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writes:I am a muslim girl and 15 years old. This might sound stupid, but please read the whole story. 2 years ago I met this boy. I never liked anypne before, and wasn't very intrested in having a boyfriend but he was different. I started liking him and he like me too. Both of us have never been with anyone, and every girl I know that knows him says he really is different.About a few months after declaring our love I realised what I was geting into. Soon he would ask me out. I didn't want this to happen, coz that would mean going behind my parent's back so I explained to him and he understood. It had been 2 years and I still love him and he still loves me. He hasn't been intrested in anyone else. Now I don't know what to do? I thought I would get over it but we didn't. Friends tell me to go for it, coz I won't find someone like him again but I can't do that to my parents.. Any advice or tips on what to do?Thanks..
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe has now got a girl friend. He was trying to get over me. He doesn't like her much and still has some feelings for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): the anonymous male reader is absolutely correct i think. I know its been 2years but if you continue to be friends in the future when your older you can worry about relationships. Look at the world today, relationships are hardly successful at a young age. Not many people lead onto gettin married from a relationship from teenage years. Anyway becoming more than friends leads onto physical stuff sooner or later and i think thats best avoided, look at people these days with all this teenage pregnancy issues. He sounds like a great understanding guy, a good friend! :) all the best
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reader, RawrrJoJoBabii  +, writes (23 November 2008):
 Okay.. I Understand religons are very different. If you pass him up you might regret that decision. Religions shouldn't control like that. And, it would be best if you talked to your parents about it. Prefferably your mother first because she may understand how you feel or have felt it at her age before. So, that would be best for you. And, if he really loves you he shouldn't mind doing this to be with you. Even if you two go out this doesn't mean that there needs to be anything physical its basically another step into the declaration of your love for each other. i Hope This helps and persuades you to go for it and go for him. Because, you might regret it in the long run if you don't try.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): I am a Muslim. I'd suggest having him as a friend, not boyfriend. The difference? No physical relationship. I'm sure you understand my meaning.
As we grow up & gradually find our place in society, our perception of what makes a person nice, changes with time. A seemingly nice person today may not seem so nice tomorrow.
Why rush into a relationship? Why not enjoy just the companionship for now, and wait until you are older (wiser) before you decide on a relationship.
Good luck :)
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reader, superbunny +, writes (22 November 2008):
 Maybe you could talk to your parents about the issue? That's the only way to resolve it.
It's never a good idea to go behind your parents' backs when you still live at home with them - they will find out somehow & mums can read us like books!! :)
xx
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