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writes:The other night one of my friends said something that really made me think. He said;'Oh Jess, why do guys always mess you about? :('Which made me think, why do they?!All my last relationships have ended badly. And I dont know what im doing wrong. At the beginning they are begging for a relationship, but im always one to take things slow, and as I get to know them and get closer we always end up in a friends with benifits situation (no sex obviously) and they never seem to want a relationship, yet they continue seeing me and in theory leading me on!I dont understand what I do wrong.. Im nice to guys, I dont put out immediatly, I consider them in everything I do, but on the other hand I think they should make and effort if they want me (and they do) and by that I mean arrangeing dates, gifts, keep contact and stuff like that. And all that happens but when a couple of months have passed and your still not in a relationship what do I do? Usually I just move on... but this current guy I feel I have a real connection with and for once in my life I dont want to have to walk away...
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reader, Sweety Pie +, writes (5 December 2009):
Sweety Pie is verified as being by the original poster of the question But.. im nice to them deffinatly not verbally abusive!
I have only had sex with one guy, and that was a guy I was with for a year, before all this mishap happened with other guys, which is why I also believe I know what a relationship entails...
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reader, tjazzy  +, writes (1 December 2009):
Think really deep, you may be sending out some negative signals. Also you may be giving them sex too early, finally you may not really know what a relationship entails. I have cousin who is actually nasty and verbally abusive towards her dates, they all cut and run eventually and then she comes around asking us why her relationships don't last. Ask yourself what you're doing wrong, I'm sure you'll find out.
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