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writes:I was in a bad car wreck in April i had just broke up with my ex boyfriend about three weeks later. The relationship i was in before was horrible very abusive. I almost died thats how bad the wreck was. Once i was able to see my friends, i met someone. I must tell you i had broken lots of bones. When i met this guy i was wearing a neck brace and using a walker because I had surgery on my hip. He was an angel that was sent to help me through such a difficult time. We developed a close relationship pretty fast... he worked from home which i was stuck at home recovering so we were able to talk a lot through the internet sometimes the phone. He was very interested in me gosh he talked about soul mates everything... to moving to a small town and having a family at some point. He said such things that i could only dream of a man saying. He became my best friend. I ended up having surgery on my neck a month later us still talking. He was by my side the entire time. We talked through my cell while i was in the hospital bed. He even talked with my mom when i was asleep. Painting a picture for this unique relationship. OKAY he is younger than i am... i'm 28 and he's 25. Our relationship seemed to shifted gears when he left town to visit his family/friends( i forgot to mention this was a long distance relationship). He was there a good month or a bit longer... we did not talk that much i kept telling myself that he's just busy with family/friends. I guess i got insecure at some point and left a text just wondering our status trying to open a door for conversation. we had (in a relationship) on a web site and i felt stupid still having that status if we really were not in a relationship. Well, i noticed today that he no longer had a status it was blank... i can tell theres a girl on his page wondering why he was in a relationship... Hello i know what that means.Its hard for me its werid because i only met this guy once but we became so close very fast. We never kissed which was so sweet about how we met never had sex which was exciting too. What the hell happened??? did i say something to make him back away? yes he had a life busy with friends as i recover... which gave me lots of time to think not good i tell you. I left him a msg on that site just mentioning i noticed the status change. I told him that i just wished he would have told me how he felt and that i was not mad maybe a little sad but that he would always be dear to me. He helped me recover you know. My question is what happened???? sorry it took so long to get to that question. Thanks!!!!
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (8 September 2009):
 guy point of view he probably just had a change of heart not regarding his feelings for you but 25 is kinda young to settle down. You should just back off atleast he helped you through those hard times.
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reader, Blanket +, writes (8 September 2009):
He may have been in a relationship but, the relationship was at its worse when he was talking to you. I know you must feel hurt b/c he gave you all the support you needed. You didn't do anything wrong. I would just re-adjust my feelings b/c he is so far away. Maybe you want to guard your feelings when meeting someone to avoid situations such as this. You can't just allow yourself to fall head over heels for a man and not really get to know them.
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reader, superbunny  +, writes (8 September 2009):
 Okay, don't get me wrong I am exceptionally fond of the opposite sex both on a relationship and friendship level - but it is a given that most guys know exactly what to say to have girls eating out of the palm of their hands, especially when the girl is feeling vulnerable. In the case, he came along when you were still being affected after your terrible accident and this meant that you put special emphasis on him and his efforts when in actual fact, any guy who likes/liked you would have done this but as you were feeling sore after both the accident and the abusive relationship you made yourself vulnerable to this guy and it seems you put special emphasis on what he was saying rather than taking it with a pinch of salt as we all should (and often don't) when it is the beginning of a new relationship.
The distance obviously proved too much for him; but the fact that you at no point refer to him as your boyfriend, but merely that you were "in a relationship" on a website makes me question the sincerity of your relationship - and it also sounds like he was calling the shots which was never a good situation to be in.
You are in a very vulnerable situation to men with a history of an abusive relationship, have you had any counselling for it? I'm not saying that's why this reationship broke down - it sounds like he found someone else, not your fault: but, it can help you feel less reliant on people because this guy came along when you were at your most vulnerable.
I hope this helps, sweetie, and perhaps gives you some new ideas?
Best wishes x x x x
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