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writes:I've been happily with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now, he's sweet, funny, and cares about me more than anything. I would never do anything to betray or hurt him. But a little while ago, I received an invite by an old friend to hang out. I've known that this boy has had an obsession with me for a while (which he's admitted to) and I was nervous to say yes. He then clarified that he wanted to hang out "as friends" so I said yes. while we were hanging out, he wrapped his arms around me and forcibly kissed me. I was shocked and disgusted. I kicked him and ran away before he could do anything else. I've told my boyfriend what happened, he said that it's not my fault and that he forgives me, but I still feel guilty over what happened. I've been ignoring that boy ever since but every time I get intimate with my boyfriend I think of that situation. How can I get over this and enjoy sex with my boyfriend again? Reply to this Question
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (9 July 2012):
 Unfortunately, this situation is your own fault as you already have a boyfriend and agreed to see another guy who you knew had an obsession with you. You don't agree to see other men for any reason if you have a boyfriend. Along with that, men and women cannot be friends. If you have a male colleague or a male acquaintance, yes, you can have colleagues and acquaintances, but not friends. It never works and you will realize this as you age. You will have to get over this by realizing it was your inexperience that told you to do this and you now know not to do it again.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (9 July 2012):
 Maybe you still feel guilty because your boyfriend so graciously "forgave" you. There's nothing to forgive. If you get hit by a car, do you apologize to the person who drove "Sorry I was in your way. I broke my legs, but you got a small scratch in your car, so I am sooo sorry"???? No you don't, you sue their ass.
Maybe you still feel guilty because your boyfriend is giving you the vibes that tell you he thinks you cheated. You didn't cheat. If you cheated, THEN he could have forgiven you. But as you didn't cheat, what exactly it is he's forgiven??
Ask him that.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (9 July 2012):
There is nothing to "get over." If this transpired just as you say, you didnt do a single thing wrong, and therefore have no need for guilt over anything. You told your bf, which is great, but I wonder what he "forgives" you for, because from what you say you didnt do anything that required forgiveness.
Just chalk it up to a guy being an a-hole and continue to cut off contact with him. A tool like that is not worth a second thought, and def not worth screwing up your current relationship over.
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