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Archived questions from: November, 2009 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I feel as if I'm not attractive to her any more as she never wants to make love to me...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

30 November 2009 (M) - Dear reader, I've been with my girl for the past 3 years, we've had our share of problems, like every couple must see. But during the last 3 or 4 months she has not been very interested in sexual contact. When I talk to her about it she always says that our relationship isn... (174 words)

Help! How do I let him go...?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5476 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - My boyfriend, "Chris", broke up with me. I honest to God, truly loved Chris. I wanted to be with him forever, but he didn't see it the way I did. I'm heartbroken now, and I don't know what to do. I've told him before how much I liked him, but he always changes the subject. ... (87 words)

Hey guys, I don't want to get my hopes up but... could I be pregnant at last?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm 20 years old and officially late for my period.. I was due on saturday, and am usually very regular. Me and my fiance have been trying for a baby but it hasn't happened in 6 months of trying. I was beginning to assume that he had something wrong with his sperm due to years ... (147 words)

What can he do to make me climax?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend can't make me cum! We're not having intercourse, but we do have oral and he fingers me. I've made him cum dozens of times! It's not hard at all! What he does to me feels amazing and I really like it, but he says that he feels bad for not being able to make me ... (85 words)

I miss my ex so much, but she wont answer my calls

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

30 November 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - I miss my girlfriend so much. My girl friend and I just broke up after about 3 years. I miss her alot it hurts me not to be around her we have broken up before and we have gotten back togther but this time feels diffrent she usally calls and we talk even though we arnet ... (111 words)

I married in haste, and now he has changed for the worse

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5266 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I feel kind of weird writing this but I have no one else to talk to and I seriously don't know what else to do. I am 20 years old and just got married Oct. 9th at a courthouse to the guy I was in AIT training all summer with (for the army.) He is active duty and I am not. ... (1135 words)

My friends all went to Malawi but I am home alone

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Ive been feeling so so down recently! I guess my self confidence was absolutly crushed when i was turned down from a school malawi project - a project were 25 people head to malawi and help renovate a school or building etc and basically make a huge change in so many peoples ... (311 words)

I( want a baby but my boyfriend wants to wait

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5059 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - hey,im 17 iv been with my boyfriend for a year now and we live together and everything, its going great ...but for years iv wanted a baby..but dont no if i should try for one ..i want to but he wants to wait a while..he doesnt understand everything will be fine..he wants one to ... (116 words)

He wanted to date me, I said no, now I want to say yes he is saying no

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5499 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - im starting to feel quite depressed the boy i like told me he likes me too but it 'isnt the right time for a relationship' he used to try to go ou with me all the time but i didnt want to then and now ive realised i do like him after all. its horrible knowing he doesnt want a ... (69 words)

Torn between two lovers, who do I chose

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5499 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Do you love with the one you're with or wait for the one you love? Man 1: I've been dating a guy for 3 years. I love him more than anyone I've ever known before. Whenever I see him, I know I want to spend the rest of my life with him, even after three years together. Right ... (476 words)

I am worried I may have miscarried

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - OK, so heres my thing, I am/was a few weeks pregnant. The thing is, today when I went to the RR I had some very thick, stringy discharge that was clear, very stretchy, it didnt break at all. And it had a little blood in it. I'm worried I may have miscarried early? Please if ... (86 words)

Should I tell my mum and dad I'm gay?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5485 days ago

30 November 2009 (M)

age 26-29 - I'm gay what's the problem with it? I want to tell my mum and dad but I know they will freak out, my parents are really homophobic, that's why the only people I let know I'm gay are the guys I date, none of my friends know because I know it will end up on facebook and my ... (144 words)

Is this something that happens with military men?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend and I broke up due to his stress level and the upcoming tour in Afganastain. He said that he loves me unconditionally but doens't know if he is coming back, he is scared and that I should live my life and move on. He told me to gog away and I couldn't wait my whole ... (147 words)

I can't resist my cousin, is she leading me on?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5482 days ago

30 November 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone,sorry, its a big question. So, i am 20.everyone say um handsome and all that. But i am single all the way,something happens when i am around girls i am interested in and i feel nervous.cant talk,cant flirt etc.ok, so In short my problem is, i asked out some one ... (271 words)

If a woman asks a man for some space is that wrong?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - I am a female who is 38 yrs old. I had recently been in a relationship with a 32 yr old man. We have only been together for a little over a month and told him I needed some space but my intension was not to completely break off the relationship, on the contrary I just need to ... (167 words)

What do girls like the most...???

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

30 November 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - I dont mean to sound unromantic about it but i want to know the best way to pleasure a girl, I want to take my girlfriend on a date to her favorite restaurant and then have some fun afterwards on like our aniversary and i want to know what girls like the most... and i do mean ... (59 words)

He stopped all contact with me. Why could he not at least have told me where it all went wrong?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - I'm 44 and divorced for 5 years. While on vacation in Florida (I live in New York) I met this guy on the first day there and we spent the rest of my vacation together. It was great, we instantly hit if off, we had so much in common, we talked about everything, he told me how ... (362 words)

Help! I am in love with my best friend's sister but I don't know how to tell her.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

30 November 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - I am in love with my best friend's sister but I don't know how to tell her. Any ideas?... (20 words)

I know she loves me and this is just mind games she's playing. How do I win her back?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5499 days ago

30 November 2009 (M)

age 51-59 - Never wrote like this before so here goes. I left my wife 3 years ago, I still loved her but the relationship was one sided, I left to see if she cared, as it turned out she did not want me back, leaving her and four kids. So to cut a long story short, I started to move on ... (504 words)

Boyfriend of 5 years foresees our relationship ending in a year

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5350 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - My bf and I have been together for 5 years, since he was 19 and I was 20. We've lived together for approximately 3.5 of those years. 6 months ago, when our previous lease was about to expire, he said he wanted to move out on his own. I was shocked and we had arguments about ... (682 words)

How do I ask her if she's bi or straight?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey. I'm bi, and I'm in year 12 at school. At school, there is this girl i fancy in year 13. I'm really attracted to her, and I can't stop thinking about her. I want to be with her. I don't know about her sexuality, I just know that she's quite boyish. I don't know what to do. ... (147 words)

Why??? What have I done wrong?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5496 days ago

30 November 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey, I met this girl on a school trip to china. we spent a week there and everyone got really close. When we got back she text me a lot, i invited her out to the cinema with some friends and we both had a really good time. I'm pretty sure she likes me too, but then she suddenly ... (140 words)

Will he ask me out or not...?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - few months ago i met this guy, well I have to admit that I liked him since the first moment I saw him but i really didn't think that anything could happen between us since he's sooooo shy and serious. with time he started paying more attention to me and giving me flirtious ... (445 words)

Am I being emotionally used?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

30 November 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - One of my best friends is a girl who I have really, really come to like. We spend a lot of time together. Often times I think we spend more time together than her and her boyfriend. And therein lies my problem. I'll admit, it's a common one so I'll refrain from asking the ... (186 words)

I need your help! How can I get my boyfriend to stop having sex with me until we are married?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5484 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and almost 2 months. In the beginning we completely fell in love with each other and had so much fun together. We first had sex together about 2 and a half weeks after we had started dating. We now live together in an ... (229 words)

How can we solve his erectile problem?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

30 November 2009 (F) age - So everyday, I think about leaving my husband. He is totally cold with me, and distant. we sleep in the same bed, but he doesn't touch me. He says he loves me and he will always stay with me. He has erection problems also, and he does not know why. But the doctor says he does ... (237 words)

Our long distance relationship just isn't working...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my boo are in a LDR. I was prepared to split up as the distance is so big, he was really keen about keeping it going. My compromise was to talk every day, be it phone, skype, msn, letter you name it. This didn't happen. He started making excuses, like after being on... (144 words)

How do I overcome this and learn to feel better about myself?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - like 5 months ago a guy i reallllly like sat their after we came from a party where i got really drunk! he sat in his house with his friends and told them how he thinks im boring.. this still hurts my feelings up till this day. i dont know if because he said it to his friends ... (289 words)

Am I too well endowed at 14?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

30 November 2009 (M)

age 26-29 - I'm 14 and my penis is 10 inches long and about 6.5 inches around when hard. Is this too big for sex? One of my friends saw it and said it was too big to have sex. Will it get any bigger?... (42 words)

I'm going with a "man-child!"

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5499 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend Jonah and I , have been together for a little over a year. We've had our ups and downs, but I love him very much, and he says he loves me too. He's a kind man, and very much like a child. This boyish part of him was what I fell in love with, he was so simple, ... (264 words)

I want to end it with him but I don't know how!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5499 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been with my man for around 2 years, and its got to the stage where i've been mulling in my head for months that i want it to end. I truly do, i know this and i know it would make me so much happier if i could. But i can't! He lives near Southampton and I live in Wales. W... (218 words)

How can I get noticed more?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5499 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - ok here goes im 14 now and so far my best friend has gotten soooo much attention off the boys in our year its unbeleivable but some times i feel left out because none of them even notice me, its not like i dont get attention at because on my way home boys are always looking an ... (80 words)

Why do boys always mess me around?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5494 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - The other night one of my friends said something that really made me think. He said; 'Oh Jess, why do guys always mess you about? :(' Which made me think, why do they?! All my last relationships have ended badly. And I dont know what im doing wrong. At the beginning they ar... (221 words)

Text messaging problem

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

30 November 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Recently I discovered that my gf of 9 months had texted one of my really good friends at a party (she had been drinking) and the day after without telling me. I found a peace of paper that she had written this on (i think it was part of her journal) and i didnt know what it was ... (132 words)

My girlfriend won't open up or relinquish some control!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

30 November 2009 (?) age 41-50 - I am in a 10 month relationship with my girlfriend. We have been living together for 4 months now. My problem is that ever since things have been slowly going downhill. She is a control/clean(ing) freak, she never wants to visit with people or do anything that doesn’t involve ... (323 words)

HELP!! I'm headed for a breakdown!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5498 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - right, here goes... i don't know what to do with myself. in theory my life is good, i'm at college, got a decent relationship with my mum, got an absolutely amazing guy who would do anything for me and has asked me to marry him. but underneath it all things ain't so rosy and... (339 words)

Thoughts on rebounding...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5498 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I have a general question about this rebounding phenomenon. I've never done it myself, as I give myself time to heal. I may get physical with someone, but I'd never dive into a new relationship, because it doesn't feel right to me if my heart isn't in it. So when someon... (155 words)

I've tried everything too make her fall iin love with me again... help?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5496 days ago

30 November 2009 (M)

age 51-59 - I have been married for 9yrs and we have been together for 14yrs. We have a 12yr old son beautiful home. Gave her everything surprises, gifts, parties, vacations. We were head over hills about each other, but we also had financial problems at times. But in the beginning of ... (269 words)

I need my mind to be put at rest as I'm really worried...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - hi. im a bit confused... i started bleeding really lightly it started off brown and ended a pink colour, the bleeding only lasted for 2-3 days on/off...im confused because it was ten days early as well, i usually bleed heavily and it lasts for 5-6 days (my normal period).... (172 words)

He's either sleeping or at work, how do I make him see how neglected I feel?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm a military wife, I met my husband in highschool and we've been married for 3 years now. He's working a lot more now so most of the time its just my almost 3 year old daughter and I. The continuous work used to bother me, now I don't care. Part of the reason is because he ... (349 words)

We kiss but she says we can't date, I don't know why?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5498 days ago

30 November 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - There is this girl.She is older than me and I think we like each other because we eat together,study together,play together and it has even gone to the extent of kissing and romancing.The problem is that she say we cant date and i dont know why.I have fallen in luv with this ... (66 words)

How do I get "free" again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5494 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - hello, I have a problem, I used to be an exellent student I didn't repeat any class and everybody was respecting me and I was always the hard working girl, but in the beginning of my adolescence something changed inside of me, my parents and my sister became like strangers to ... (132 words)

I don't know what's wrong with me. I only like guys with blond hair.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - ok here goes, for some reason i think i like guys if they have blonde hair i know that sounds really picky and i think thats y i didnt go out with a boy hu was just like me (personality wise) i mean the guy im in love with the heaven an bak and have been is, my best friend hu i ... (110 words)

How do I tell my boyfriend my friend is coming to see me (us) in a few weeks time?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5480 days ago

30 November 2009 (?) age 30-35 - Hi, I moved to London with my boyfriend earlier this year, everything is great, i just miss my friends! my best friend in the whole world is coming to london in December to visit her family and me too and she has assumed we will do something together for new years eve... The... (211 words)

Super cautious NOT to get pregnant...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My bf and I just had sex for the second time and he made sure the condom was on, every 5 minutes, and when he was about to ejaculate we took it off then i did oral sex on him, when we were done i checked if the condomwas leaking or anything and there wasnt any moisture outside ... (81 words)

Where are the best places to meet guys who want a relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi... I have been on this site for a couple months i think, used it before and have given advice. I just want to ask where are the best places to meet guys who want a relationship? I'm 28, with an Asian background and rarely meet guys, and dont get approached much coz Im ... (86 words)

14 and want a baby...

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5255 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - Im 14 and i really want a baby. i know this sounds stupid at my age but its all i think about. i havent had a good education at school so far but i think if i have a baby it will be great. just somebody to love to be there for to give it a cuddle when it crys will just be ... (103 words)

I love him so much but I want to hate him.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5102 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I love him so much but I want to hate him. What shall i do to oppose my emotions towards him?! please help!... (23 words)

My boyfriend and brother don't get along... how can I change this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5499 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend and my brother don't get on, I'm not sure why but apparently there were some messages sent between the two of them but neither of them are willing to say what they were about. My brother and I always fight after my boyfriend visits and he is very hard to talk to, I ... (116 words)

Am I right to feel distant towards him for the way he treated me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

30 November 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend of almost two years came with me to visit my mother and brothers for Thanksgiving. The first 3 days were great, he was sweet, he did not accuse me of anything or call me bad names. Then on the third night, he needed cash at an ATM so I drove him to one. We ... (651 words)