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writes:me n me bf been going out for 5 months now. he hardly tlks to me and when he does tlk to me its usually about sex or me leaving him. I dnt wnt us to split up because I love this guy. He always ust to tell me he loves me but now he dunt he dunt hardly meet me n he dunt hardly let me ring him. He ust to want me to ring him everyday and meet him three times a week. Now i ent seen him in nerly a month. I asked him if he loves me n he just sed hell yeah but then he stopped talking to me. Recently I have met this lad with my mate and we had a few drinks and I ended up giving him a quick kiss on the lips. It wont like a snog or anything but I feel ashamed of it. I have not told him because I don't want to upset him or anything. I love him like my life but he has been acting strange! I don't know what to do please help. :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have asked him plenty of times why he does not tlk to me and all he says is dont know. I did not mean to kiss the lad and I most deffinatly did not feel anything for him!
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (2 February 2009):
 If you want to be with a lad that shows no interest in you stay with him. If there are guys out there that are nice and show a genuine interest, get rid of your boyfriend and enjoy the company of a nice guy. You are still young and only live once, enjoy it while you can and don't feel pressured to stay in a relationship with a guy that doesn't make you happy.Good luck
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reader, momo4eva77  +, writes (2 February 2009):
jus cuz u kissed another guy duznt meen u feel sumthin for him. maybe it waz jus a goodnight kiss or a kiss by mistake nd nvr meant to happen. u shudnt feel ashamed or bad bout it cuz it duznt matter. nd bout ur current bf u shud talk to him or say u dont feel comfortable(lie) but dont rely mean see wat he says or tell him the truth nd try to seduce him so he wants to be wit u more. but thats wat i think go wit ur instinct. good luck!!!!!!! :)
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reader, Emajayne  +, writes (2 February 2009):
 Have u come out and asked him "hey whats ur beef?" cause from the sounds of it he has a definite problem that needs to be sorted out. When it comes to relationships communication and honesty are probably the most important aspects of it. Without those key ingredients u have nothing. Or if u do it wont last very long at all. Just ask him what is wrong and if he doesn't tell u and continues to act distant chuck him. he's not worth the agony.
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reader, superbunny +, writes (2 February 2009):
 I'm only 3-5 years older than your goodself, sweetie, but one thing you have to learn quickly is that you can't let guys mess you around.
I know lovely, gorgeous girls who chase around guys who are not even half their standard.
He should treat you like a princess if he's worth it. I know it's easier said than done but I just think that us girls sometimes take a little bit too much from people we think we're in love with. (Not all guys are idiots, obviously!) You've gotta search a little harder for the nice ones.
I'm sure this guy is lovely, but maybe it's time to move on if all he wants to talk about sex? From talking about you leaving him, it seems like he wants to push you away...
I hope this helps xx
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