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writes:In February I was talking to this guy and he was newly single at the time. I knew his ex but she wasn’t a friend I just knew of her. And because we live in such a small town we kept it a secret because everyone knows everyone so literally not one person knows about us. We slept together once in April and that was all. We stopped talking in about May ish just because He was being an idiot and I found out later that He got back with his girlfriend in June. Baring in mind they have a child together and now they are a happy family again they have been on holiday together. The past few days I have been talking to one of his close friends and his friend put it in the group chat which guy number one is also in. So this guy has messaged me going mad saying I shouldn’t be talking to his mate. But I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong. No one knows about us, he binned me off for his girlfriend so what’s the problem? Am I in the wrong or not?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2018): Thank you everyone!! I have blocked him off all social media and will carry on to date this new guy who his a million times nicer ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2018): Thank you everyone!! I have blocked him off all social media and will carry on to date this new guy who his a million times nicer ??
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (26 September 2018):
 Honestly?
NO ONE can tell you whom you can talk to, hang out with etc. NO ONE.
Now the guy you WERE talking to might not have been totally honest with you, he might have STILL been with his "ex" or still talking to his ex, while talking to you. Which is why he got back with her. That kind of makes sense. However, that doesn't mean you KNEW or had a crystal ball that told you that. He didn't tell you... because you might have stopped talking to him.
As him telling you who you can talk, to.. tell him to grow up.
It's really NONE of his business WHO you- talk to.. I agree with WiseOwlE that he is worried you might spill the beans. Which leads me back to the conclusion that he probably cheated on his GF with you.
And if this new guy is really nice, TAKE your time getting to know him OUTSIDE of tech/phone, so you know he is single for sure.
Talk to him OUTSIDE of the group chat.
And consider blocking his number that other dude (the one who thinks he can control whom you talk to and who HAS a GF).
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (26 September 2018):
 Of course you haven't done anything wrong in talking to people. He does not own you OR his mates and it is not his call who any of you talk to.
I suspect he is terrified you will let something slip to his mate and his girlfriend will get to hear about your liaison while they were on a break. (Never a good sign when people insist on keeping a relationship secret - lesson for the future.)
I am sure you have no intention of saying anything to any of his mates about your past relationship with this guy but be extra careful.
Perhaps message him back and say something like, "With all due respect, I will talk to who I want. If you are worried about me letting slip anything about our past liaison, I can assure you making trouble for you is the last thing I want and I have absolutely no intention of mentioning anything about it to anyone. Let's both move on with our lives and forget about what happened."
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (26 September 2018):
 You've not done anything wrong. Just be discreet and respectful - as you have done in your previous relationship. Maybe stay out of the group chat for a while.
Take care xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2018): You're free and single. You can speak to whomever you please.
No, you haven't done anything wrong. He's afraid you might mention to his mate you and he hooked-up; and it might get back to his girlfriend. Guilty-conscience on his part.
Talk to whomever you please. You haven't done anything wrong. Just be sure you don't have unprotected-sex; and don't end-up having a kid before you're ready to be a mother.
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