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writes:Hey guys, well i've been lying to my boyfriend honestly about having anal, i did it before so many times and now he insist about doing it and im afraid he will notice that im not tight, well is there any type of way that i can save this situation ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2018): I don't condone lying, but its fairly easy to flex a rectum, thus giving the feeling of being extremely tight, compared to a vagina. I mean, think about it, you had to completely relax and avoid flexing all together in order to try it the first few times, right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2018): Unless he's a proctologist; I don't think he's going to know the difference. If you're really messed up down there; maybe you'll have to explain it. I think you should keep it to yourself and just wing-it! Please be sure he always wears a condom! Make sure any guy you have sex with uses a condom! Whether anal or vaginal. Protect yourself!
I recommend that you get a full battery of tests for STD's if you've been sexually-active without condoms. You don't want to be infected, or to infect anyone else.
Don't dismiss the advice we've given you. All you wanted to know is how to lie and hide the truth. You've come to the wrong place for that. Be smart.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (30 September 2018):
 No, there are no "tricks" to undo what you have already done many times.
Honestly? How will he know? Really? Is he an expert on anuses?
Either tell him or don't.
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reader, Leila_soufi +, writes (29 September 2018):
Leila_soufi is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys for your answers, but the point from my question is how can i hide the anal thing, not he insist or not, itd not always about him i mean i'll face thid problem with other guys so the thing is how can i HIDE it, is there any technique or whatever ?
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reader, TallTrees  +, writes (29 September 2018):
I wouldn't lie about it, because lie's always have a way of coming back through the grapevine. Imagine you refusing him this deed and he finds out that you have done the exact same thing multiple times in the past. He will always think he is not as special or as good as the others.
If Anal Sex is something you enjoy and he wants it, then let the good times role....
If you do tell him the truth and he shames you for doing the same thing in the past that he now wants, then that makes him a Hypocrite and you are probably much better off without him.
But Never do something that makes you uncomfortable. If you don't want to do anal, then it's your body so it's your decision.
Good luck!
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (27 September 2018):
 Sweetheart, he can't "insist" on ANYTHING.
If YOU want to have anal sex, then that is fine. However, NEVER EVER let ANYONE do something to you sexually which you do not want or with which you do not feel comfortable.
Do you know what my gut instinct is? That you have got yourself a reputation for allowing guys to have anal sex with you and that your boyfriend KNOWS this.
Either that or you are using anal sex as a way of avoiding pregnancy while allowing guys to have sex with you.
I worry for you. Please be careful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2018): You feel guilty due to the lying. Maybe he's the wrong guy; if you feel you have to lie to avoid being judged.
Do you have anal-sex because YOU like it; or do you feel you have to do anything a boy wants to please him in order to make him your boyfriend? Something about this post is off.
Don't do things that make you feel you have to lie out of shame. If you fear being judged by guys; you must being doing things you really don't want to do. Now you've found a guy you want to respect you.
Maybe in the past you'd do whatever; because you want to be popular; or feel to keep a guy you have to do anything he asks. You're lying, because you like this guy, but you want him to respect you.
Unless you really want it, you can say no. He could judge you for agreeing to it.
Skip the anal-sex with this guy; because you felt compelled to lie to him. Something isn't right.
Tell us more about him and why you feel you should be pure in order not to be judged by him; when it didn't seem to matter with the other guys you've been with. You can talk to us. Explain. What's different about him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2018): Do you WANT to do it? You say he "insists". He can't insist you do anything. If you don't want to do it, don't do it.
Don't make excuses and don't lie any more. If he'll judge you, he's not right for you. If you're ashamed of your past, don't keep doing it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2018): 'Now he insist about doing it' Do you want to do it this is the question, you do have a say in what you do. But take advice given already if you do have anal, plenty of lube and pretend it hurts, also condoms of course. But if you don't want to do it you say no, you are an equal not his sex toy!!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 September 2018):
Is anal something you WANT to do? Or not?
IF you want to do it with him, either BE honest.... or just do it.
Just like not all vaginas are the same size, I'd presume butts are a little like that too. Except, with the anus you can stretch the sphincter and (unlike the vagina) it doesn't retract fully to normal.
Why are you lying to your BF?
If you are worried he might judge you, then he is the right guy for you?
You obviously had no issues doing anal with others, so why the lies?
And I hope you use condoms EVERY time. You can get JUST as many STD's from anal sex as you can from regular sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2018): Play dumb? Insist you never had anal sex. And never waiver on that fact. Say you have no idea why it goes in so easy. Maybe your anatomy is different? Or just act like it hurts or you're afraid when he tries to go in. And definitely use lubrication because if you do, you can use the excuse that it must go in easily because of the lube.
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