him, he says he'... (193 words)

My heart is broken, I have a lot of resentment and I am seeking peace.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2274 days ago

29 September 2018 (F)

age - I have been married to my husband for almost 35 years, although we were separated for the first 20. While we were separated I did have a long relationship , but he didn’t. In the 15 or so years we’ve been reunited, we have had communication issues the entire time, and ... (254 words)

How do men act after a one night stand?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2273 days ago

29 September 2018 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone I’m in a awful situation 5 weeks ago I had a one night stand it’s the first time I’ve done anything like this I’m so embarrassed the problem is I’ve got a partner who things aren’t great with he shows me no affection or spends any time with me I was feeling lonely ... (137 words)

First crush and self-loathing thoughts, how do I cope with them?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2273 days ago

28 September 2018 (M)

age 22-25 - I think that all started last october when I realised that I really liked a boy at school who is a year older than me. I remember being walking and chatting with a friend of mine along the corridor when he appeared out of the blue and greeted both of us with a great smile. ... (877 words)

How do you cope with the loss of a potential relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2273 days ago

28 September 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - I was dating a guy for a few weeks until this weekend. I wasn’t overly keen for the first month or so, but finally something clicked on the weekend and I finally let my guard down and invested. We had sex and he stayed the night. A few days later he contacted me and... (188 words)

Is it okay to ask out a girl from my workplace just for the fact that I find her beautiful?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2269 days ago

28 September 2018 (M)

age 26-29 - Hello Agony Aunts and Uncles. I’ve recently broke up with a girlfriend (if you can call 1 year as recent). I’m not used to the whole dating game and being single thing but I’m thinking of asking out this girl. I’ve never dated anyone since my break up and the only two other ... (305 words)

My daughter is in her terrible teens and is unhappy with the lifestyle that she has, even though I'm doing everything I can for her

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2269 days ago

27 September 2018 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello. My daughter has recently started transitioning from the fun loving kid she was into a teenager who's seemingly starting to rebel, or at least doing the whole i need independence from mom gig. Shes glued to her phone, enjoys time with friends like everyday. Lately when ... (469 words)

I have a new guy ... so why am I so jealous about my ex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2276 days ago

27 September 2018 (F)

age 36-40 - Hey, Needing some advice. I had been in a long term relationship (6 years) with guy A we split up in March of 2017, because our relationship was no longer healthy we were endangering each other physically and mentally with drug abuse. I still spent time with him going o... (472 words)

Advise needed please, about sex and time.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2274 days ago

27 September 2018 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend and I see eachother every 3 months. Recently, when we saw eachother, we had sex on the first night. He lasted about 30 seconds. The next morning we had sex again and he lasted a long time, maybe 5 minutes or even more. He rarely ... (210 words)

Should I take the hint? It seems our friendship is over.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2276 days ago

26 September 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - So I was friends with benefits with this guy for 4 years. I told him 8 months ago I can't do this no more. I told him either commit or let me go. He let me go. 8 months later he's speaking to me again. I met up at his place and he tried instigating sex in which I declined, when ... (120 words)

I lied to my b/f that I've never done anal and now I am afraid he'll know

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2272 days ago

26 September 2018 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey guys, well i've been lying to my boyfriend honestly about having anal, i did it before so many times and now he insist about doing it and im afraid he will notice that im not tight, well is there any type of way that i can save this situation ? ... (51 words)

Dad needs some help in his relationship.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2273 days ago

26 September 2018 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello, Please could someone help give me some good advice, I don't know what else to do.... I am currently in a 10 year relationship and we have 3 young children and the kids are our worlds and we do love each other, but I am deeply disappointed in my partners behavio... (1597 words)

Am I in the wrong for talking to his mate?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2275 days ago

25 September 2018 (F)

age 26-29 - In February I was talking to this guy and he was newly single at the time. I knew his ex but she wasn’t a friend I just knew of her. And because we live in such a small town we kept it a secret because everyone knows everyone so literally not one person knows about us. We ... (194 words)

How do I learn to filter my comments?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2277 days ago

25 September 2018 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, I'm a 26 year old guy. Started a new job few months back and am in a good place right now. I'm meeting a lot of people with whom I need to co-ordinate to get my job done on a daily basis. The problem is however that I get too friendly too quick and poke fun at ... (199 words)

Is he too immature? Should I give up?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2277 days ago

24 September 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone! I went on a couple dates with this guy, we met online. I'm a few years older than him, he just graduated from college. Both dates were really fun and great and ended with us kissing for a long time. He said he really liked me and wanted to see me the next day. Well ... (225 words)

Husband hasn't kissed me for years and I now want to kiss other men!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2275 days ago

24 September 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been with my husband 10 years, married for 3. We are still very happy in our relationship and everything apart from this one issue is normal. We still have sex as of normal too, in fact the past month or so it's been every day so I can't complain about that and I think ... (330 words)

Would women actually want a relationship with someone who already has a kid?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2277 days ago

24 September 2018 (M)

age 30-35 - Call myself c and my daughters mother m. I'll try to keep things short. Our relationship was great before the child came and we even got engaged. I'm not great with women or people in general and I struggle just to hold a conversation to get a tip while I'm driving for ... (668 words)

I need dating advice on how to meet women!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2278 days ago

23 September 2018 (M)

age 36-40 - I'm 30, single male, and at a total loss on how to meet women for dating. I don't have a big social circle (which has been shrinking since my mid 20's) so I don't meet anyone through mutual friends. I live in a small town but commute to work in a big city in SoCal. I'm no... (144 words)

Cheated on my boyfriend 2 weeks before getting pregnant help!!!

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 2278 days ago

23 September 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 24 years old and found out I was pregnant about 3 weeks ago. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and thought things were fizzled out, I looked for company else where. I have never cheated on him before and can’t believe I did it this time! I did not sleep with the ... (156 words)

I am at my wits end with laziness of my husband

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2279 days ago

23 September 2018 (F)

age 51-59 - I am a full time worker and also a house wife of a man that is on disability due to mental state he can still do things but chooses not to do anything but sit on the computer all day consuming negative news . I work for Hospice and work long days to come home and have to do ... (265 words)

My wife is giving me the cold shoulder after I sent her touristy pics of women in Japan. How do I handle this?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2278 days ago

23 September 2018 (M)

age 51-59 - Hi, first timer here. I am on a business trip to Japan. I am taking some guided tours with colleagues in my spare time. It has been interesting to explore the different culture here. I've never been before. I have always been an avid photographer. I enjoy taking pic... (344 words)

How to get people off my back about dating?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 2278 days ago

23 September 2018 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey guys I have a question, may be weird for most as you probably have not experienced it. But I have to face the facts. From young age I was always bullied about my looks. Certain facial features different proportions etc. Anyway I always found it embarrassing in ... (266 words)

What are some tips for using an average sized penis to make her feel good?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2276 days ago

23 September 2018 (M)

age 41-50 - The saying is, it's not the size of the boat, it's the motion of the ocean. Well my penis is averaged size, but I've come to the conclusion that I don't know how to use it very well. Does anyone have any advice on how to "use" my penis to make her feel good in PIV sex? I ... (121 words)

He says he's not ready to go public with our relationship

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2280 days ago

23 September 2018 (M)

age 36-40 - I am 33 years old and my boyfriend, Joe, is 32 years old. We have been in a "secret relationship" for about 3 years now. People just think we are roommates and best friends. I am ready to let our family and friends know that we are gay and in a relationship. H... (107 words)

Why do I feel so emotional about events happening around me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2279 days ago

23 September 2018 (F)

age 41-50 - i sometimes feel pathetic with what i am going to say, a month ago my nephews best friend died in a tragic accident. I first saw his face in the newspaper before knowing he was my nephews best friend ( i didnt know every friend he had ) and i just thought poor lad you could see ... (228 words)

Are my reasons to break up with long term girlfriend valid?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2280 days ago

23 September 2018 (M)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid, I am in a 2.5-year relationship with a Southamerican girl (we are both 36; she is here on a temporary work/study permit). She is sweet and loves me, and I love her too, but I cannot stop thinking about breaking up with her...why? I don't find her very interesting... (285 words)

15 years later I am informed I might be father. How should I handle all of this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2280 days ago

23 September 2018 (M)

age 36-40 - When I was 18 years old, I had sex with a girl, Dianne, that hung out with my group of friends. She was extremely nice and cute. About two months later, she went away to college which was not a big surprise because a lot of us were going to college. Around March or April, I ... (285 words)

Does he love me or just think of me as a sex toy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2272 days ago

22 September 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been with my bf for 3 years and now I feel like he just wants me for sending him sexy pictures and wants to see me for intimacy he barely even talks about himself like how he's doing, or anything other than spicy pictures and am not sure what he thinks about us cause he ... (184 words)

He threw out something important to me for no reason, WHY???

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2279 days ago

22 September 2018 (F)

age - I had been buying second hand toys and saving them for a friend of my husbands who had asked for help with a co-worker with a 5 yr old who had no money for toys. I collected two shopping bags of quality toys (Dora the Explorer talking doll house, barbie and car, polly pocke... (345 words)

I can't feel anything while having sex and lose my erection

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2277 days ago

22 September 2018 (M)

age 30-35 - my age is just 23....I cant feel while having sex with my wife I put my penis inside the vagina but after a min automatically my penis gets down I am worried about it please help please give me some tips ... (43 words)

Is it wrong that I feel he's totally describing her when he volunteers his opinion on whats his type?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2280 days ago

22 September 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been seeing my boyfriend for five months now. When we first got togther he mentioned he knew one of my friends and almost dated her. Ill call her S. Then after hanging out with him and another friend of mine ill call P, im told he was really obsessed with S to the ... (414 words)

I’ve been bullied by my brother-in-law for 17 years! What is the best revenge?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 2280 days ago

22 September 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a brother in law and for 17 years he has disliked me from the very moment he laid eyes on me. I am a very likeable and confident, and id like to say hot girl lol i am hilarious and fun love to tell stories and make people laugh i dont have any enemies in truth, only him. ... (329 words)

Confused and not sure if I'm in love anymore!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2277 days ago

21 September 2018 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey fellow cupids. I'm a little bit confused and have been for some time. I'm in a long term relationship and care for my partner, probably even love (sorry I'm not an emotional guy so it's hard to understand my feelings sometimes). For the last two months I haven't been int... (155 words)

Should I give up on a shy guy? Is he just not that into me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2272 days ago

21 September 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been friends/acquaintances with a guy for 6 months now. I don't know him all that well but when we talk we would really get on and have a lot in common. He wow make excuses to come chat to me all the time. He's 10 years older than me and quite shy. Not my usual type an... (497 words)

Why is this married female coworker playing games?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2281 days ago

21 September 2018 (M)

age 41-50 - Why would married female coworker who is friendly with everyone shower me with gifts just told me she cheated on her husband before out the blue seeks me out all day but today she invites me to smoke and then ignores me and wouldn't even sit next to me saying she was worried ... (88 words)

Her husband abruptly didn’t want to move! Any advice on how I can advise her?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2279 days ago

21 September 2018 (M)

age 41-50 - A good friend of mine is very upset. She had accepted a promotion with her company to move to Florida. Her husband is a pilot for a major airline and also made arrangements to relocate to Florida. So my friend went through the process to buy a house and give her notice at her ... (164 words)

Good date but no sparks. Should I ask for a second?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 2258 days ago

21 September 2018 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi all, I went on a first date with a girl last night. We met on a dating website. I am unsure what to do next. She was a nice girl and I think the date went well. It was comfortable and conversation flowed. She said at the end that it felt like she’d known me for a long ti... (426 words)

Iv recently found out my wife has had sex with women

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2281 days ago

21 September 2018 (M)

age 51-59 - Hi, found this site accidentally while googling my issue. Ive been with someone 28 years and married 25 years, been together since late teens, thought everything was ok but now I know isnt. Iv recently found out my wife has had sex on more that a few occasions with other ... (199 words)

I'm shy and need help in talking to customers

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2282 days ago

20 September 2018 (F)

age 26-29 - I start a new temporary job in a month , im working in the restaurant hoping for some retail experience too and I'm just wanting some advice on how to talk to the customers as im a shy person , like how to get better at knowing what to talk to about and what topics to talk ... (108 words)

Does him not being able to stay hard with me prove he isn’t attracted to me physically?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2281 days ago

20 September 2018 (F) age 26-29 - I just started seeing this new guy and everything is great. We are able to talk and laugh with each other and just have a good time. He calls me beautiful and sexy and says he likes the way I look. But last night we just tried to have sex for the first time and he wasn’t able ... (281 words)

I'm jealous but am I too cruel or too possessive?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2282 days ago

20 September 2018 (F)

age 22-25 - Hey guys :) It's been awhile since I posted here. I'm here to share about my jealousy when someone flirts with my lesbian partner :) Damn! She's a perfect butch. I love her with all my heart. I treat her like she's the only person in the whole wide world and luckily she did the ... (140 words)

I lost my job living at home and really struggling

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2283 days ago

20 September 2018 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey guys, I really don’t know what to do here. I’m 28, have been in successful career, slowly building up money for house, still living with parents. Recently I lost my job and it has been a month since I have worked. I am living with parents and it is really affectin... (337 words)

I need to talk about what I am feeling but cant burden my family or people at work

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2282 days ago

20 September 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I have a dilemma and I’m starting to feel desperate I’m afraid this may be very long winded :/ but if I don’t tell someone out there how I’m feeling I will implode. First of all I should say that I have been suffering from ptsd for the last year or so after a very abusive ... (765 words)

How do I get the spark back it feels like we have grown apart

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2283 days ago

20 September 2018 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been with my partner for 4 years nearly and I loved him dearly. he's a good man I get on well with all his friends and family but we went through a difficult stage for a few months recently we were arguing and it just seemed like he disagreed with everything I said just to ... (222 words)

Will he come back to his senses .... and me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2283 days ago

20 September 2018 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi So my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. Last year he lost his job and things were not great the fact that he never used to save or invested.I was there for him and supported him in any way I could.Last week he called Me asking how people make money and get ... (197 words)

How do I stop self sabotaging.my relationships?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2283 days ago

19 September 2018 (F)

age 22-25 - Every time I get in a relationship I seem to always panic that I am annoying them or I over think things to must making up problems that aren't there making the situation 10x worse than what it is already. What can I do to try and stop this from happening?... (51 words)