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writes:the story is....i was with my ex for 7months, i was and still am head over heels for him, we are still good friends and i get on with the family really well. i was fine with the fact that we arnt togeather anymore, but a new girl has come on the scene, someone he works with she is a little bit older than him by months (im 17 hes 19) and i no that he likes her and i feel rejected, like its my fault we ended i wasnt good enough i no they say "time is a healer" but he was my first love and even after he cheated on me i still couldnt see a bad side to him.....still cant. i no spending less time togeather will help but when he asks to c me coz hes upset or whatever i cant say no! any advice is helpfull, thank-u in advance!!bich x x x
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reader, superbunny +, writes (2 February 2009):
 Sweetie, you're just gonna have to grit your teeth and see this through - he's moved on and so should you. Admittedly, he shouldn't run to you when everything goes wrong, it's wrong of him to do this but only you can tell him no.
Anyway, do you really want to be with someone who disrespects you enough to cheat on you? There are thousands of good guys out there, don't settle for any second rate ones.
Hope this helps. (:
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reader, Bobbyjo +, writes (2 February 2009):
 You were only fine with fact you werent together anymore because subconciously you believed you would get back together. Now some new girl is on the scene you feel that your chance of getting back with him has gone. Its such a cliche but its so true - you always want what you cant have. Think about it, if this new girl wasnt on the scene would you really be bothered about him?
If your answer is yes and you feel that you really love him then the only advice I can offer you, and I know you dont wanna hear it, is that time is the best healer. I know that this has been told to people in your situation many times, but believe me, its because its so true!!
Now what you need to do is give yourself that time to heal. Keep away from him, if he calls you wanting to meet then tell him no. (and if hes calling you because hes upset about this new girl then dont even bother with him cos that is just wrong!!) If he asks why you are keeping your distance explain to him that although you still care about him you are finding incredibly hard to move on when being around him. You say that you cant say no to him. Im afraid that unless you want to stop feeling this pain then you HAVE to say no. You have to put yourself first.
You say he's your first love, and I know exactly how much it hurts. Dont have any regrets, dont tell it was your fault that you split cos it wasnt, just look back and think to yourself that even though you loved him and had good times, it has come to an end now and its time to move on.
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