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writes:I'm 30, single male, and at a total loss on how to meet women for dating. I don't have a big social circle (which has been shrinking since my mid 20's) so I don't meet anyone through mutual friends. I live in a small town but commute to work in a big city in SoCal.I'm not into going to the bars/ nightclubs. I would be more interested in going out if more of my friends want to go out (which they don't).Online dating hasn't worked for me (even the pay sites produced no dates). Looks-wise I'd consider myself "average". I would love go on a hiking/cycling/outdoor activity Meetup but am unable to at the moment since I have not yet fully recovered from my leg injury. Reply to this Question
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reader, Trubbling girl +, writes (26 September 2018):
I'm only 17 but I can tell you now is what us girls like the most is you guys being your selves so go out with the guys and find a nice girl that likes you for who you are ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2018): You could also try initiating conversations with people you find attractive in the supermarket, sports/cycle shop, or on your commute. If you can strike up a conversation after a while you could ask if they fancy a coffee. You might get a few rejections but the more people you talk to the better your chances.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2018): Maybe have a look for other meetup groups you could join that don't involve cycling/hiking. Ask your friends to set you up on a blind date with anyone they might know that might be suitable. Consider doing some volunteering. When you use the dating apps do you approach people or wait for them to contact you? You may need to show some interest in them first.
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reader, BE125 +, writes (25 September 2018):
Well I think you’re on the right track by first identifying places that may not be good. Bars and clubs never seem to be a very good idea, and online dating can be dicey. I would suggest something like a church group. In my town, there are also several volunteer opportunities available. Even if you don’t meet someone volunteering, you haven’t wasted your time, you’ve done good for someone. There’s another group called events and adventures that specializes in singles outings to different places. That may be available in your area. I think the 2 keys to the process is patience and perseverance. Good luck
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