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writes:I'm seeing this cop and i really like him. i have strong feelings for this cop. he knows that i care about him a lot and he says that he cares and feels the same. we talk to each other every day until he gets off work. is he playing me and just saying he cares but dont really care. we met up once and that was it. I've been trying to see if he wanted to hangout out when hes off or on his days off but the only thing he can say is he's not ready for a relationship. so it really makes me wonder if he has another life and just talking to me to use me when he is at work..
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reader, Serpico +, writes (19 July 2012):
In the first line of your question, you didnt refer to him as "this guy" but as rather "this cop." Before we go further, I have to ask is his being a cop the reason why you are dating him? I have seen this phonomenon frequently in life, esp w woman. For some reason - they start to date "groups" rather than "guys." In high school, some girls will only date athletes. In college, athletes or certain frats. Sometimes musicians. After college, Ive seen Wall St guys and yes, cops. If thats the case, you need to think why you like him outside of him just being a cop. Many of your answers will come from that analysis.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 July 2012):
 if he's telling you he's not ready for a relationship LISTEN TO HIM...
he's just passing the work day with you....
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reader, Angel S  +, writes (19 July 2012):
 Hi,
Well if he claims he is not ready for a relationship maybe he is suggesting that all he is getting out of you is fun. Don't commit yourself to someone with your feelings if they are not prepared to do the same back for you. It's unfair, if you really like him that much tell him your looking for a relationship or at least your looking to start one so you would like to know where you stand. Basically just ask him if you and him are going anywhere or is it just fun... Whatever he answers is what you can make your decision on. Do you want to just have fun with this guy or start something serious?
Xo xo
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