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30-35,
*harli-x
writes:Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months and things were great, but we have recently started arguing all the time because of his past. I know it was before he met me but I cant get over it. His ex had an abortion which I'm extremely against, he slept around, he did drugs, cheated and just was not like he seems now. I love him so much but I can't get these things out of my head, he said he has changed and is disgusted with the things which he had done, but I worry he will go back to doing that. Am I paranoid or being silly. Or should I end it? Please help. x
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reader, Victoria Aubrey +, writes (22 November 2008):
 Wow. Ok there is nothing YOU can do about HIS past. Live in the present and plan for the future. Does he love you and treat you right? We all make mistakes. If he says he has learned from his mistakes you have to believe him. Trust is the most important thing to a man. They have to feel trusted. We have to feel loved. Do you feel loved?
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reader, superbunny +, writes (22 November 2008):
 To be honest, I think you've just got to "test the water" so to speak. If you believe he's changed you've got to go on your instincts. It's unfair to bring up in an argument something that someone did before you even knew them or were associated with them. You will just have to accept that he is not like anymore and you can't throw it at him.
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