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writes:I am a female who is 38 yrs old. I had recently been in a relationship with a 32 yr old man. We have only been together for a little over a month and told him I needed some space but my intension was not to completely break off the relationship, on the contrary I just need to see him in a more easy, non rushing way in order for me to be able to give him the attention he needs. He took it the wrong way and now does not want to be with me, not even as friends although I have explained to him why. Why do I need space? because he needs constant emotional reassurrance and if I don't give it to him he starts to question me and if I don't have the right answer I feel that he feels bad and therefore I shut down on him. I want to express my feelings w/o being quastioned all the time. Is that wrong? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2009): Hi. I dont think youre wrong to want some space. He sounds very immature and needy. Trust me some men are like that, i guess you havent met many like him before (lucky you) hence youre question.
Your need for some space is fine. His need for constant reassurance and security wont be fine after youve been dating him a while, it will be driving you potty! He has a problem. Be glad you are free of him, that type are exhausting and usually totally selfish so dont be tempted to feel bad and try to make ammends, thats how they reel you in! They meet nice people and play on their feelings, manipulate them. Please dont fall for it. Chalk this one up to experience and when you meet another like him, run! All the best
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (30 November 2009):
 no, it is not wrong, he should understand.good luckxx
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